A hilarious celebration of lifelong female friendship | Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin

  • Published on Jan 19, 2016
  • Legendary duo Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin have been friends for decades. In a raw, tender and wide-ranging conversation hosted by Pat Mitchell, the three discuss longevity, feminism, the differences between male and female friendship, what it means to live well and women's role in future of our planet. "I don't even know what I would do without my women friends," Fonda says. "I exist because I have my women friends."
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  • Jimmy Pinet Scritchfield Winchell

    Love from Texas...

  • Lesli H
    Lesli H Day ago

    I think my life just changed direction! Thank you!

  • Paula Markovitz
    Paula Markovitz 5 days ago


  • Monique N. Dubord
    Monique N. Dubord 12 days ago

    Yes yes thank you Jane. Relationships. Green. Local. Baby we can do it!

  • zhanna davidova
    zhanna davidova 14 days ago

    Love you both ❤️❤️❤️

  • Jessica Carpenter
    Jessica Carpenter 14 days ago

    So pretty much Grace & Frankie ARE Jane & Lily, lol.

  • maldives-joshua joseph

    " i am extremely dry ", so hilarious and lovable.

  • tortilla1soup
    tortilla1soup 24 days ago

    Have always loved Jane Fonda. She's strong, a trailblazer, an inspiration, and so very talented! She's always been so forthcoming & owned her revelations in life.

  • Alcott Chino
    Alcott Chino 27 days ago

    Woman equality!!! I’m a guy but was raised by my mom. Although she was married we lived at her house on the reservation. My older siblings were with my dad. I love my dad! But running away was an option. Especially when he made fun of my gayness. I have a great mom and dad. I just preferred living with mom because I didn’t want to live in the city

  • Alcott Chino
    Alcott Chino 27 days ago

    Jane is so smart. Exxon and shell are greedy

  • music nerd 420
    music nerd 420 Month ago

    love the show, I don't agree with everything they say, but this was an informative talk. certain go me thinking.

  • Marylinn Schwanitz
    Marylinn Schwanitz Month ago

    Consider these points , 'The biological basis for female longevity is clear: The female of every species outlives the male with very few exceptions. Having two “X” chromosomes provides women with a backup when a genetic mutation occurs on one of the genes, while men only have a single “X” chromosome to express all their genes, whether damaged or not. Perhaps this genetic reserve allows a greater repertoire of effective neural, endocrine, and immune responses to potentially deleterious environmental demands.

    Female hormones, particularly estrogen, and the resiliency of the female body to accommodate pregnancy and breast-feeding are also thought to promote longevity. Estrogens have beneficial effects on lipids in the blood and seem to protect a woman from premature heart disease.'
    this is just part of a long discussion

  • 김철수
    김철수 Month ago

    men is always left, because women is always right.

  • 김철수
    김철수 Month ago

    Women should speak loud, hard think, be ambitious.

  • Simple Guitar
    Simple Guitar Month ago

    Just being with her sucks the life out of me🤣😂Lily is great

  • Beth Taylor
    Beth Taylor Month ago

    Along the lines of what Jane is talking about with renewable energy and getting out of our fossil fuel addiction this podcast is amazing ... Mothers of Invention. Tagline: 'Climate change is a man-made problem - with a feminist solution!' www.mothersofinvention.online/

  • born2vagabond
    born2vagabond Month ago

    I can't get enough of these two

  • Melinda OLaughlin
    Melinda OLaughlin Month ago

    Love both these ladies!

  • danny wennberg
    danny wennberg Month ago

    That chick really likes to talk about how she’s friends with them

  • Fairozee Hashim
    Fairozee Hashim Month ago

    I hv huge respect for these two women

  • Vegan Vocalist
    Vegan Vocalist Month ago

    LOVE these strong wise woman and Jane's compassion and understanding of men ;D a joy to observe

  • Greta Brane
    Greta Brane 2 months ago

    They are 2 of my favourite people on this Earth.

  • strawberrisc
    strawberrisc 2 months ago

    My female friends are everything. There are no relationships like them.

  • Zelmira
    Zelmira 2 months ago

    So true. Unfortunately, even many gay men still have to prove their masculinity, which is the ultimate paradox.

  • C J Pola
    C J Pola 2 months ago

    The Greeks were the first to have equal rights and freedoms for both genders in their society. In Sparta men and women were treated equally... I like you Jane, and Lily but have you done the research on 'shame' and 'vulnerability'? It turns out women have created the patriarchy. True. They rather see their 'man' die on their white horse, than fall off it. It is easy to shift blame. It takes a better person to see nothing happens in a vacuum. Protection, survival, the care/protection for women because their give life/birth, and the Greeks fighting for freedom allow you to sit on stage today, and have this conversation. Some gratitude, acknowledgement. Nothing is all bad or all good. I want to remove fossil fuels too. Yet did you drive to the studio? Do you live in a building constructed by machinery using fossil fuels? Do you take plane, train or automobile? Do you have a hot shower? Do you take electricity for granted? I know we need better. Yet what invention have you made to help society, and help people by the millions? I see a lot of of these sisterhood movements trying to put people down, not appreciate we can do better, and have some gratitude. If you think all men are bad then move to another planet.

  • Sarah B
    Sarah B 2 months ago

    Love their show Grace & Frankie! So funny and so many wonderful life lessons. It's so nice to see females over the age of 40 have their own show and defy social norms. Inspiring influences!

  • Miss Adventures
    Miss Adventures 2 months ago

    Love these women. The problem with renewable energy is that it doesn't always take into consideration -30c polar vortex weather where batteries can't hold a charge as efficiently. We need to diversify and be less dependent on fuel that has a finite amount and wars are built on it. I agree, but it's not about Alberta Tarsands. Your average volcano pretty much cashes in on global warming and creates both a warming of the oceans while spewing ash in the sky and covering the sun's rays which cools the earth. Nuclear testing is far more damaging to the environment. Aging leaking nuclear power plants is far more damaging and such a huge issue ignoring the fact that it's leaching into the water. Here's a fun fact I learned: Before they supposedly sent a man to the moon, they were doing nuclear testing in space shooting it up from the Pacific islands. So a little tar in some sand isn't the problem. It's just a short term solution while we develop better solutions. Yes, I live in Alberta.

  • Jan Fuger
    Jan Fuger 2 months ago +1

    "We crossed our legs a lot." So true! The insurance company sent a doctor out, managed care is so wonderful; so this guy, in his mid 40's said to me, "do you leak urine?" I looked at him and said, "do you know how old that little thing is, it's getting tired! He looked shocked. Just wait, it'll happen to him too.

  • Franken HateGooPlus
    Franken HateGooPlus 2 months ago +16

    As a middle age man, I really can't argue with what they are conveying. Some might call BS, but I believe Jane when she said she has empathy for men in general. The truth hurts sometimes, but it is what it is.

  • Seastorm 1978
    Seastorm 1978 2 months ago

    Well done!

  • Brittany Sowle
    Brittany Sowle 2 months ago

    They have a huge point and iv been thinking the exact same thing my whole life! We all have to work as a team and fight for whats right!!! And the most important thing is DOING IT!!!!!

  • Karen Elizabeth Davila Torres

    So sexy Jane Fonda 😍

  • Maria S. White
    Maria S. White 2 months ago

    Loved this!!!! They're so real!!! Funny ladies educating us.....OH My!! Would like to meet them

  • Chado
    Chado 2 months ago

    Women are not equal in America. Women are exalted. To me, my mother was the most important person to have ever graced the face of the earth.

  • dzjahrk
    dzjahrk 2 months ago

    A nightmare for ultra conservative people.

  • BeachPeach2010
    BeachPeach2010 2 months ago

    Fabulous segment, thank you!

    OKCLARISA 2 months ago

    I want Jane and Lily to recommend me books

  • healthyellowfish
    healthyellowfish 2 months ago

    I love what they say !! I love their spirit !! :) :) :) Wonderful !!!

  • Aibrean Corvid Shular
    Aibrean Corvid Shular 2 months ago

    Yes we do!

  • Marie Ramby
    Marie Ramby 2 months ago +1

    I’m disappointed Tomlin considers Hanoi Jane a friend. For the young women out there who don’t understand my comment, I suggest you do some reading. Fonda is a disgrace.

  • Sandy Haney
    Sandy Haney 2 months ago +1

    We will never forget Hanoi Jane.

  • jillyan cahill Dip PI. Hyp. P.P

    wow i love these two ladies i watch there show on netflix and it amazing

  • Katherine C
    Katherine C 2 months ago

    I love them in Grace and Frankie on Netflix

  • Laurie Harris
    Laurie Harris 2 months ago

    Aristotle said women didn't have souls. Our Constitution doesn't mention us. What about an amendment?

  • Lois Daum-Xenakis
    Lois Daum-Xenakis 2 months ago

    Love these ladies, maks me laugh

  • Kathleen Moore
    Kathleen Moore 2 months ago

    I love them both - I too have a close friendship of 28 years so I completely get this. Thankyou both for all you've given us.

  • Mrs Tracey Nesbitt.
    Mrs Tracey Nesbitt. 2 months ago

    Ah l gave up on girlfriends long ago. Well done if you find a group that don't stir up drama and get jealous of each other at the drop of a hat. My childhood friend moved to Canada for her husband. We keep in touch, but I'm good. I can live without the bitchiness. My best friend is my husband. He isn't complicated, we laugh everyday, there's no alterior motive or back stabbing. You'll never see men friends do that to each other. So you're blessed if you have a gang that are good to each other without any hating.

  • Beach Baby
    Beach Baby 2 months ago +1

    Look, I don't love the politics of either of these women. But their friendship is beautiful and they are strong in their convictions. And what woman no matter what her political persuasion can argue with that? A really great TED talk, thanks for posting this.

  • Nenita Tacusalme
    Nenita Tacusalme 2 months ago +1

    I began searching about them after i’ve watched GRACE AND FRANKIE. They have changed my melancholic view of life being old. I suddenly realized that am still young at 53 and can be vivacious! I want more tv series of them😍

  • Patty Graham
    Patty Graham 2 months ago

    I love both these ladies they would be my kind of friends for sure hugs to you both

  • Loveseeking Neverfound
    Loveseeking Neverfound 2 months ago

    Good friends

  • Loveseeking Neverfound
    Loveseeking Neverfound 2 months ago +2

    😘These women give me smiles in my heart. I need women in my life strong and unafraid to be my friend.

  • Mawiapia Social Media ALMANZAR

    I want to be them confident beautiful and intelligent equally

  • Verónica Ramírez de Arellano

    It’s called gender !

  • Patsy Stone
    Patsy Stone 2 months ago

    The wig the interviewer is wearing is awful...she needs to get a new hair dresser. 😜 I love Lily! 🤗

  • Patsy Stone
    Patsy Stone 2 months ago +1

    I want a FRIEND like Lily. She's definitely a HOOT! 😺👍

  • Oleie
    Oleie 2 months ago

    I haaaaaaaaaaate Frankie character but I love them both

  • Angie MK
    Angie MK 2 months ago

    I believe, based on personal experience, it's not (so much) about whether you are male or female, but the circumstances of your upbringing (as well). Simply based on how they are describing the way the two genders differ in how they each present and express themselves, I (female, with my unique physical and background characteristics) seem to fall under the 'male' category. So not as simple as 'these two categories', even with something so humanly fundamental. We should always be aware of the 'in between', although I do see the reason for such simplification in this instance. But there is so many variables. [I am not going into the whole he/she (non)issue]

    Our dividing point (and downfall) is not gender, nor color, nor religion... but egotism and money. That is all. Those who achieve for humankind despite 'not having', are the individuals that become iconic and historic.

    ...Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin seem like good people, great speakers.

  • Ankica Bulic
    Ankica Bulic 2 months ago

    These 2 are realy funny together but lilly is so hizrious i love ner. Mara

  • Timmyjimmy Pingpong
    Timmyjimmy Pingpong 2 months ago

    Horrible Barbie doll wig on the far right ->

  • FuzzY DaN
    FuzzY DaN 2 months ago

    I wouldn't be quoting that rotten old hag Ruth Ginsburg Lily!!! That witch wanted the sexual consent age set at 12 years old. She's a sick witch!!!

  • lavrose
    lavrose 2 months ago

    👍 Great, thank you.

  • Penny Olsen
    Penny Olsen 2 months ago

    Beautiful sharing with these two amazing Women! Raw and spiritual 👏👏👏

  • Savanah Jett
    Savanah Jett 2 months ago

    I so wish I could have been even a fly on the wall of 9-5. 💜💜💜💜

  • egypt thompson
    egypt thompson 2 months ago +1

    Gay men are open Like this .....i love this friendship

  • Persiguiendo Cometas
    Persiguiendo Cometas 2 months ago +1

    so smart and self aware ladies, say what you want about her ideals, you may disagree...but they don,t speak a single lie here, only telling truths about patriarcal behavaior and use of resources in the world, i am a biological man but i can see that rising a matriarcal system may change society for good.

  • Charles Steiner
    Charles Steiner 2 months ago

    These women talk Communism, but won't live it -- they're too rich and elitist.

    • Charles Steiner
      Charles Steiner Month ago

      +music nerd 420 ok :-)

    • music nerd 420
      music nerd 420 Month ago

      +Charles Steiner ok

    • Charles Steiner
      Charles Steiner Month ago

      +music nerd 420 Lily Tomlin is a democratic political activist. It's one of her core values in friendships. Jane Fonda is still Hanoi Jane. Both politically embrace "the planet" (the green movement is communistic and globalistic), both embrace feminism (and feminism is part of the Communist agenda -- to tear down families and put women in the workforce as taxpayers), and "changing the world" is part of their agendas -- these "we-know-better-how-to-rule-the-world-than-you-do attitudes. The "Third Wave Feminist Movement" is Communist. "The planet needs women." "The Equal Rights Amendment." All these hogwash terms and references are Communist to the core. Being anti-fossil fuel and embracing "green energy" is Communist. They both talk as if all their aims and goals are so nice and so pleasing, which is what they're hired to do as Elite Communists -- to prey on the public and seduce them that everything they think and feel is good to follow. They burn fossil fuel; they eat meat; they live rich, but they talk and talk and talk the blather -- like the hypocrites they are. Not one would give up her seat at a rich dining table for a poor person on a regular basis. They don't believe in equality for themselves -- just for others. The kind of equality they want for "the people" is to be equally poor.

    • music nerd 420
      music nerd 420 Month ago

      how and when did they talk communism?

  • Bethany Blattman
    Bethany Blattman 2 months ago

    Can we get the book recommendations from Jane about female friendships?

  • Jacqueline Yvette
    Jacqueline Yvette 2 months ago

    Hear ! Hear !

    NOSCE TE IPSVM 2 months ago

    Patriarchal influence is truly detrimental. As a man who also happens to be gay, I come across it repeatedly. For a long time, I thought I was just odd or old-fashioned (ironically) in my approach to friendships and intimate relationships. There have certainly been times in my life when I have felt very lonely and isolated as a result.
    Increasingly, I'm realising that the issue never was all about me and my opinions. Even within the gay "community" (such as it is) men are loathe to admit they actually want intimacy or anything more than physical encounters.
    I never really understood why but I'm beginning to see the connection. I sometimes wonder if this hasnt already become much more than a gender issue, particularly in the way society appears to be dismissing ideas like monogamy or empathy as something negative or outdated. Interesting times, indeed. Thanks for sharing.

  • Lucian David
    Lucian David 2 months ago +1

    I’m a gay male and I think gay males have friendships like women do. I feel we don’t worry about our masculinity as much as straight men but I’ve noticed that there are straight men who are starting to evolve and i think it’s great. Thank you Jane and Lily.

  • Libby Guz
    Libby Guz 2 months ago

    Go & get it
    We have to be united
    God bless you

  • Oregon Cephaloproctic LLC

    Hanoi Jane's Propaganda Radio Broadcast
    This is a transcript of the propaganda radio broadcast Hanoi Jane Fonda delivered in North Vietnam on August 22, 1972 -- Hanoi.
    The following was submitted in the U.S. Congress House Committee on Internal Security, Travel to Hostile Areas. [HR16742, 19-25 September 1972, page 761]

    This is Jane Fonda.

    During my two week visit in the Democratic Republic of Vietnam, I've
    had the opportunity to visit a great many places and speak to a large
    number of people from all walks of life- workers, peasants, students,
    artists and dancers, historians, journalists, film actresses, soldiers,
    militia girls, members of the women's union, writers.

    I visited the (Dam Xuac) agricultural coop, where the silk worms are
    also raised and thread is made. I visited a textile factory, a
    kindergarten in Hanoi. The beautiful Temple of Literature was where I
    saw traditional dances and heard songs of resistance. I also saw
    unforgettable ballet about the guerrillas training bees in the south to
    attack enemy soldiers. The bees were danced by women, and they did their
    job well.

    In the shadow of the Temple of Literature I saw Vietnamese actors and
    actresses perform the second act of Arthur Miller's play All My Sons,
    and this was very moving to me- the fact that artists here are
    translating and performing American plays while US imperialists are
    bombing their country.

    I cherish the memory of the blushing militia girls on the roof of
    their factory, encouraging one of their sisters as she sang a song
    praising the blue sky of Vietnam- these women, who are so gentle and
    poetic, whose voices are so beautiful, but who, when American planes are
    bombing their city, become such good fighters.

    I cherish the way a farmer evacuated from Hanoi, without hesitation,
    offered me, an American, their best individual bomb shelter while US
    bombs fell near by. The daughter and I, in fact, shared the shelter
    wrapped in each others arms, cheek against cheek. It was on the road
    back from Nam Dinh, where I had witnessed the systematic destruction of
    civilian targets- schools, hospitals, pagodas, the factories, houses,
    and the dike system.

    As I left the United States two weeks ago, Nixon was again telling
    the American people that he was winding down the war, but in the rubble-
    strewn streets of Nam Dinh, his words echoed with sinister (words
    indistinct) of a true killer. And like the young Vietnamese woman I held
    in my arms clinging to me tightly- and I pressed my cheek against hers-
    I thought, this is a war against Vietnam perhaps, but the tragedy is

    One thing that I have learned beyond a shadow of a doubt since I've
    been in this country is that Nixon will never be able to break the
    spirit of these people; he'll never be able to turn Vietnam, north and
    south, into a neo- colony of the United States by bombing, by invading,
    by attacking in any way. One has only to go into the countryside and
    listen to the peasants describe the lives they led before the revolution
    to understand why every bomb that is dropped only strengthens their
    determination to resist. I've spoken to many peasants who talked about
    the days when their parents had to sell themselves to landlords as
    virtually slaves, when there were very few schools and much illiteracy,
    inadequate medical care, when they were not masters of their own lives.

    But now, despite the bombs, despite the crimes being created- being
    committed against them by Richard Nixon, these people own their own
    land, build their own schools- the children learning, literacy-
    illiteracy is being wiped out, there is no more prostitution as there
    was during the time when this was a French colony. In other words, the
    people have taken power into their own hands, and they are controlling
    their own lives.

    And after 4,000 years of struggling against nature and foreign
    invaders- and the last 25 years, prior to the revolution, of struggling
    against French colonialism- I don't think that the people of Vietnam are
    about to compromise in any way, shape or form about the freedom and
    independence of their country, and I think Richard Nixon would do well
    to read Vietnamese history, particularly their poetry, and particularly
    the poetry written by Ho Chi Minh.

    [recording ends]

  • Peggy Esposito
    Peggy Esposito 2 months ago

    I only have two female friends and they both live very far away and I haven't seen them in years. I guess I'm not going to live as long as I had hoped after hearing their statistics...ugh...I wish I had friends like these two ladies!

  • christan tupaz tupaz
    christan tupaz tupaz 2 months ago

    I love them both! Looking for more season grace and frankie

  • Maru Parra
    Maru Parra 2 months ago

    I have always been an introvert, and I don't have close friends, this is by choice, I love my solitude and I am very healthy, I don't think I'll live 5 years less because I don't have female friends...

  • Tammy DePlata
    Tammy DePlata 2 months ago

    full disclsoure...deep...revelatory...these women are great

    SPK TRUTH 2 STUPID 2 months ago +1

    Women Live Longer Because We Are A Better Quality Product.

  • mica onyx
    mica onyx 2 months ago +3

    No wonder they have such chemistry on Grace and Frankie, they truly are very good friends in real life, I love that show.

  • Nina Mercado
    Nina Mercado 2 months ago

    Brilliant legends ♥️

  • Universe
    Universe 2 months ago

    When we start seeing each other as humans without gender things will start to change... we are all born the same, it´s society that starts to make the differences :(

  • Renee Michael
    Renee Michael 2 months ago

    The chemistry between the two of them is wonderful.

  • Liliya Pokhodzhay
    Liliya Pokhodzhay 2 months ago

    06:46 ahahahhahahah

  • bea kittelscherz
    bea kittelscherz 2 months ago

    This is like watching a very good improv Comedy duett! awesome!

  • Josh Weaver
    Josh Weaver 2 months ago

    As much as I love these two women I got tired of the male bashing crap they continuously spewed. As if they actually know anything about male friendships. I just wanted to say STFU.

  • Tiana & Taeja
    Tiana & Taeja 2 months ago +1

    We stan WIDSOM!

  • Melissa Welsh
    Melissa Welsh 2 months ago +1

    What a beautiful, insightful video! It is definitely up to women to create necessary change. The Dali Lama said so as well. That western women have the power to bring about the needed change in our global family. That makes complete sense.

  • Lisa Meyer
    Lisa Meyer 2 months ago

    I have hardly any woman friends, men r great!!!

  • Judi Chaplin-Fleming
    Judi Chaplin-Fleming 2 months ago


  • Laura Hailey
    Laura Hailey 2 months ago

    Jane you're funny...love your show but you wouldn't want a 'good' man...no woman does if they told the truth

    • Sbuckowing72
      Sbuckowing72 Month ago

      Probably good that you dont speak for all women.

  • Katie Horneshaw
    Katie Horneshaw 2 months ago +1

    These women are so inspirational! They are smart, funny, switched on to politics and activism, honestly if I could be half what they are at that age I’d be happy. Absolute treasures!

  • Seduction Productions Inc.

    I've gained more from platonic friendships than I ever have from romantic relationships.

  • Ursula Koenig
    Ursula Koenig 2 months ago

    I have always loved them both. I sure hope they make a 9-5 sequel because I'll be first in line. Just watched the original the other day and it's as relevant now as it was then. These ladies are the best! Truly. #goals.

  • Marie Axelsson
    Marie Axelsson 2 months ago

    More people need to watch this! Share it with your friends and family. SO MUCH KNOWLEDGE in 15minutes!

  • Doug Breau
    Doug Breau 2 months ago

    8:35 - 8:50 and so on, she is making a good point but the audience keeps laughing. Are they even paying attention?

  • anilie
    anilie 2 months ago

    fico sem medo de envelhecer.

  • Mowac
    Mowac 2 months ago +1

    If ever I had to watch a celebrity interview, I made my time worthwhile by listening to these legends.

  • Jenny Sieck
    Jenny Sieck 2 months ago

    Speaking to Janes point about men's friendships, I am really enjoying that show Ray Donovan. Even though it seems to on the surface be about hypermasculinity. I believe it is about the successes and failures of male bonding....Boy is Jane Fonda wise...

  • Lucy Mackey
    Lucy Mackey 2 months ago +1

    This conversation becomes more and more relevant by the minute.

  • Kim Willetts
    Kim Willetts 2 months ago

    Wonderful beautiful people, they both look great. Love their spirit.