I Asked My Mom 11 Intimate Questions Before It's Too Late

  • Published on Jul 7, 2018
  • Kane from BuzzFeed try to ask his Chinese & Vietnamese mom intimate questions about love, how to be happy, and sacrifices of parenthood. This emotional interview might make you cry as she shares her wisdom, positive thinking, and real life story of immigration.
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Comments • 15 840

  • Random Domino Guy
    Random Domino Guy 15 hours ago

    KANE: what the fu*k

  • Doobie
    Doobie Day ago

    Kane's mom should meet Eugene's mom tbh.

  • Toni Horse
    Toni Horse Day ago

    Asian parents always plan the future for the family or their children first before themselves

  • Lps Potato
    Lps Potato 2 days ago +1

    She said such a deep thought in minutes

  • Hanna Maac
    Hanna Maac 2 days ago

    Gosh, hearing Kane's mom speak an asian language where she sprikles in different English words is just super comforting to hear because that is exactly how my Mother and Grandmothers speak.

  • Shynt Thomas
    Shynt Thomas 2 days ago

    Ah Chinese and Vietnamese, got it now😂

  • Shynt Thomas
    Shynt Thomas 2 days ago


  • Shynt Thomas
    Shynt Thomas 2 days ago

    Ur mom is Vietnamese and yet she speaks Chinese!!!!! WHUTTTT IS THATYGTYYYY SO COOL

  • Crystal baby
    Crystal baby 3 days ago

    “ yeah I talk the true ting” AYEE

  • Dr. Carolyn Stout
    Dr. Carolyn Stout 3 days ago

    So profound with simple eloquence. I loved watching this.

  • Coby Nguyen
    Coby Nguyen 3 days ago

    Northern Vietnamese accent, sounds like Hanoi... any other viet people who can tell?

  • Translator
    Translator 3 days ago

    Im crying now because she's so full of wisdom and gratitude it really touched me 😣 so many people complain about America and taking the freedom we have for granted it's time to appreciate all the little things in life.

  • Kristina Paulsen
    Kristina Paulsen 3 days ago

    I’m going to do this with my mom, as I have a lot of regret not doing it with my dad before he passed. Everyone told me to ask him questions but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. It felt like if I did, I was letting him go. Which isn’t the case at all! I wish I’d asked him and knew him for more than what I saw him as. I won’t make that mistake again! ❤️😊 miss you, dad. Every day 😘😘😘😘

  • Yaz Otot
    Yaz Otot 4 days ago +1

    I couldn't help myself. I cried 😭 I love her. The way she thinks is so simple yet it has such an amazing impact.

  • Naomi Hernández
    Naomi Hernández 4 days ago

    i really loved this video, i cried so hard. i really needed your mom's advice. sometimes when you dream too big you lose sight of whats in front of you and forget to be happy and cherish the little things.

  • Stephanie Hosley
    Stephanie Hosley 4 days ago

    OMG! I LOVE her! Rule for life: you can’t catch happiness far away. You catch it close.” ❤️

  • Jaclyne Xjaclyne
    Jaclyne Xjaclyne 4 days ago +1

    God bless ur parents, ur mum z a strong happy soul, love her.

  • Spy Sky
    Spy Sky 4 days ago

    I read intimate as " in mate" and I was like "oh no is someone going to jail?!😖"

  • Sara M
    Sara M 4 days ago

    Who else has their throat choking up? 😭 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

  • Alejandra Martinez
    Alejandra Martinez 5 days ago


  • kawaiinails
    kawaiinails 5 days ago

    Love herrr!

  • Hannah May
    Hannah May 5 days ago

    This was beautiful ☀️

  • Junior Dimas
    Junior Dimas 5 days ago

    It's my first time watching your mother's video and OMYGOOOD SHE IS SO CUUTE

  • Jenny Kessler
    Jenny Kessler 5 days ago

    😭 This was such beautiful life lesson advice 💕

  • DeAna Ross
    DeAna Ross 6 days ago

    My grandmother raised 15 children and she is gone now but she worked very hard to give my mother, aunts, and uncles a chance at a good life.

  • Lim Leng Geok
    Lim Leng Geok 6 days ago

    Why is she speaking in Cantonese??

  • Rahula Loh
    Rahula Loh 6 days ago

    I crying so hard inside.

  • Kathryn Rosenthal
    Kathryn Rosenthal 6 days ago

    She has such a beautiful soul. This video literally brought me to tears.

  • Itsme Hello
    Itsme Hello 6 days ago

    Wait .... OMG kane’s mum speak CANTONESE ?! I thought she is Vietnamese ?

  • China Rodriguez
    China Rodriguez 6 days ago

    How come Kane's commentary has subtitles? He speaks perfect English! Haha

  • Veroni Ka
    Veroni Ka 7 days ago

    What a great video!
    And really inspirational, too!
    Wish you the best. Pls take your mom on a trip

  • Joelle Burke
    Joelle Burke 7 days ago

    Your mom is an inspiration. Hug her for me. :)

  • Echo Sketching
    Echo Sketching 7 days ago

    That got me right in the feels... what a beautiful outlook on life ❤️

  • Jasmine Smith
    Jasmine Smith 7 days ago

    I’m not crying. YOU’RE crying 😪

  • Mylene Hobman
    Mylene Hobman 7 days ago +1

    Your mum is so precious.

  • Kage Oashj
    Kage Oashj 7 days ago

    I aspire to be like her. She gives me hope for good people and loving moms 😔❤

  • honey bunches of oats

    there are buckets of water coming out of my eyeballs

  • Hannah R
    Hannah R 7 days ago

    Did Kane ever take his mom to china???? I need to know!!!!!!

  • Grace S
    Grace S 7 days ago

    Thank you for making this video, my Mom passed away when I was 21, I’m 33 now and recently thought what it would be like to have an adult conversation with her like you and your Mom did.
    Her childhood might have had some similarities with your Mom, she was raised in the Philippines with 8 other siblings, moved to Canada and had kids, worked a ton of jobs to keep us fed. I was always curious how she could be so happy all the time, when life has so many struggles.
    I think your Moms words are very special and we can all learn from them.
    Much love to your wonderful Mom, you, and your family!

  • Jessica McKay
    Jessica McKay 7 days ago


  • arnaldo j. gerena perez

    Take her to China and make a video

  • traczebabe
    traczebabe 7 days ago

    Your parents are true Americans! They came here and their contribution to the United States is startling. They worked hard and raised their family who also contribute to our country and society. Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️

  • Rebecca Ma
    Rebecca Ma 7 days ago

    we should make her a go fund me travel page

  • vengification
    vengification 7 days ago

    I'm a 29 year old man who just cried to this. Great video and thank you and your mother for sharing.

  • Zara Ortega
    Zara Ortega 8 days ago

    Her definition of happiness is the literally the best, i almost teared up😢😊😊😊

  • Cydney Joy
    Cydney Joy 8 days ago

    This just brightened my day❤

  • Aria'sDiaryTalk
    Aria'sDiaryTalk 8 days ago

    I could only wish for parents like this. I was raised without my dad and I met his at 6. I had a step dad but that was not good I got abused mentally and emotionally. And sexually by his son my older step broth no one belived me. I wish I had your mom and dad

  • La Flaka Acabando
    La Flaka Acabando 8 days ago

    1:56 love thy neighbor

    And great things will happen

  • Artic Penguin Nightcore

    Long live the Republic of Vietnam.

  • Bruna Borges
    Bruna Borges 8 days ago

    It's 2 am, I have to go to work this morning and I just came to youtube to watch a video and fall asleep. Now I'm crying like a baby, thanks

  • Jo li
    Jo li 8 days ago +3

    Who else understands Cantonese that his mom was speaking
    No one? OKAY

  • Mabel Nwakaego
    Mabel Nwakaego 8 days ago

    This video made me really happy, I gotta help my mom achieve whatever dreams she has left !

  • Hello Sky
    Hello Sky 8 days ago +11

    “I plant flowers for us to look at... when I see a flower bloom I am happy”
    Idk why that also works so beautifully as an analogy for how she got her children and raised them to be successful, nurtured them to bloom.
    *leaves room crying*

  • ana // moonchild
    ana // moonchild 9 days ago

    what she said about working her entire life and working to provide her kids made my heart ache :

  • Comical Wolfie
    Comical Wolfie 9 days ago

    Your mother is SO FRIKIN AWESOME AND CUTE!!!

  • Tina Ismajli
    Tina Ismajli 9 days ago

    I want to give her a hug and thank her for the "happy" advise. Bless her soul. She is so sweet.

  • Melissa de Groot
    Melissa de Groot 9 days ago


  • Serena Currie
    Serena Currie 9 days ago

    Your mother is so pure. I believe a lot of people could learn from her.

  • KhiemNadler
    KhiemNadler 9 days ago

    So your mom is Vietnamese and your dad is Chinese??

  • vivi vthree
    vivi vthree 9 days ago

    i not crying ....someone is chopping onion beside me ...

  • Robertking1996
    Robertking1996 9 days ago

    Oh Lord, I cried 3 times throughout this video. That was highly philosophical.

  • Alex Baxter
    Alex Baxter 9 days ago

    This made me call my grandma up whos in another country and tell her i love her. Same with my parents. Thank you for that.

  • Wai Wei Lum
    Wai Wei Lum 9 days ago

    Whoah~~ Your mom speaks cantonese too.

  • Kay
    Kay 9 days ago

    “I tell you the true thing”
    So sweet!

  • 2011Antidote
    2011Antidote 9 days ago

    I think when you come from a very hard life, even the simple things can make one happy. Love your story about your mum eating the remaining rice with tea, mums will always put their children first. Most importantly is that you noticed what she has done for you, it would be horrible if you did not. Your mum is just wonderful, reminds me of my own Mother. Mums are truly the best!

  • Gray the blind
    Gray the blind 9 days ago

    This is amazing! You should do something special for your mom!

  • Shelley Berry
    Shelley Berry 9 days ago

    Sad. This made me cry.

  • Olga Petrova
    Olga Petrova 10 days ago

    brought me to tears! your mum is very wise woman, she's literally spreads love around her, and I can feel it even just watching her on TVclip. it's so hard to us, who grew up in peace and wealth, to cherish and appreciate what we have. but your mum knows the price of these simple things - no war, enough and everyday food, warm home and no fear for the lives of your children... send you and your mum lots of love and wish you only good and fun travel to China!

  • Nicole Sharuda
    Nicole Sharuda 10 days ago

    Her outlook on life made me cry. She’s a beautiful soul.

  • Joelle
    Joelle 10 days ago

    Wow, there's amazing life lessons in there. Find happiness in the things around you, that's important. I love the video, thanks for sharing that moment with us

  • ka mor
    ka mor 10 days ago

    shes the cutest

  • Destiny Baker
    Destiny Baker 10 days ago

    Can’t wait to see when you surprise your mom with a trip to China one day! So much love in her heart

  • bigsmilelife
    bigsmilelife 10 days ago

    You helped me, you have even no idea,thanks

  • taekachuu !!
    taekachuu !! 11 days ago +8

    This was an emotional video, i learned a lot from this video. I’m definitely gonna have a deep conversion with my parents. I ain’t crying, it’s just this video is very helpful. When i’m older i’ll take my parents to a place where they can forget job, and just relax. Your mom is a very good person, she’s strong with a heart made of gold. She deserves all love !

  • John Tedder
    John Tedder 11 days ago

    Are you single? Your a beautiful man.

  • Christine valdez
    Christine valdez 11 days ago

    Don't look back. Just go on, go on. So wise. Your mom has it figured out! Thank you for sharing.

  • William Wang
    William Wang 11 days ago

    why yall cutting onions here

  • Safe Space ASMR
    Safe Space ASMR 11 days ago

    What a beautiful and wise lady. So much love and joy. Thank you for sharing ❤️

  • Emily Y
    Emily Y 11 days ago

    Cherish your parents and loved ones! My mom passed away suddenly 6 years ago. I was 29 years old. She was my very best friend! I was with her almost every single day. I preferred to be with her and around her over everyone else in my life! I have 0 regrets! I just wish she was still here. She loved the simple things in life just like his mom does.

  • Morgan Hubert
    Morgan Hubert 11 days ago

    I hope this woman can make it to China!

  • Desiree T
    Desiree T 11 days ago

    This made me cry...

  • The Fur Monsters
    The Fur Monsters 12 days ago

    Everything around us have the happy. :)
    Thank you mama, truer words have never been spoken. Thank you Kane for this incredibly moving testimony!

  • Lynn N
    Lynn N 12 days ago

    Never heard of this dialect of Vietnamese before

  • Katie Mckinney
    Katie Mckinney 12 days ago

    His hair looks soo good!

  • D Moreno-Guzman
    D Moreno-Guzman 12 days ago

    Trumps America needs to see this. No wonder everyone loves your mom. She is beautiful.

  • Tiến Đức Đinh
    Tiến Đức Đinh 12 days ago

    Hell yea, Kane’s mom like mixing Vietnamese and English when speaking...

  • Solina Ngam
    Solina Ngam 13 days ago

    I wish I had asked my mom these questions before she passed away almost a year ago. This is really hitting me in an emotional way. Like your mother, my mom was also living during a war. She was born in Cambodia, but is Chinese, and during that time, she was facing the Khmer Rouge with communist leader Pol Pot. Almost went on a boat that had gotten bombed by the communist regime, but someone told her to go elsewhere. So hearing the struggles your mother faced and what she did to help you and your siblings get a better life than she had, really got me feeling super emotional because I remember my mom telling me stories of her hardships and how she wouldn't trade the world to get a better outcome.

  • Elik Kay
    Elik Kay 13 days ago

    Now I get why my dad likes gardening so much. He would water the garden after work no matter how late.
    Please take care of your parents. My dad had CVA soon after retirement and it took that event for them to finally let go of the need to work and just enjoy retirement.

  • Elizabeth Duecker
    Elizabeth Duecker 13 days ago

    L❤️VE her! So incredibly sweet and genuine. Give her a BIG hug from me.

  • Malaika Durbin
    Malaika Durbin 13 days ago

    This was beautiful! Your mom is a very smart woman. She knows the value in life isn’t things but the people who you surround yourself with & the time you spend with them. ❤️❤️❤️

  • Sunnny Skye
    Sunnny Skye 13 days ago

    She’s incredible. Bless her heart

  • sophia v
    sophia v 14 days ago

    The plant part got me in the heart. She's so precious

  • Salted fish
    Salted fish 14 days ago

    Ik this is not related

    (Kane’s Cantonese is weird)

  • Alix
    Alix 14 days ago

    Kane, I adore my mother aswell. You're mom is so real, adorable, and HAPPY. I teared up and laughed the whole video... I could watch you guys over and over. I enjoyed the old home videos too! I hope to see more of your parents in future videos! The love your parents share is rare and pure... I'm so happy other people comment about it!

  • Archer Pondevida
    Archer Pondevida 14 days ago

    Kane’s mom letting him eat first and pouring tea into his leftovers for herself made me straight up cry. My mother would do the same when we were tight on money and I was very young in the Philippines. She’s pour in beef or chicken or fishbone broth into my leftover morsels of rice and that would be her breakfast and lunch for the day. She always told me I have to be full to think fast at school. This totally inspired me to give her a call and tell her I love her.

  • Irmadiana Ardi
    Irmadiana Ardi 14 days ago

    Make love together 😂😂

  • Youmna Badawy
    Youmna Badawy 14 days ago

    Make happy very easy... We just don't understand how someone who spent all their lives working and yet never complains. That's because happiness is simple. You can see that when she was showing her plants. No need for luxury, traveling, partying. Happiness is right there under your feet.

  • Lalowa1
    Lalowa1 14 days ago

    His videos are the best!

  • Dayana C
    Dayana C 14 days ago

    Your mom is so awesome ❤️😭 I love her advice at the end 🙏

  • Erika
    Erika 14 days ago

    Can we start a go fund me so this amazing women can travel. She deserves it.