• Published on Oct 29, 2013
  • In which John talks about his life 12 years ago.
    (If I can pass along just one piece of advice: Watch Harvey.)

Comments • 5 331

  • Bobbie Robinson
    Bobbie Robinson 6 days ago

    This is 5yrs old now, and I just found it, but I have to share! Too many people are depressed not to try to help, so I'm recommending you and Harvey!

  • Luke Gerdeman
    Luke Gerdeman 20 days ago

    I'm here after the latest episode of The Anthropocene Reviewed.

  • Sherubii
    Sherubii 28 days ago +1

    I keep coming back to this video when the depression becomes unbearable. I only wish that watching Harvey had done for me what it did for John. But then I think about how different people enjoy/ are affected by different content, and I remember that I also do not like watching English soccer, and I don't feel so confused by the fact that I do not find solace in the same things as a man almost 20 years older than me.

  • mahima bhat
    mahima bhat Month ago

    Hi John.
    This is Mahima , from India.
    I recently started warching your videos on TVclip.
    I just wanted to say thank you.
    I am a student and I cannot afford therapy and I do not have the courage to open up to anybody around me. Listening to you makes me feel less lonely and gives me a sense of hope.
    Thank you. :)

  • Samantha Poteet
    Samantha Poteet Month ago

    I've watched this video every few years ( I searched for it all morning bc I know it helped me before) and I still haven't watched Harvey.

  • xTheTorNando
    xTheTorNando Month ago

    Awh man. I’m from Chicago. And about a year ago my girlfriend of 8 years left me. This video hits so close to home. I’m choosing pleasant now. Although I’m not doing perfect yet, and a lot of days still are really hard, I’m finally starting to see every day as a beautiful day. Thanks, John.

  • Silvia Rivers
    Silvia Rivers Month ago

    How do you always find a way to tell me exactly what I need to hear when I need to hear it?? Btw i came here because of a comment you posted on a question Tuesday video. Thanks John

  • Lena Zwarg
    Lena Zwarg Month ago

    Thanks John.

  • Flo
    Flo Month ago

    So tat's about 40 days ago?

  • Averous Noor Esa
    Averous Noor Esa 2 months ago

    How i got to this video was: i typed in "vlogbrothers heartbreak" in the search bar lol. Funny how for me, vlogbrothers are sort of like a sacred holy book (like Bible, Qur'an, etc) everytime i need anything from it, i'll just type in vlogbrothers __________. Are you depressed? Type in "vlogbrothers depression" you'll find selfcare bunny, a not so dubious advice, and a beautiful enlightening script well read by the brothers. It works great when you're in other feelings/mood too! Thanks for doing this Hank and John, i'm forever grateful.

  • blabla666able
    blabla666able 2 months ago +3

    Every time I go through a really bad depressive spiral it seems like nothing helps but then I watch this video. Every time in the past four years this is the one video that always makes me feel better during those periods. Not because it solves or fixes anything but because it makes me feel understood. Thank you, John. No matter what anyone says about you, your books and your videos have helped me through some very difficult periods of my life where I’ve felt very alone and hopeless. Thank you so much. ❤️

  • Lil Sloth
    Lil Sloth 3 months ago

    I wish people talked about the specifics of mental illness, like only drinking sprite, more often because him saying that gave me a sense that's he really has been in a bad place other than saying "I've been in a bad place." This was a run on sentence mess

  • jsc172
    jsc172 3 months ago +2

    I recently made the “I recommend pleasant” quote my senior quote. It really has changed my life too. Thank you John and thank you Elwood

  • Amanda Phimmasone
    Amanda Phimmasone 4 months ago +1

    Yeah! Teams work. !yeah! ???

  • Im ko
    Im ko 4 months ago +1

    I'm so glad this exists

  • Emilie Wilson
    Emilie Wilson 4 months ago

    Does anyone know what year the Harvey movie he’s talking about was made. I found one made in 2001 but idk if that’s the same one. Not trying to be creepy or anything I just really look up to John and am kinda having a bad time rn and I would like to watch the same movie he did when he felt maybe what I am feeling.

    • GH
      GH 3 months ago

      Harvey (1950)

  • Evangeline Mantler
    Evangeline Mantler 5 months ago

    I’ve watched this video and the Parable of the Broccoli Tree twice each so far today. I think I’ll have to watch them another few times.

  • Dragonite
    Dragonite 5 months ago

    Interesting that youtube decides to give me this 4 year old video as a recommendation. I wonder if the algorithm is looking out for me...

  • leesykate
    leesykate 5 months ago

    I'm so glad this randomly popped up in my feed. I needed this.

  • Jamphrey Miller
    Jamphrey Miller 5 months ago

    Love this. Isn't John Green just one of the swellest book guys around? He's so open, and communicative and brilliant. He's simply the best!! Congratulations on "An absolutely Remarkable Thing" and "Turtles All The Way Down".... You guys deserve all the success in the world! 😊📚👍❗️

  • doctorowl
    doctorowl 6 months ago

    It's funny you mentioned Harvey as one of the inspirational forces that led you to where you are today, bc over a decade ago when I was in a very dark place, my "life-changing movie" was Donnie Darko. Harvey is about a guy who hallucinates a giant rabbit & Donnie Darko, well... Let's just say there's some similarities lol. I'm going to follow your recommendation to watch Harvey & I'd like to suggest folks watch Donnie Darko - at least twice, however, bc it's one of those bizarre & slightly confusing movies that you need to see a few times to make sense of it.

  • dragonswamp animations
    dragonswamp animations 6 months ago

    Beautiful video. iM nOt cRyINg yOuRe cRyInG!

  • Ayu Sena
    Ayu Sena 6 months ago

    Thank you John for these videos. They give me some relief with the rough time I am having now in my life. Thank you.

  • Internet Guy
    Internet Guy 6 months ago

    I've been thinking about this lately - we SHOULD go metric for time. Base 10 is just awesome. Mentioning it to people has so far gotten some pretty interesting reactions, most commonly confusion as if considering if it's even possible. Of course it is! Just gotta think outside the clock. This is one experiment you CAN try at home.

  • Mariyam
    Mariyam 6 months ago

    Vlogbrothers is what I turn to when I'm having a hard time. Thank you. 💜

  • Aisha AlHaddad
    Aisha AlHaddad 7 months ago

    I love you john. I’m going through a similar thing and you touched me. I really needed to hear that because hope is hard to hold on to.

  • Zachary C
    Zachary C 8 months ago

    I appreciate this message for it's honesty and sincerity. Thank you John.

    • Zachary C
      Zachary C 8 months ago

      I also decided not to worry about which it's to use because who has the time anymore.

  • Madeline Voelkel
    Madeline Voelkel 8 months ago

    It’s 2018, this was published in 2013, and I continue to watch this and cry when I’m feeling hopeless, and yes, this makes me feel a little less hopeless

  • Jonathan Unger
    Jonathan Unger 8 months ago

    Please explain what I was supposed to get from Harvey. I just finished watching it and I don't get it, at all. XD How is this gonna treat depression?

  • Theliterarykid
    Theliterarykid 8 months ago

    I just watched Harvey as per John’s recommendation and I must say, it exceeded my expectations. It was a wonderful movie, one that will stay with me for sure.

  • Georgia Ho
    Georgia Ho 8 months ago

    I can't count the number of times I've gone back to this particular video when I needed a little perspective. Thanks for making this, John. It's been 5 years (well, almost), and every time I still feel like I learnt something new from it.

  • Daniel Rutan-Sprague
    Daniel Rutan-Sprague 8 months ago

    Just watched Harvey. Great film.
    Regarding the breakup, what happened to the cat?

  • Daniel Rutan-Sprague
    Daniel Rutan-Sprague 8 months ago

    Just watched it. Great film.
    What happened to the cat?

  • Daniel Rutan-Sprague
    Daniel Rutan-Sprague 8 months ago

    Just watched it. Great film.
    What happened to the cat?

  • oyahfftlisawesome
    oyahfftlisawesome 8 months ago

    365,000,000 seconds =/= 12 years just because 1 year is 365 days and 12 days is 1 million seconds, leap years and other reasons means going back or forward 365,000,000 seconds would not result in your arriving exactly 12 years before or after your current day

  • Danielle Hall
    Danielle Hall 8 months ago

    I remember watching Harvey. I think I was too young. All I remember was being afraid of the rabbit.

  • Sherubii
    Sherubii 9 months ago

    I've been consuming a bottle of iced coffee each day. Which is also an effective weight loss strategy if you're lactose intolerant.

  • Caitlin C
    Caitlin C 9 months ago +1

    Harvey was the first play I was ever a part of. Watching this video, feeling a little lonely, that brief reminder of those good times has made me feel a lot better. Thank you, John. (And it really is a pretty good play.)

  • Mashal Ahmad
    Mashal Ahmad 9 months ago

    Is that the reason why you killed Alaska? to compensate for you girlfriend. Opps sorry but no sorry.

  • a_little_disquised
    a_little_disquised 9 months ago

    12 years ago I was eating mud

  • chilln2009
    chilln2009 10 months ago

    So good I could cry. Greetings from Germany!

  • Danny Fey
    Danny Fey 10 months ago

    It’s been a while since I watched old vlogbrothers videos but I’m glad I found this. I feel I can relate to everything you said. Even with the cat. Some days are hard and others are pleasant. All I know is I’m glad to be alive and I’m hopeful for the future.

  • myfavouritescar
    myfavouritescar 10 months ago +3

    I just watched this because it popped upon the autoplay after a current video. I needed this. Thank you.

  • Kayla Empson
    Kayla Empson 10 months ago +1

    It's funny how I've watched this before and it wasn't until I have now watched this video a second time that the words resonate with me. Reminds me of things said in TATWD and so pertinent to my life right now. Forever thankful for this community and for these videos.

  • Kai Tsu
    Kai Tsu 10 months ago

    Stumbled here in 2018, I'm 23 right now and john is speaking to my current situation here.
    It makes me want to go back to the start of vlogbrothers, and watch it as I age with John lol. Then I get four new videos a week ! /'new'/ anway

  • Trenton Niles
    Trenton Niles 11 months ago

    Harvey isn't a rabbit he's a pooka

  • Julie McCullough
    Julie McCullough 11 months ago

    I keep coming back to watch this.

  • Onebadterran
    Onebadterran 11 months ago

    Thank you John. Two years ago i was 24 and my long term girlfriend broke up with me. Many things you mentioned i definitely feel or felt. I guess i should watch Harvey though i am doing much better these days in part with your weekly videos.

  • AzzaMgazza
    AzzaMgazza 11 months ago +1

    I wonder if John thought about the way people might look back on this video in 5 or 10 or 50 years time with millions of seconds of perspective separating them from when they first saw it.

  • B Things
    B Things 11 months ago

    It's like Angel having sex with Darla in Season 2 of _Angel._

  • aaron garrett
    aaron garrett Year ago

    “ must be smart, or you must be pleasant. I recommend pleasant.” Words to live by. ❤️

  • Wyatt B
    Wyatt B Year ago

    The conversation between you and Bill about you quitting is a lot like the conversation between Max Rockatansky and his boss in the first Mad Max movie. Not saying you're Max, but I've also never seen you both in the same place at the same time...

  • Josh Garner
    Josh Garner Year ago

    Thank you John

  • Julie Hester
    Julie Hester Year ago +1

    I come back to this video all the time, but last night me and my boyfriend split, so this really resonates with me right now. Thank you

  • lubna loves
    lubna loves Year ago

    I don't feel that I have much time anymore..

    TORU TANIKAWA Year ago

    First blieive yourself! Love yourself! thinking change better Love for yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Depressed Child
    Depressed Child Year ago

    I don't know how I ended up here, all I can say is I was at the right place at the right time.

  • jack stebila
    jack stebila Year ago

    Thank you :)

  • sum of 89
    sum of 89 Year ago

    What happened to the cat ?

    • J.J. Shank
      J.J. Shank 10 months ago

      It got split after the relationship.

  • Marion D
    Marion D Year ago

    John green is definitely the best way to learn English , soooo fast

  • Brooke Reinhart
    Brooke Reinhart Year ago

    No matter how low I feel, this video never fails to make me feel better.

  • Cørinne Søuthard

    No collar

  • The Debaucherous Dweeb

    Dear John Green: I have been writing you fan letters for years, and never sent any of them, because you're truly one of the most special and beautiful people on the planet, and I believe that your influence will spread wider and last longer than you ever intended it to, or dreamed that it would. Even further than you can imagine, I think.
    You're one of the bravest people I've had the privilege of being a fan of. Thank you for your courage to be seen.
    Also, are you a fan of "Of Montreal." I have ADHD., I promise that (in my head) it was relevant.

  • JPFD-23
    JPFD-23 Year ago

    It's funny how you hear echoes of turtles all the way down in so me of these old videos

  • Candice Sheehan
    Candice Sheehan Year ago

    Tonight’s been tough; thanks for making it a little bit better

  • suryabijou
    suryabijou Year ago

    Dropping for the first time on a Vlogbrothers video to say that this video has comforted me so much throughout my struggles with anxiety and depression. I don't know if I've had my 'Harvey' experience yet; I haven't found anything that makes me more hopeful. But this story, and John's delivery of this story, and the hundreds of people who have commented saying that they *have* found their hopefulness...that's what makes me keep going. I know I'll get there. DFTBA

  • Madi
    Madi Year ago

    In which video does he act as if a minute is 100 seconds?

    • Madi
      Madi Year ago

      Awesome, thanks!

    • Srivatsan Sampath
      Srivatsan Sampath Year ago

      One of the 1st few videos in brotherhood 2.0. You can find the entire playlist on the vlogbrothers channel

  • Official Gestapo Interrogator

    Am I seriously the only one whose high hopes of this video were dashed after watching it?

  • Dakota McMillan
    Dakota McMillan Year ago +1

    This is my first and one of my favorite videos. I come back fairly often

  • meggu RMT
    meggu RMT Year ago

    Currently chugging coffee like john's way of drinking one 2 liter sprite.I recently experienced a break up. It's hard. One moment you think youre okay and then few hours later youre clutching your chest hiding in your room. Crying and missing that person. I really hope that future me would turn out fine but present me is struggling to take a step every day to move on. :/

    • Eddie Saltgrate
      Eddie Saltgrate Year ago

      Hm. I am confused. I am not very active on the discord right now. Maybe i missed some importend news about the links. I know that on some days the site will go down for a few hours (because of updates). Maybe it is a bug releated to that. I dont know how to create an new link otherwise. Maybe try a few times or something? I am sorry that i can't really help you with that :-(

    • meggu RMT
      meggu RMT Year ago

      Eddie Saltgrate I did :) but the invite was expired :/

    • Eddie Saltgrate
      Eddie Saltgrate Year ago

      Hi Annepalaya. They have a homepage ! At "Join" part of the hp is at the bottom a short question (and i am sure you will know the answer to it ;-) ) and the you get the link. DFTBA!

    • meggu RMT
      meggu RMT Year ago

      Eddie Saltgrate hi may I ask the server link for the tuataria discord ? Thanks and DFTBA!

    • Eddie Saltgrate
      Eddie Saltgrate Year ago +1

      Hi. I was reading your comment because i just looked though my "liked videos" on youtube to find the first vlogbrothers video i every liked. It is this one. Anyway: I hope you will (like John) find the Care and the People and maybe the Movies that you need right now in your live. Maybe check out the nerdfighter discord Tuataria. I bet you will find someone there to talk at any time of the day. Dont forget to be awesome!

  • vmmirandar2
    vmmirandar2 Year ago

    Thank you, John.

  • Red Panda 1138
    Red Panda 1138 Year ago

    gosh i needed this. thanks john.

  • Ryan Ruark
    Ryan Ruark Year ago

    Of all of the years of Vlogbrothers, this video is the one I come back to over and over.

  • Bassetac
    Bassetac Year ago

    Bless up John Green! Keeping it real as usual.

  • thewinterizzy
    thewinterizzy Year ago +1

    I've had a terrible night and this was in my suggestions. I remember watching this when it came out, but I am thankful for its reminder on this night. Thank you, past John.

  • Nicholas Vaultonburg

    This video will be four years old in a couple of months, and while a lot of dftba content hasn't aged well, I think this video has only grown more meaningful with age. John would later go on to publish his next novel Turtles All The Way Down, Crash Course would take off to become one one the most used educational resources on the internet, and most importantly, PIZZA JOHN. While this video does a good job of looking back, it did an uncanny(ly?) better job at looking forward, even today. I look forward to watching this again in 2021.

  • Mark Brandsar
    Mark Brandsar Year ago +2

    As someone who just turned 24 and who may or may not have just failed out of grad school (still waiting for the results), this video helps a lot.

    • Somebody
      Somebody Year ago

      So, I'm not saying that I hope you will have failed, just that the pros and cons of failing versus not failing are really close. Like, if you don't fail then great you have a (better) degree and that opens up some really nice job opportunities to you right now; but if you fail then you get to retake some classes, learn the material better (and some extraneous things along the way), open yourself up to yet more opportunities to evolve as a person in the comforting environment of school, and you get your degree a bit later. You really don't know which option is better, because it's possible that the two life-paths, theoretically, in terms of success could be quite the same (in fact that's almost a guarantee I think it's just that there's also the real possibility that the failing option presents you with some kind of opportunity that makes your life even better). One thing I learned recently is that nobody knows the future, not even the most successful of successful individuals. Nobody.

  • Vita1892
    Vita1892 Year ago +1

    Can I just say btw how refreshing it is to hear of a man mentored by a woman? John Green and Ilene Cooper are literally the only such example life has ever given me, and it's so heartwarming that John always recognizes her help and influence.

    • Somebody
      Somebody Year ago +1

      There are plenty examples, just not in the public eye.

  • Stian Bekken
    Stian Bekken Year ago

    I think its two months

  • AwesomeTyme
    AwesomeTyme Year ago

    I luhh you and I need this.

  • Diana Davis
    Diana Davis Year ago

    I come back to this video so often

  • Eric Codecire
    Eric Codecire Year ago

    How can a rabbit be white if it's invisible?

    • Somebody
      Somebody Year ago

      That's how the character Elwood P Doud describes him (since the rabbit is imaginary).

  • spj4you
    spj4you Year ago

    Pretty sure I watched this when it was new and I've come back to it now, 3 1/2 years later. I didn't watch Harvey, but I now realize I did gain some much needed perspective. Thanks, John.

  • Maria Victoria Gelvez

    este video vino en el momento en el cual debo empezar mi vida adulta, así que lo que necesito es algo de perspectiva, así que gracias por eso dftba

  • Serenay Ceren Tüzün

    Today, I felt completely hopeless. My mind went to this video thinking that John said it will be alright. I tried to console myself with your wise words but found myself still crying, uncontrollably. At the end of the day, it was kinda okay but when it happened it felt like everything came to an end. I guess it is a good thing that the first thing that came to my mind was your words, John. However, i should work on this uncontrollable crying. I am now swollen and cannot look people in the eyes because it is too obvious that I cried.

  • Mike L
    Mike L Year ago

    I keep coming back to this video, it's like a pick-me-up.

  • songofsunrise
    songofsunrise Year ago

    I'm really grateful that you had family support in that situation. And I'm glad things are feeling better now!

  • Katarina Shaner
    Katarina Shaner Year ago

    I played Nurse Kelly in Harvey recently, and I can relate to the level of epiphany delivered by this show. I love this video and always find myself coming back to it.

  • Naveen M V
    Naveen M V Year ago

    This a good problem to do fermi calculation. You just round each number to exponents of 10.
    so A million = 10^6
    A day has (approx seconds in a minute)(approx minutes in an hour)(approx hours in a day) seconds so
    100*100*10 = 10^5
    Dividing 10^5/10^6 you get a really close answer of 10 days! And you can do it easily in your head :)

  • Somebody
    Somebody Year ago +1

    While everyone's sitting here citing how influential this video has been for them which, let's be clear, is certainly the case for me, I can't help but comment on the sheer skill of the script in this video. I mean this has to be the best 3:29 of offhand talking, disregarding movies and spoken poetry and the like, on TVclip. Really, it gives pretty much every legendary and inspirational vlogbrothers video a run for its money. And I can't help but feel lucky that I am one of the probably less than million (at this time) people to have watched this work of art. Besides the great anecdotal advice this video provides, strangely it also is the strongest piece of evidence I've found supporting the idea that perfection is a real thing. It's so clean, so precise, just wow. Cue the applause. Three and a half years late.

  • Bryan Cotto
    Bryan Cotto Year ago

    I wonder if there's any other Nerdfighters who would love to read the 40 single-spaced pages that John handed in to Eileen?

  • Paola
    Paola Year ago

    Still coming back. Today, however, I just watched it because I like it, not because I feel like I need it, which is a great feeling.

  • General Dash
    General Dash Year ago

    I didn't see Hanks video, but I can't resist a challenge. I did mental math (am I aloud to do that? lol) before commenting and now I'm just typing out my work lol. I divided 1,000,000 by 10 is 100,000 and then by 2 which is 50,000 and then by 3 which is 16,666.66 minutes (I just did 50/3 and then multiplied back by 1,000. Makes it easier for my tiny Monkey brain lol).Then I divided that by 10 to get 1,666.66, by 2 to get 833.33 and then by 3 (again, 83/3=27.66*10) to get about 276.66 hours. I rounded that up to 277 hours and Divided by 24, which comes out to around 11 and a half days.

    • Somebody
      Somebody Year ago

      It's not sad if it made you excited and more importantly strengthened your connection to the content in the video, which in my opinion is very important. And you don't have a tiny monkey brain wrt to most other humans because the fact that you wanted to do this in your head in the first place is a mark of intelligence, I think. After all, what use is intellect if it isn't used?

    • General Dash
      General Dash Year ago

      I should add I wasted about 10 minutes of my time literally just sitting in front of my computer, thinking about this math problem for a question that was asked almost 4 years ago and was immediately answered if I didn't pause the video. Kinda sad really lol.

    • General Dash
      General Dash Year ago

      Nice, I'm a genius! Lol jk, just a nerd.

  • TheMasonX
    TheMasonX Year ago

    I need this right now. Replace "writing a book" with "making a game," and it's a dead wringer for where I'm at.

  • Rainbow Hyphen
    Rainbow Hyphen 2 years ago

    I cannot tell you how badly I needed to hear this today. I'm 29, my ex broke up with me in November after two and a half years of living together, and I'm stuck in a city I barely know hundreds of miles from my family. But I have a good job, and good friends, and my family, though physically distant, is loving and always there for me. I think it's time I watched Harvey. Thank you.

  • Microwave
    Microwave 2 years ago

    I don't know you, but I'm gonna go watch Harvey!

    • Microwave
      Microwave 11 months ago

      I, dont remeber watching harvey. dammit past me.

  • David Green
    David Green 2 years ago

    Ah, my all-time favorite video on TVclip. Thank you, John Green :)

  • Rafe Tizer
    Rafe Tizer 2 years ago

    I wonder if that white bunny is related to Frank from Donnie Darko.

  • Amy Laurel
    Amy Laurel 2 years ago

    This legit made me tear up. Thanks, John from 2013.

  • Marachime
    Marachime 2 years ago

    thank you, John xxx