Casually Explained: The Friend Zone


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  • Pavo Super
    Pavo Super 45 minutes ago

    Amazing video as always

  • imahelpfulperson

    How to not be friend zoned: say how you feel. Once the girl responds, you make your decision on what to do.
    I had a situation where this girl contacted me out of nowhere; she was my old coworker. I wasn’t really thinking about her, but I did like her. So to get a text from her was pretty cool. So we went to the gym together, and we had a blast.
    Anyways, we were talking every single day, all day. As time went by, I started to like her. I decided to say something, let her know how I felt (I don’t play all that “spitting game” crap. I’m too old for that.) She responded by telling me that she had just got out of a long term relationship and that she wasn’t ready to be in another one at the moment. She said she liked me, but she didn’t want to hurt me because she wasn’t ready for a relationship yet. I respected her response, but I told her that for the sake of my feelings that I have to back off of her. I straight up told her that I’m not trying to be friend zoned. She begged me to stay around; she said she really liked talking to me everyday. She even said that she started to like me, too. However, I couldn’t do it. I check in on her from time-to-time (once a month- maybe), but I don’t talk very long. When we do talk, it’s nothing relationship oriented. I keep it simple. I may joke around with her for a while and keep it pushing. I don’t hate her or anything; she was honest with me. I just don’t have time for my emotions to be played with.
    My point: It’s all about taking control. Friend zoning isn’t forced; it’s allowed. So don’t allow it. Accept it for what it is and move on. Simple as that.
    Remember: friend zoning is when it’s not mutual. Once you come to a mutual understanding. It’s no longer friend zoning; it’s just being a friend. Check in on them here and there; there’s nothing wrong with that. Just don’t do it with any selfish intentions or goal of trying to get with her IN ANY WAY. Do it because you care. Chasing a woman looks so weak. DON’T BLOW UP HER PHONE! Check in every blue moon. Don’t ask about any relationships. Just talk for a bit, make sure she is okay, and leave it at that.
    On the other hand, if she treats you like crap, just leave her alone. Move on COMPLETELY!

  • Andy Black
    Andy Black Day ago

    Be a cunt with money.

  • Shiznuts
    Shiznuts 2 days ago

    1. Be more attractive
    2... be an asshole. Girls love assholes. Not literal ones. Although... some do.

  • weiRd BliNk
    weiRd BliNk 3 days ago

    *fucking slut*

  • My time
    My time 3 days ago

    step 1:be more attractive

    alexa play despacito

  • john martin
    john martin 6 days ago

    I am always friendzoned. I have never had a female friend that i liked in that way without being friendzoned... I, ofcourse failed at the list of things to do to get out of the friend zone. So what do you do when you fail the list and can't become more attractive because you're mentally inept and don't know how.... well there are a few solutions. Stop being friends with girls and when you develop feelings... squash them by blowing up a fault (everyone has one. Can be anything from her foot being. Small to her hair being 1 shade off from whatyou like.) she has that you don't like way out of proportion until you dont like her like that any more(this method can take anywhere from a day to 2 weeks. Experiences may vary.) Or you could just seclude yourself from all possible sources of love. Never look for it because you know looking and failing hurts more than not looking.

  • Ion Dina
    Ion Dina 6 days ago

    :58 that slut

  • lukas wildau
    lukas wildau 7 days ago

    As someone with personal experience I know for a fact that friends with benifits-zone isn’t much better.Sure you may be having sex and all but in the end it becomes so emotionally draining that you wish you were just friends again

  • CancerMelon
    CancerMelon 7 days ago

    Hi Tori Black :)

  • Tipsy Traveler
    Tipsy Traveler 7 days ago

    Is it bad to get relationship advice from casually explained ?

  • stonewall 138777
    stonewall 138777 8 days ago

    Don’t be friends with women. Period. That is about all you can do to avoid it.

  • Holy Cas
    Holy Cas 9 days ago +1


  • Willy Feuchter
    Willy Feuchter 10 days ago

    Lmao "no zone, friend zone, bone zone, ozone^" 😂😂

  • one tome plz
    one tome plz 10 days ago

    I ain’t in any zone I don’t know what the zone is

  • Shae Perkins
    Shae Perkins 10 days ago

    Step 1

  • Roman Figueroa
    Roman Figueroa 12 days ago


  • KaptainBasketball
    KaptainBasketball 12 days ago


  • This Is Mii
    This Is Mii 12 days ago

    2019 anyone?

  • Kaleb Bruwer
    Kaleb Bruwer 13 days ago

    Coping with humor seems to be working so far. I think.

  • DominixxVI
    DominixxVI 13 days ago

    The friends with benefits zone. Nice

  • Melkers Teknikhörna
    Melkers Teknikhörna 16 days ago

    Im number 5

  • Logan Boxy
    Logan Boxy 17 days ago

    The 5 stages ate like Majora's mask

  • Xantron
    Xantron 17 days ago

    she was showing you those pictures cause she thought you were gay. LOL

  • Jannis Höntscher
    Jannis Höntscher 17 days ago

    I don’t even have a female friend

  • Tiacorn !!!
    Tiacorn !!! 18 days ago

    So my best friend is a dude and I love being besties, I go over to his place all the time, I’m in good with his fam (especially his mum and I think with his sister) and I think I might have a crush on him but I don’t really know but I don’t want to ruin what we have and make things all wierd. Any ideas?

  • Tiacorn !!!
    Tiacorn !!! 18 days ago

    Aren’t those the 5 stages of death/ divorce/ DUFF

  • Tialocke
    Tialocke 18 days ago

    Fun fact: The five stages of the friend zone that were mentioned in this video (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) are actually based off the Kübler-Ross model of the five stages of grief, which are the projected emotional states that someone will experience after a personal loss, especially death.

  • Bong Sola
    Bong Sola 19 days ago +1

    oh my god! Aaron james is also my name

  • Always Strive To Self Improve

    Try this one out, don't get too excited and be friends with everyone who you "like", if she likes likes you then it will all turn out progressing step by step......and both are out of that zone!

  • 240pixel
    240pixel 19 days ago +1

    You should never try to escape friend zone. Just move on. Find somebody else. Don't waste your time. Thank me later

    • Beau
      Beau 8 days ago

      Or fuck them a few years later and then stop talking to them

  • John De Luna
    John De Luna 21 day ago

    Most guys that get friend zoned were the ones who chase girls that were out of their league. Was one of them and definitely a hard lesson to learn.

  • - VentKlik -
    - VentKlik - 23 days ago +2

    haha *oops I just broke both of my arms*

  • The Steadfast Duelist
    The Steadfast Duelist 25 days ago +2

    *Can't be in the friendzone if you don't have any friends.*

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    Who is Kool.K ? Radio 25 days ago

    Check my Hot new song "Friend Zone"

  • Derrick Sin
    Derrick Sin 26 days ago

    the broken arm mom reference lol

  • LithuanianBomzpakis
    LithuanianBomzpakis 28 days ago

    Jesus Starbucks Girl....
    My mind: Fucking slut... Jesus

  • JizzyJay
    JizzyJay 29 days ago

    Okay allow me to display my situation. So I met this girl at school one day when I was hanging out with some friends, I knew immediately she wasn’t like most girls because she laughed at my Anne Frank joke which is one of the darkest ones I have , so I knew I had to get her snap and start flirting which is actually a first for me. Anywho, a day or two goes by of me flirting and he flirting back but not as much, and it turns out she’s bi and has a gf. So I said “just because there’s a goalie doesn’t mean you can’t score”, and she said we’ll see. A few days pass of us just talking and flirting a little and one day she messages me after school bc she needed someone to talk to before she went in to get this tattoo, and turns out it was a minute away so she asked if I wanted to come and I did. I sat 3 hours through her tattoo with her. Anywho a week passes, she and her gf fight bc her gf read her messages with me, one thing lead to another, and they broke up(I was the least of the reasons why but that’s too much info). Now obviously the next couple days she was extra flirty and touchy and shit bc she wanted attention after the breakup. So I waited a while to ask her if she liked me and would consider getting to know each other better and see where things go(note I made it clear I was not asking her out at that moment), she said she wasn’t ready for a relationship etc etc.. basically a rejection. But next day she says she wants to give it till the end of the month to decide (2 weeks away), which I knew it would take longer of course, and honestly I preferred that it did bc I don’t want to rush into something and ruin it. Anywho I let like another month go by, keep in mind we’re hanging out nearly every day l, sometimes with friends but progressively each week it grew into just us 98% of the time. we went out to eat together, went to movies.. oh shit wait!! I forgot, the end of the month thing was aligned with Halloween, and we ended up going as like a basically couples thing where we were both sexy cops. Okay back to it, anywho we were constantly hanging out together blah blah blah. Now, during that whole time, and the rest of the time until now, I want to point out that one thing I noticed is that in person she’s pretty touchy and flirty in that she cuddles up to me sometimes or sometimes comes up when I’m sitting down and wraps her arms around my neck and rests her head on mine for a bit. But despite all this, every time someone goes “oh hey you two are dating now?” She gets really defensive and like shits on my life with the hardest No’s. And we never really have conversation, like actual convos, over text. It’s like in person we’re a couple, but as soon as we’re not physically together, she never seems to want to actually talk. Now another thing, probably about a month ago I asked her again wtf was going on bc I didn’t feel like getting lead on anymore, and she said the same “I’m not ready for a relationship, I wanna focus on this and that and this and that”, which I understand and respect, but sometimes she or her friends slip up and mention someone she’s talking to online, and it’s never like “oh so how are you two doing”, like it never sounds like the online person is someone she’s dating, just someone she’s talking to who might have a little interest in her, but they never say enough to suggest that SHES interested. Now one thing about this girl I should note is that one: apparently like 90% of her past relationships have all been online with people who don’t live close enough for her to see in person, and two: basically all except one or two of the guys she’s dated were no good. So when I talked to her friend she said “yeah don’t be surprised if she acts really weird compared to most girls, she doesn’t exactly know how to deal with relationships/flirting in person, and she probably is pretty hesitant to trust you bc you’re a guy and most of her guy exes weren’t so great”. And like, I’ve fallen in love with this girl so hard, honestly “the fall” as I like to call it, started since the day she got her tattoo when I was sitting there with her for hours watching her go through that pain(not like creepily staring into her soul lmao), which seemed oddly beautiful to me because I knew from day one that she wasn’t your typical girly girl who breaks down over much, especially because she’s always mentioning wrestling with her guy friends in HS and how she won most of the time, and she’s definitely not push over when we hang out and get to like play fighting and shit lol , oh and apparently she’s had i think it was 4 or 5 heart surgeries, so yeah, she’s a very tough girl. So again, seeing her go through that pain which she honestly took like a champ, was beautiful to me because it even though I had only known her for a bit, I knew she was a tough girl and wasn’t one to show her pain, but in this moment she couldn’t hide it. And it was in that moment of seeming vulnerability for her, my heart just wanted to ease the pain for her (obviously I couldn’t in that situation), but every day since I’ve been so captivated with wanting to get to know this girl more, to know as much about her as I possibly could because I wanted to learn about her weaknesses and pains and vulnerabilities so I can do my best to fill in those points with my care and love the best I could bc honestly I’m not perfect. Damn I got sidetracked, but what I was trying to say is part of me wants to be patient, and show this girl that I’m not like other people, and show her that I want to be her best friend as well as her lover(and yes I mean sexually too because goddamn this girl is gorgeous to me and I hella wanna kiss her and hold her and just do everything a boyfriend would do), and that I’m worth the risk. By god I’m not the perfect guy, I don’t have a job or car yet (relax I’m 18 and she’s 19 and I’ve only been outta HS for a semester so I’m working on both of those as we speak), I suck at flirting and being smooth with words and actions, I’m lowkey scared to kiss her bc I’ve only ever had two gf’s and I never exactly got feedback from them on my kissing game, and one it comes to signs and when to make certain moves and when not to, I don’t think I’m the best. In reality all I have to offer is my heart and effort and time, which at this point in my life is all I have to offer anyone. But despite all of this, I still don’t want to get strung along bc part of my fears that she’s pulling the same move my ex did, just stringing me along bc she knows how much I want to be there for her, and using me up for my attention and care, until she no longer needs it (probs bc she got someone), and then tosses me aside like a used napkin. Idk what to do and I don’t know if I can take that much more pain, I’ve been dedicating everything I have my entire life to making sure those around me are happy and cared for, and 90% of the time I get used up. And I don’t know if can take it from this girl, I mean, she’s literally like a best friend to me in that the comfort I feel I’m being myself around her is through the roof, and Ik it’s somewhat the same for her because we’ve been hanging out before and got into some dumbass shenanigans and I remember saying one time”wow and y’all joke about not being able to take ME anywhere look at her Rn” and her friend was like “honestly idk she never acts like this”. And to most that doesn’t mean much but to me it showed me that I was getting this girl to have fun and act in ways she apparently didn’t even act with her friend of like 4 or 5 years (also bi, and a dude). God damnit I got sidetracked again, I’m sorry y’all but if you’ve made it this far I apologize for the unorganized ass roller coaster of a story I took you on there. In summary I’m in love with this girl and I’m not too clear on how she feels about me, but even though I wanna show my myself to her by sticking through this until hopefully we end up together, I also don’t want to get used and idk what to do. Anywho that’s my TedTalk thanks for coming

  • Aaron Johnson
    Aaron Johnson Month ago

    My name is Aaron James so basically she's into me guys.

  • dilophosaurus sk
    dilophosaurus sk Month ago +1

    to be in a friendzone you have to have friends

  • J. Vergreen
    J. Vergreen Month ago

    i actually just jumped straight to the acceptance. once.

  • Realegendz
    Realegendz Month ago

    One time this girl I liked for a while broke up with her boyfriend. She punched me in the arm and said "ooh swole daddy" Asked her and and she laughed and told me who she liked, one of my friends. I quit the job all 3 of us worked at the next day.

  • TheFriendzoneGuy
    TheFriendzoneGuy Month ago

    I don‘t think I‘m in tg Friend Zone...

  • Hannah Grace
    Hannah Grace Month ago

    What. Is. A. Friend. Zone.

  • William Rosa
    William Rosa Month ago

    what you have to lose?

  • Bre Klein
    Bre Klein Month ago

    LMAO XD I"m LITERALLY crying from laughter

  • Caíque Marlon
    Caíque Marlon Month ago

    It doesn't exist

  • Radical Moose Limb
    Radical Moose Limb Month ago

    Refer to Pink Guy's song for an honest explanation.

  • JF
    JF Month ago

    0:47 hmm is that Tori Black?

  • Hash
    Hash Month ago

    Solution: Just don't attract yourself to girls jajaj

  • As Ted Sees It
    As Ted Sees It Month ago

    Dudeee funny vids man!

  • Mr Temporal
    Mr Temporal Month ago

    How do you get into the friends with benefits zone?

  • Lucas Silva
    Lucas Silva Month ago

    Fucking slut

  • Alexander
    Alexander Month ago +1

    Fucking Steve cook @ 1:35 😂😂😂😂

  • Nathaniel
    Nathaniel Month ago

    I’m stuck here rn

  • João Santos
    João Santos Month ago

    How the hell am I supposed to be more attractive being a solid 3, do I need plastic surgery or some shit

  • Casper Amour
    Casper Amour Month ago

    Casually Explained: introvert

  • Ojus Tuli
    Ojus Tuli Month ago

    *Step 1* : Have truckloads of money.

  • Adam Smith
    Adam Smith Month ago

    Step two make more money

  • Alej M
    Alej M Month ago

    hahaha stages of death😂

  • fer262
    fer262 Month ago

    0:30 literally, don’t do that


    Be more attractive
    I’m fucked I’m like a 3-4

  • M. Swaiti666
    M. Swaiti666 Month ago

    There's no such thing as the friendzone.
    The only reason that you're lonely is that you're fat and gay.
    ~ *Pink Guy*

  • Gregimus Castle
    Gregimus Castle Month ago

    Just slap the shit out of her

  • ididnothingmonkey
    ididnothingmonkey Month ago


  • Belen Rodriguez
    Belen Rodriguez Month ago

    The friendzone doesn’t exist. Imagine always being put in the i want to have sex with you zone 🙄
    I have 0 friends because of this

  • LegendaryStatus5
    LegendaryStatus5 Month ago

    What about the ignored zone lmao. Friendzone is better than her completely erasing you from her life.

  • endermadness 64
    endermadness 64 Month ago

    I got bro zoned😭

  • Andrey
    Andrey Month ago +3

    jokes on you, i dont have any friends

  • niggward
    niggward Month ago

    im having problems in the step -1, i cant even talk to girls

  • Benyamin Taherpoor
    Benyamin Taherpoor Month ago

    something something broke my arms 0:22

  • Birdguy Johnson
    Birdguy Johnson Month ago

    When in doubt ask the girl out. I think I'll do that.

  • Jordan Smith
    Jordan Smith Month ago

    clever content: 5 stages of Friendzone = 5 stages of Grief

  • James Haverstock
    James Haverstock Month ago

    You simply explained my life

  • Burak Orman
    Burak Orman 2 months ago

    Next time she says brother interrupt her and say i don't see you in that way you are not a sister to me i like you so, don't call me that. Even if the situation gets awkward at least you have shown your interest. If you do this by looking into her eyes that's going to be more powerful. Just say that and move on. You may keep your friendship if both parties are agreed to keep it.

  • FirstDragonSlayer
    FirstDragonSlayer 2 months ago

    Dear god the broken arms joke

  • David Dinh
    David Dinh 2 months ago +3

    “Haha, no thanks you’re more like a mom tbh”
    “Haha oops I just broke both my arms haha”
    oh *_no_*

  • Just a normal Cat
    Just a normal Cat 2 months ago

    Found this vid because the one who put me in the friendzone mentioned me on this vid on fb...

  • Papp Sebastian Georgian

    Have a lot more money and become very attractive to women out there haha

  • ironmonster27
    ironmonster27 2 months ago

    That broke both of my arms joke 😂

  • Drew Smith
    Drew Smith 2 months ago

    Step 1: Be more attractive
    *If step one does not work, go to Step 2*
    Step 2: Kill yourself

    • Just a normal Cat
      Just a normal Cat 2 months ago

      Drew Smith worked for me but somehow we broke up and now im not even in the friendzone anymore:(

  • Umbreon 197
    Umbreon 197 2 months ago

    Went straight from the friend zone to the no zone. That's kinda getting out of the friend zone.

    FRISHR 2 months ago

    Lol you copied the 5 Stages of Grief.

  • Wes Lou
    Wes Lou 2 months ago

    I friendzone all these bitches cause I wont lose my virginity cause I never lose

  • Josh Shannon
    Josh Shannon 2 months ago

    Fucking slut.. I’m so dead 😂

  • mmyesss ss
    mmyesss ss 2 months ago

    B-b-b-bone zooooone

  • Neuvation
    Neuvation 2 months ago

    Is his name actually James?

  • Dead Inside
    Dead Inside 2 months ago

    People talk about the friend zone as if it only happens to guys but I’m a girl and I’m pretty sure my guy friend has completely friend zoned me... sad life

  • George Leggott
    George Leggott 2 months ago

    Lol those are the 5 stages of grieving

  • PyroGamer #480
    PyroGamer #480 2 months ago

    1:50 yeah ummm... that's not going to work...

  • Holly
    Holly 2 months ago

    Marshmello and Anne marie

  • jacob roeschli
    jacob roeschli 2 months ago

    I love that reddit reference.

  • Duckasourus
    Duckasourus 2 months ago

    My name's Aaron....

  • spottedstar1123
    spottedstar1123 2 months ago


  • Treehouse Trapstar
    Treehouse Trapstar 2 months ago

    This man really put Tori Black in the vid😂😂😂

  • Dark Dragonboy
    Dark Dragonboy 2 months ago

    How do you not wink both eyes at the same time if that's blinking?

  • Iman Lazar
    Iman Lazar 2 months ago

    Fuck love being single is better

  • 34RTH 013
    34RTH 013 3 months ago

    How to get out from the friend zone
    1 buy a ring
    2 say"will you marry me"

  • Jocose Sonata
    Jocose Sonata 3 months ago

    You can't be friendzoned, if you don't have any friends.

  • Jaime Lopez
    Jaime Lopez 3 months ago

    Lmaooooo too funny, poor simps