"Everything happens for a reason" -- and other lies I've loved | Kate Bowler

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  • Published on Jul 2, 2019
  • In life's toughest moments, how do you go on living? Kate Bowler has been exploring this question ever since she was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at age 35. In a profound, heartbreaking and unexpectedly funny talk, she offers some answers -- challenging the idea that "everything happens for a reason" and sharing hard-won wisdom about how to make sense of the world after your life is suddenly, completely changed. "I believe that in the darkness, even there, there will be beauty and there will be love," she says.
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  • Godavego gogo
    Godavego gogo 14 hours ago

    Reasons are sWitchcraft for whodunit, somebody to blame, opposed to self knowing, I did it!
    And most reasons are gleaned from the environment, the status quo, the latest fashion, in order to look like I fit in I have to buy into it for status... social pressure, cookie cutter???
    Most reasons are not even our own. We like that we don't have to think too much!!! Why?
    Maybe we don't know how to observe without evaluating? and its gets tedious! Too bad!

  • jomal jose
    jomal jose Day ago

    THE BEST TALK EVER IN TED......

  • Anthony
    Anthony Day ago

    “people stumbling around in the debris of dreams they thought they were entitled to” 😳😮🤩🔥🙌 this is absolute poetry!

  • McWolf Productions

    I rather believe it as it gives a person a little courage

  • Saransh Bhardwaj
    Saransh Bhardwaj Day ago +1

    Who ever is reading this comment .
    You yes you
    I wish you all
    Stay happy in your life & calm 😊

  • Lasith Bandara
    Lasith Bandara 2 days ago

    tvclip.biz/video/m_1MSUo6KsQ/video.html heal your mind

  • Shiv Kumar
    Shiv Kumar 2 days ago +4

    Of the billion videos I have seen on TVclip, I choose to ask this question on this one:
    "How can this video have any dislikes?"

  • Nicholas Mendonca
    Nicholas Mendonca 3 days ago

    It so biased when someone does stuff like this and bases it off religion

  • Marianie Canda
    Marianie Canda 3 days ago

    😭😭

  • Sohail Ahmed Khan
    Sohail Ahmed Khan 4 days ago +1

    Beautiful Kate Bowler

  • Fariha Mohamed Hilmy

    To summarize, I would say that it is just fate and there are no reasons why things happened. Life can be unpredictable.

  • Ishwar Sisodiya
    Ishwar Sisodiya 5 days ago

    Usually I never comment on youtube videos.
    I have Severe Aplastic Anaemia so I can understand little bit what she has experienced and this speech made me cry.

  • Mostafa Jabbari
    Mostafa Jabbari 5 days ago

    Don’t waste 14 minutes of your life watching this video

  • V V
    V V 5 days ago

    I also hate when people say things happen for a reason but I do believe that it's an opportunity for us to learn and grow. Imagine if everything was God's plan, then we should forgive Hitler for his atrocities against humans. Just BS to me. Thank you.

  • Frank Fouche
    Frank Fouche 6 days ago +1

    This young woman really knows what many so-called older, wiser, woke, and so-called "mindful" people don't. They need to listen to this. And I think she is delivering a message few of us will truly understand. Go well Kate.

  • Benny anne Abarientos
    Benny anne Abarientos 6 days ago +4

    “Life will break your heart indeed” and Life is what you make it!

  • The Coffee Table
    The Coffee Table 7 days ago +1

    God bless you lady and you'll live longer, when you were talking I just listened you and I thought this listening should not end. Lot of love and hugs.
    Regards #Ashishchandrana

  • T. Huffman
    T. Huffman 7 days ago

    Thank you for sharing your journey. I pray that you live long enough to embarrass your son and grandchildren

  • sideswiped
    sideswiped 8 days ago

    she had learned what true empathy is

  • Fatima Ali
    Fatima Ali 8 days ago

    I pray and hope you live a very long happy healthy life

  • william parker
    william parker 8 days ago

    lovely now get help with your wardrobe

  • mere wang
    mere wang 10 days ago

    to live decently

  • knight meh
    knight meh 10 days ago +1

    that husband i would like to buy a beer like i would have assaulted the doctor if they said that to my wife and I.

  • Em Elein
    Em Elein 11 days ago +1

    I believe that evevything happens for a reason but not that bad things happen to bad people and good things happen to good people beacause bad and good things happen to everyone alike

  • Joshua G
    Joshua G 11 days ago

    So you wanted to buy God and His blessings with your deeds. Sounds a lot like karma. Christianity is a heart job. Not a guarantee of having an easy life. It sounds like you are blessed, and getting back on track.

  • low-key mariana
    low-key mariana 11 days ago

    Existentialism.

  • Apee regmi
    Apee regmi 12 days ago

    Only listening, she sounds like Sarah Kay!

  • Frank A. Polanco
    Frank A. Polanco 12 days ago

    Wow so far this is one of the best TED's I've seen so far, and yet her testimony still tells you somehow that everything happens for a reason in this chaotic yet beautiful wonderful world we live in.

  • Rodrigo Almeida
    Rodrigo Almeida 12 days ago

    Well, damn!

  • susu 7
    susu 7 12 days ago

    Life is no justice, just a test, justice is at at dag judgment...

  • susu 7
    susu 7 12 days ago

    God bless you

  • Gordon Yuen
    Gordon Yuen 12 days ago

    Until I was confronted with something I couldn't manage my way out of. Until I can hear myself saying into the phone "But I have a son."
    This hits hard.

  • Mahmoud Abdo
    Mahmoud Abdo 13 days ago

    الحمدلله علي نعمه الإسلام
    في الإسلام اذا احب الله عبدا ابتلاه
    فالابتلاء والصعوبات دليل علي حب الله للشخص لا لأنه فعل اشياء فظيعه يستحق العقاب عليها
    ..
    Thanks god about blessing of Islam
    In Islam if god love anyone he afflicts him so afflictions in Islam is a prove to God's loving not a reason because of bad things you have done
    So messengers were have a great afflictions because they most people who god love them
    Anyone want to know more about Islam just ask me and I'll do my best to answer you

  • Shae Cloud
    Shae Cloud 13 days ago +3

    "What's fate when a person don't deserve what he get?" -Vince Staples

  • Saputra Irvan
    Saputra Irvan 13 days ago

    i am cryng :")

  • Amina Ahmed
    Amina Ahmed 13 days ago

    one of the most beautiful speeches i heard on TED,I wish you health and long life

  • 何翠玲
    何翠玲 14 days ago +1

    Hope she will become better

  • Donald Jacobs
    Donald Jacobs 14 days ago

    Wonderful insights. How do you live with the idea
    life is "somewhat" random? What philosophy seems to
    fit the facts? One possibility is light-dark morality.
    See litndrk.blogspot.com

  • gsilcoful
    gsilcoful 15 days ago

    Beautiful. Thank you Kate Bowler.

  • Belle Sanga
    Belle Sanga 15 days ago

    Inspiring stories, everything happens has a purpose and reason

    • tryu
      tryu 14 days ago

      There are no proofs of that.

  • Nupur Nishant
    Nupur Nishant 15 days ago

    Nihilism, I can't just get to forget it.

  • Nupur Nishant
    Nupur Nishant 15 days ago +3

    "Virtue and success go hand in hand" I figured that it is a joke when I was 16. We all have our stories.

  • Julia T
    Julia T 16 days ago

    she is beautiful

  • Chăm Sóc Xe Channel
    Chăm Sóc Xe Channel 16 days ago

    Tks

  • Private
    Private 18 days ago

    With the most absolute altruism and sincerity I say that you should look at either giving up,public,speaking or completely changing the way you cognitively and spiritually approach it. This,was a very emotional, uninspiring, cluster of of statements to not really bring home a point I've ever seen.
    Anyone with disease or cancer needs to watch Dr. Sebi's videos on healing and nutriton. Immunotherapy and chemotherapy are NOT a safe treatment for anyone. You mean well, but you offered no answers. You just informed us you're indoctrinated and blindly taking outrageously dangerous top tier pharma.

  • Joshua Wendt
    Joshua Wendt 19 days ago

    Amazing communication!

  • Ella Kad
    Ella Kad 19 days ago

    Glad you are better. Life’s likes eye lashes while are open enjoy it.

  • Zandee Musgrove
    Zandee Musgrove 20 days ago

    wow such an amazing story

  • Range Rover
    Range Rover 21 day ago

    Thanks for that speech.

  • Ferth Wallien Soquillo

    She literally sounds like Hannah Baker

  • frida nainggolan
    frida nainggolan 22 days ago +8

    “life’s like boomerang. if you’re good, good things will always back to u. think positively. speak positively.
    life is beautiful, and life is so hard:(“

    • DanDan The Pieman
      DanDan The Pieman 18 days ago +2

      I wish life was more like a boomerang but it's most definitely not

  • Fong Man
    Fong Man 22 days ago +1

    Dem I cried. I never cry at a Ted video ever. There's always a first.

  • C.J.
    C.J. 22 days ago +5

    "Life is so beautiful and life is so hard." Yes that is so incredibly true. I am still waiting to experience the "even in the darkness, there will be beauty and there will be love" part.

  • Microwave
    Microwave 22 days ago

    Ok boomer

  • Polina Melamori
    Polina Melamori 22 days ago

    Thank YOU very much!! You helped me as nobody!

  • Meeky Cruz
    Meeky Cruz 23 days ago

    Yes

  • Lara Smith
    Lara Smith 24 days ago

    🦋it’s so important to remember that we have to remember that the faithful will be given trials which is why it’s important to hold on to your faith and be patient

  • Agnieszka ka
    Agnieszka ka 24 days ago +2

    I wish you health. I wish you long life. I cried for most of your talk but it was beautiful and gave me something to think about. Thank you

  • liz henson
    liz henson 24 days ago

    I've never been a believer but as someone with a few near death experiences this brought me to tears