Are Intelligent People More Lonely?

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  • The School of Life
    The School of Life  2 months ago +223

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    • Duan Torruellas
      Duan Torruellas 5 days ago

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    • Theguy2295
      Theguy2295 21 day ago +1

      You can be intelligent as you want to be, but you still can have a shit life.

    • cmonalready66
      cmonalready66 Month ago

      what are the sources used in this video? you list nothing on where to find more information on this topic..

    • Randy Reisig
      Randy Reisig 2 months ago


    • Randy Reisig
      Randy Reisig 2 months ago

      As much as I agree with what you people say here... its all common sense... so wtf. its like pointing at the ground and saying what it i

  • Jazzon
    Jazzon 3 hours ago

    Comments for this video should be disabled.

  • ASMR Creep
    ASMR Creep 12 hours ago

    so boring

  • Oscar Sanchez
    Oscar Sanchez 16 hours ago

    Explains why INTJ's are always alone.

  • KafkaDecaf
    KafkaDecaf 19 hours ago

    They get it.

  • anurag rao
    anurag rao Day ago

    I need someone next to me always

  • MySpartaneousLife
    MySpartaneousLife Day ago +1

    Everybody is alone really. Don't be ashamed about it but own it instead. Only society teaches us that it is wrong to be lonely or alone, they want us ONLY in a certain way, THEIR way....but don't be fooled by that. My channel is completely dedicated to people who feel lonely, or that are alone by free will or not. --->feel free to check it out. Please note that it is not mainstream.

  • RagingBubuli
    RagingBubuli Day ago

    It is depressing to realise that people around me prefer to be lied on rather hear truth.

  • Admiralhall2000
    Admiralhall2000 Day ago

    This is a power trip for psychologists! FUCK YOU!!!!!! Emotional intelligence is for pussies and snowflakes. Weirdos have emotional intelligence!

  • EndlessZoro
    EndlessZoro Day ago

    I would most certainly be best friends with Nietzsche, and would be the one to tell Freud and Jung to shut up and drink the fucking beer, before they turned on each other.

  • Justin Taylor
    Justin Taylor Day ago

    Has anyone noticed he narrates like the guy off of little big planet lol

    SOME BODY 2 days ago +1

    lonely but surely not sad

  • Fluffy Pancakers
    Fluffy Pancakers 2 days ago

    Oh my god! I fit all of these catagories! I must be extremely smart!

    It's a fcking joke. Chill xd

  • Helena Monique Clarke

    No one ever thinks about the serious disadvantages of intelligence. It must be very very real. It probably really sucks to be the smartest person in almost every room you walk into... watching people struggle at things you find simple or seeing them fully entertained by things you find completely ridiculous; to constantly be wondering why people choose the calibre of conversation they do. It must be really...REALLY...depressing. Especially, if you travel...say...a good portion of the world...and you find that the same trend is not a geographically isolated anomaly. What then? When you're completely isolated by intellectual ability, not only in one place or language, but in many languages in many places? In fact, you'll find the diversity of languages and insecurities regarding them often simply adds and extra layer of stupid on top of things. You can try and elevate the tone of the conversation, but this kind of presumption is often viewed as condescending. There is nothing more dangerous than creating massive cognitive dissonance in people, and nothing does that more than changing the way they see themselves in relation to the world around them in a split second. What happens when the guy who was the smartest or hottest guy in the room isnt that guy any more. And no one really thinks they're not the brightest bulb in the batch. If they were smart enough to realize that...well, you get it. It's a rough world out there.

  • Fabian Assad de la Torre

    From my perspective a truly intelligent person should be wise enough to dominate his social skills if he's unable to socialize then he is probably just an insect who specializes on one subject of science. The perfect, rather ideal intelligent man should understand all aspects of humans, nature and science.

  • Alexis Ford
    Alexis Ford 2 days ago

    "A certain sort of intelligent person is, above all else, a superior and more committed reporter of their inner states." ✨

  • Ylza
    Ylza 2 days ago

    You are intelligent or not. Emotional intelligence is a dumb idea.

  • Terra Pax
    Terra Pax 2 days ago

    Society doesn't value thinking anymore. We are encouraged to be dumb socially, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually. The only thing you can do is Ascend above it all.

  • Cookie lover
    Cookie lover 2 days ago

    i talk to a lot of people but still feel lonely

  • Oliver Brunn Carstens

    I REALLY agree with this. I am a musician and I can't tell you how many times I have thought about this: that I write the music (could just as well be sculptures or books) to sort of manifest feelings or ideas about me and my surroundings that seem too strange or controversial to talk about in a dialogue. Such a nice observation you have made :) keep it up! - and btw maybe you could do a video on Carl Jung, haha

  • Batphink Phil
    Batphink Phil 3 days ago

    Without a single doubt 'YES'!

  • Ceres
    Ceres 3 days ago

    I must be very intelligent, because im extremely lonely

  • Marshal Ryan
    Marshal Ryan 3 days ago

    If you are an emotional intelligence person and if you're feeling lonely then you must be thinking a lot of things cause you feel different when actually you're not , We are all equal as each of us have their own specialty.
    One of the problem is.. you're not living life
    Dude just stop thinking about the possibilities or data and just live your life and put the regretting thoughts on your back and just make mistake it's okay there's nothing to be afraid of cause by mistake we all can learn.
    Hope this to be helpful to y'all!

  • Shaunatrix Grady aka. S.G.

    i may be intellegent but i have this airheaded and crazy side that gave me friends.....

  • Elmerphant
    Elmerphant 3 days ago

    I feel as though the narrator is speaking from his own experience. The cartoon even looks like him. In these "it's okay to live/be alone" videos I feel like he's talking about himself. With that said, I am actually a big fan of his. I am alone with a high EQ, but mostly not lonely. At times, especially missing sex or a chat over tea with friends, I can miss people. I work in a behavioral school so I interact enough with humans (children). It's quite draining. I'm not complaining as I love the work. My kids are amazing.

  • reality
    reality 3 days ago

    Yes, yes we are.

  • AbelKong Garcia
    AbelKong Garcia 3 days ago

    The world is full of idiots that's why I prefer to be a lone wolf

  • Nagato
    Nagato 4 days ago

    These guys should make a little video game. I'd play it, I'm sure a lot of people will too.

  • Wonder Honky
    Wonder Honky 5 days ago

    One of the most intelligent things a person can do is to realize how dumb they are...
    However, realizing that, then understanding that it makes you more intelligent than ruffly 80% of the people on the planet for simply understanding you're basically an idiot, is really pretty depressing.
    Why is that lonely? Well, if you're honest, the generally unspoken conversation for a mate goes something like this, "Hi, I'm basically an idiot, and you appear to be equally idiotic, in ways that are not totally counterproductive to my idiocy. So, even though it's statistically likely to fail miserably as a relationship, I was basically wondering if you'd like to get together, and throw the dice on it. Possibly one day, in a best case scenario, even have some children who are genetically predisposed to bearing some weird combination of our combined stupidity, all so they can take our place on the pointless hamster wheels of the working world, and society at large. Basically, just because that's what we're genetically programmed to do, for the lol's, orgasms, and such. Or, really just for the endorphins our brains are all addicted to. Or, if you like, we could both get a lifetime worth of happy experience, sans all the BS, and just screw like wild pigs for a while, then OD on heroin real quick."
    Sounds great. Right?

  • aksel k
    aksel k 5 days ago

    Emotional Intelligience is not exist in scientific base, the man who claimed it have no strong clinical proofs of it and is a journalist. Ignoring this misunderstanding, I liked the message of the video.

  • Rodolfo P. Aguilera
    Rodolfo P. Aguilera 5 days ago

    Love this!

  • Drew
    Drew 5 days ago

    Watching this video, it makes me think of a certain woman who I can have this sort of conversation with. I can ask hard, troubling, maybe even disturbing questions, and be met with a level headed opposite whom I can discuss this thing with. I think without this person, it would be tremendously hard because most people will run to their mental habits and not wish to think about such things. I think I'll give her a call tomorrow. I like being in her company because she also asks me *very* hard questions about myself, my future, my desires, my life, my perceptions, my life. It's never fails to be a fruitful meeting. Like I said before, if I had never met her I would feel very much alone and it could very possibly be very hard to meet someone like that. And at this moment in time, she may not want to see me as I've been going through a lot and have been quite unreliable.

  • Garo
    Garo 5 days ago

    You guys are not lonely look at all the comments of people who feel and think just like you !

  • Damarcus Mitchell
    Damarcus Mitchell 5 days ago


  • Luo Bojia
    Luo Bojia 5 days ago +1

    So every person are not lonely because they can either do common social interactions or do art to express and communicate to historical friends or audiences.

  • Hamguy Bacon
    Hamguy Bacon 5 days ago

    I have an IQ of over 750, I love watching rick and morty which only truly intelligent people can enjoy. why am i so lonely?

  • Beetlejuice Green
    Beetlejuice Green 5 days ago


  • The Universe Is K
    The Universe Is K 6 days ago

    Yeah I am used to the loneliness described in this video, but I wouldn’t make the assumption that people who aren’t lonely aren’t intelligent and those who are super intelligent are lonely. It’s more of an existential kind of loneliness that people who invest their time in philosophy experience. I made a channel where I talk about topics like this, would be great if any of you reading this checked out my latest video!

  • W King
    W King 6 days ago

    You talk too loud

  • Prue Escalante
    Prue Escalante 6 days ago

    What i learned from this video. Whenever I feel in the mood to create art, it stems from a lack of ability to effectively communicate what I'd really like to say

  • Thunder Productions
    Thunder Productions 6 days ago

    You can't just say lonely, there is intentional loneliness and there is the loneliness that you want to get rid of and that makes you depressed but you can't get out of it

    • Thunder Productions
      Thunder Productions 6 days ago


    • The Universe Is K
      The Universe Is K 6 days ago

      Thunder Productions Intentional loneliness is more about making the conscious decision to not participate in an event because it either takes away your energy or doesn’t add. The second loneliness you mentioned could be wanting to connect but not knowing how.

  • Kirill
    Kirill 6 days ago

    when I talk to someone I get irritated that they are very lazy and don't self improve. Because that's the main idea, right?
    But when I meet similar person which always talks about self improvement and smart books he read and how today he became better than yesterday I want to kill him he is so boring. All this over self analyzing looks arrogant.
    I want to say him something like: hey, take it easy! Be simpler!
    I can imagine how boring I am looking to normal people )))

  • B
    B 6 days ago +1

    If you believe this is why you are lonely you are probably not intelligent. This is a silly generalization that only applies to several cases without looking at the broader outlook of possibilities. But please be my guest and believe a 5 minute video fully explains this issue.

  • Qjemuse
    Qjemuse 6 days ago

    the self honesty and self observation bit is describing me here. I see the point but don't agree on necessarily turning to arts. Depending on the type of person, for those who also crave achievements in life, self reflect well, know what you want, and set out to get them.

  • lean84
    lean84 7 days ago

    "insomnia is the revenge for all that we tried so hard not to notice in the daylight" so true

  • sword fish
    sword fish 7 days ago +1

    The School of Life: Art is humanity's diary
    Me: *Ahm* gucci gang

  • Tony Benlozz
    Tony Benlozz 7 days ago +1

    the more people i meet, the more i like my dog.

    And i don't even have a dog.

  • your mother's favorite.

    this is true. sadly.

  • Brown Sinatra
    Brown Sinatra 7 days ago

    ahhhh, I finally get why I'm so lonely!! I'm fucking Bill Gates😀😀!!

  • Ed Ness
    Ed Ness 7 days ago

    That Picasso piece is one of my favorite paintings, also illustrates the theme of this video. Nice.

  • Mr. Coldfire
    Mr. Coldfire 8 days ago

    I.e. Kurt Cobain

  • Hyperbel
    Hyperbel 8 days ago

    most conversations people have are lame, thats why im alone

  • MCP/ChronicBuzz
    MCP/ChronicBuzz 8 days ago

    I think this is basically what Nietzsche meant when he said; "if you gaze long into an abyss, the abyss also gazes into you".
    At some point, you don't even find the words to express the things you process in your brain anymore.

  • Codswallop
    Codswallop 8 days ago

    I seek solace in works of art at home on vacation too

  • MrBigbrownies
    MrBigbrownies 8 days ago

    Since women have so many friends, I guess this perfectly correlates to how dumb and boring they are in real life anyway

  • Patrick Whelan
    Patrick Whelan 8 days ago

    Thank you for the video, I love the School of Life, and this was a valiant effort, but I have to disagree with it.
    Emotional intelligence also allows you to read the emotions of others, so it makes it easier to relate, as you learn over time what to say to evoke certain emotions. Emotional intelligence has been handed down to us by our ancestors who, lacking sufficient verbal language, could communicate a lot through emotions, meaning it brought us closer together. With a more complex language, the need for emotional intelligence has waned, and humanity is losing it, and those who still have it probably have more genetic characteristics of neanderthals and other ancestors, such as a larger brain and the hunter-gatherer drive to eat excess high-calorie foods.
    The situation you described in the video, with the guy sharing his feelings and scaring away the girl, describes a lack of social skills. Everybody is willing to open up, and even more so when the other does it first, but there is a progression which must be peeling the layers of an onion. People feel too insecure and vulnerable to show everything at once, and they feel uncomfortable to see everything at once from another, because it violates the prescriptions of society, so it has to go back and forth, starting at a shallow level, before it can get to deeper levels. Insecurity causes this to happen naturally with the less brave, and intelligence is required for it to work with the 'courageous'.
    I also highly disagree with the last part about art. Intelligent people who find it hard to relate to others can dive into many things, with art being just one of them.

    KEIHARD 9 days ago

    I'm lonely, so it must be true.

  • innerfreq
    innerfreq 9 days ago

    I have been watching much of your channel today upon this morning's discovery. Not only is it well founded, it is concise without being pretentious. Please keep this up. Thank you.

  • Lux Meow
    Lux Meow 9 days ago

    It's okay I don't have any friends either and it's quite peaceful. lol

  • 姚澜
    姚澜 9 days ago

    This. This.

  • Arie Stotle
    Arie Stotle 9 days ago

    Can this be any more descriptive of me?

  • Koo Woo
    Koo Woo 9 days ago


  • deni oktora
    deni oktora 10 days ago

    I'm a poet. A lonely poet.

  • Zukka 88
    Zukka 88 10 days ago

    INCOMING MGTOW in the comment section

  • Harry linem
    Harry linem 10 days ago

    Speaker is amazing

  • Nozomu Nanashima
    Nozomu Nanashima 10 days ago

    I never knew I was intelligent....

  • Arturo Marquez
    Arturo Marquez 10 days ago

    so the less the art, the more the social interaction?

    • KingofTheCrows
      KingofTheCrows 10 days ago +1

      No, just means you should go to art galleries, music festivals, art/music cafes, etc

  • NightBandit
    NightBandit 11 days ago

    I want to be an extrovert so bad. I'm gonna get out there more.

  • Mercy Rada
    Mercy Rada 11 days ago

    I love this channel so much. Thank you!

  • Dark of the knight
    Dark of the knight 11 days ago

    This is what i want to say! There are too many people around me who are not interested trying to dig deeper to a certain things! They are like "fuck this, enjoy my life! screw the society, I'm a selfish fuck!" And when the time i tell them, now I'm lonely af! i know everyone isn't perfect but still you guys shouldn't be just a selfish arsehole! i really hope people around me more like Japan i visited!

  • Tomas Grisconejo
    Tomas Grisconejo 11 days ago

    My art died trying not to be derivative in a world of mass media and an incessant barrage of banality. I feel there is nothing left to say, and that any art I could contribute would only be adding to the problem. I just wish I could be strong enough to go live in a cave somewhere away from it all, maybe swim out past the breakers, and watch the world die. I hate you all. GFYs.

  • ismail Cem Eroglu
    ismail Cem Eroglu 12 days ago +1

    Yup thats why I call being smart my curse

  • Developer Justin
    Developer Justin 12 days ago

    I feel like you hit the nail on the head with quite a few of these ideas, and examples. Especially the art "escape". I found that after leaving school - once I knew I could not find there, what I was looking for - I was able to connect with myself more throughout the days. I had to find ways to fight boredom not by the force of being at school, but with the type of boredom in a sense of a "well, what do I do now" type of scenario. I knew what I wanted to do, but didn't know how to do it. Once that dawned on me, I literally read thousands of forum articles, and watched countless videos on youtube - both explaining in to detail the things I wanted to try to make, the things I wanted to learn about, and the things I wanted to be the best at. It gave me a sense of what to look for, on how to get started with everything that would later come. I could now, without a degree of any sort - program just about anything you could imagine. I could make you a song. I could make a game (unfortunately without decent graphics). I could make just about anything, so long as I could leave my thoughts on track for just a day to plan it all out. Every workplace I have been in, I have moved up the ladder quickly. I have learned and seen things, and have always left once the realisation dawned upon me, about how inadequate the business was. Seeing and experiencing what others 'cannot' see, or what perhaps people are 'refusing' to see or experience from a business or careers point perspective - gives me the ideas I have today, that I will one day use to help the world, in hopefully at least some small way, for the better. My art turned out to be the art of creation. Programming. Designing. Creating and Developing. And I know of no other way to truly get to know someone, other than by Helping them or Supporting them. Personally, these things get me by. I hope that some day people can see that they have a friend in me, and not just me, but the rest of the world too - hopefully then we can all feel somewhat 'more' free. I hope my form of art goes recognised.

  • Silver Angel
    Silver Angel 12 days ago

    I am lonely and I paint. But I doubt my friendlessness is due to my high emotional intelligence (I have anger issues and tend to occasionally harm myself). I think I just have an alarmingly low tolerance for people in general. For some reason, I don't like humans very much.

  • Cassandra Starrs
    Cassandra Starrs 12 days ago

    Art 😍

  • yarpen26
    yarpen26 12 days ago

    I find it problematic that not once do you refer to the fact that so-called emotional intelligence, unmeasurable as it is, is denied having scientific basis by an overwhelming majority of experts. That's kind of important you know. I mean, I'm not prohibiting you from alluding to it but at least make sure your viewers are aware you're dealing with a very controversial theory rather than an established scientific fact.

  • Navya Malik
    Navya Malik 12 days ago

    Anyone else notice the de Chirico at 4:25? No? Okay 😔

  • E Allen1775
    E Allen1775 12 days ago

    I wonder if the lack of availability for artistic output might be what plagues and thus drives certain individuals into committing heinous crimes like committing a mass shooting. I wonder if being able to properly express themselves in art, heinous criminals such as the two kids who shot up Columbine may have been able to use their time alone immersed in artistic endeavors to contemplate the beauty in life. Perhaps that could've driven them away from their disdain for humanity.

  • owlnemo
    owlnemo 12 days ago

    I don't know that it actually correlates with intelligence, but the point you're making is very relatable.
    It's hard being completely open with people when you ask yourself a lot of questions and the answers (and sometimes the questions themselves) will not make for good small talk at all and may make you appear strange.
    However, I feel that it's worth feeling lonely sometimes (even with a group of people) if you are patient enough to find the people who share similar preoccupations, and that will enjoy talking about them with you. Of course, the ones you tried it with who didn't respond positively (hey, maybe you got the wrong impression, this did happen to me a couple times) may forever think you're very weird, but does it matter? Maybe you'll have just three actual friends, but these people will be worth every ounce of your energy and every second of your time.
    Being able to relate to works of art is a very good and helpful thing, of course, but I really think it's worth risking to be "that person" to some in order to find at least one person you can truly relate to.

  • Mara Del Ur
    Mara Del Ur 13 days ago

    I love being alone, I find it difficult to be with people not because I'm afraid of social interactions but out of how boring I find everything I converse with people in general. I hate crowded spaces and noise. And every single person I have befriended or felt romantically interested in..I end up again feeling uninterested and then it makes me feel bad because I don't want to hurt anyone so I simply decided to stop all together and accept that I can't by any means live with people or romantically purse partners. But I have always wondered why I am like this..I always feel interacting with people in the end is a waste of time (not that it might be, I understand that! but I still think this way..) So, if someone here is like me or knows of people like me or can give me any info... I'd love to know, thank you!

  • Josua Krisfredo
    Josua Krisfredo 13 days ago

    It's hard, wanting something that I could never have.
    Even though I've tried, It ended up the same.
    "Love", is everywhere, & I should be grateful for that.
    Yet, I still feel alone.
    For years, I've been struggling, trying to find my true self.
    I thought that I've found myself, & yet I'm not entirely sure.
    I look in the mirror, and all I see is a body.
    A physical body, that's being controlled by me.
    And what am I?
    a soul,
    a spirit,
    or just an insignificant being in this world.

    ADAM GENESIS 13 days ago

    Yes they are I can testify to that

  • HashbrownGokuson
    HashbrownGokuson 13 days ago

    Wow... definitely relate

  • Honore Chaisson
    Honore Chaisson 13 days ago

    I'm not smart ,I'm just a sociopath •-•

  • Michael
    Michael 14 days ago

    *Many videos made by this channel are depressing and end with a depressing message.* Too many times to be a coincidence.

    • Michael
      Michael 13 days ago

      Sharing sadness w friends does help. However, spreading sadness also drives the market for the therapy services you're selling. Tricky balance

    • The School of Life
      The School of Life  14 days ago

      We are certainly tuned into the sadness of things, but feel that the more we can share sadness, the more consoled and in a way content we can be.

  • Loven Dra
    Loven Dra 14 days ago

    If there wasn't art,I would have died long time ago...

  • Fox Doe
    Fox Doe 14 days ago

    Emotionnal intelligence is not a thing. It's been popularized by a journalist not psycholigists.

  • Prince Vegeta
    Prince Vegeta 14 days ago

    I never realised that about me

  • Pussy Warrior
    Pussy Warrior 14 days ago

    The world is too meaningless and ignorant for me to feel yes smarter people are very lonely.

  • Always Only for Me
    Always Only for Me 14 days ago

    As if I'm watching a clip about me

  • Victor Williams
    Victor Williams 14 days ago

    911 / Mr. Lonely

  • CharmaderXoXo
    CharmaderXoXo 14 days ago

    First time I'm not alone on Valentine's day 😋🤗 ~"I mean it's 2018, it's about time"

  • U. Logic
    U. Logic 14 days ago

    The question is what intelligent is defined as. The level of ability to learn possibly?

  • Phart
    Phart 14 days ago

    I love The School of Life, but after reading some of the comments section on several of their videos, it becomes apparent the audience (or at least most of the people commenting) come off neither very mature nor intelligent.

  • Some9uy
    Some9uy 15 days ago

    Ah, my poop well spent

  • Tyler Honeycutt
    Tyler Honeycutt 15 days ago

    Having friends doesn't mean that you are not lonely....

  • Determined Games
    Determined Games 15 days ago +2

    I'm smart, I think, sadly I'm to lazy to fully use it...

  • Ivn K
    Ivn K 15 days ago

    I once tried to eat soap because it looked so delicious

  • Kevin Russo
    Kevin Russo 15 days ago

    Are you talking about me?

  • El Nieto PR
    El Nieto PR 15 days ago +1

    Everyone is talking about their intelligence or their loneliness, but everyone seems to be missing the main issue of this video: the dude's voice! Why is his voice so low?! I had to turn up my volume to understand what he was saying. Only at the very end, when the voice of the woman comes up, did I notice how high my volume was. She almost gave me a heart attack!

    • Esti Luke
      Esti Luke 14 days ago +1

      El Nieto PR Lmaooo 😂😂😂😂That happened to me as well.