I Asked My Mom 11 Intimate Questions Before It's Too Late

  • Published on Jul 7, 2018
  • Kane from BuzzFeed try to ask his Chinese & Vietnamese mom intimate questions about love, how to be happy, and sacrifices of parenthood. This emotional interview might make you cry as she shares her wisdom, positive thinking, and real life story of immigration.
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Comments • 14 328

  • Keziah Yates
    Keziah Yates 4 minutes ago

    this made me cry. I so need to have this conversaition with my parerents especially my mum not beacuase its getting late because i feeql like i need to know her more

  • Love Nurtures
    Love Nurtures 23 minutes ago

    I love her😍😍😍

  • Nikita Luo
    Nikita Luo 3 hours ago

    Watching this not only made me smile but made me cry as well... Wish everyone can live with those wisdoms and sense for life.

  • chrisp manu
    chrisp manu 4 hours ago

    my eyes😢😢😢

  • Jesuszette De Guzman
    Jesuszette De Guzman 4 hours ago

    You have an incredible mom. Drove me to tears. Happiness IS right in front of us and around us. Don't look too far away. :)

  • noor sabarina
    noor sabarina 7 hours ago

    Y even people dislike this video.. Its full of nice things abt love n life.. Shame on u people...

  • Devin Mertz
    Devin Mertz 7 hours ago

    I don't usually comment on videos but this is awesome. Her outlook on life is so pure. "Everything around us have the happy. You look, your mom's place, anywhere it has love. Don't think far away, far away, how you catch? You catch close. See?"... Damn, Mama Diep has me questioning my whole outlook on life right now 😅

  • MiMi
    MiMi 8 hours ago

    This makes me so happy, like tears of joy level happy. I appreciate my parents but this made me wonder if I know them really well, will definitely try something like this. We love Kane's mom!

  • Victoria Ashlyn
    Victoria Ashlyn 9 hours ago

    If Buzzfeed can sponsor a $300,000 bachelor party, Buzzfeed sure as hell should be able to sponsor a dream vacation for a hardworking mother.

  • Nars Mas
    Nars Mas 10 hours ago

    Shes so nice and cute i hope they would travel to beautiful places

  • Albanian Photography
    Albanian Photography 12 hours ago

    Love you , your family and your mom !

  • Annalisa Martino
    Annalisa Martino 13 hours ago

    This is the most pure thing ever and it makes me so happy 💗

  • Nicola Carrington
    Nicola Carrington 13 hours ago

    Your mum has such pure innocent happiness ❤️

  • Sarah Wells
    Sarah Wells 18 hours ago

    Such simple and profound wisdom. Touching.

  • Luca Rebagliati
    Luca Rebagliati 20 hours ago

    Your mum got me cry. She's so deep and sweet at the same time, i hope one day i'll can do a similar conversation with my parents too

  • Vammi Uki
    Vammi Uki 21 hour ago

    I want this to really reach everyone

  • Caritina Lopez
    Caritina Lopez 21 hour ago

  • griffin2417
    griffin2417 23 hours ago

    I loved your Mom!

  • Aly Austin
    Aly Austin 23 hours ago

    This is adorable! You’re mom is so sweet

  • encef
    encef 23 hours ago


  • juju nyb
    juju nyb Day ago

    Im blown away by your mom; what a loving, good person. We can all try to be like her.

  • Jennifer Lewis
    Jennifer Lewis Day ago

    Wow your mum is inspiring to hear. Thank you for this video 😊

  • shivering man
    shivering man Day ago

    5am and I did not at-watching this? that means this clip was great.

  • oDeflect
    oDeflect Day ago

    your dad is like chinese bill murray

  • tigress63
    tigress63 Day ago

    Hopefully your family can take a (nuclear) family trip to China, Your parents, yourself and your siblings (and spouses with kids). My mom was very similar, always everything for others and nothing for herself. She grew up in Germany during the war. Similar circumstances. In 2003 we went to Europe together. Trust me it will be the best trip of your life and all of you will remember it forever.

  • Nicole Beaver
    Nicole Beaver Day ago

    I love hearing them speaking in their native language. Honestly English is bland and boring. Why is it that so many white people decide that our language is superior over beautiful dialects, and impose it on others? I.e. "Speak American hurrrr durrrrrrrrr"

  • Linda Murray
    Linda Murray Day ago

    You have a wonderful mother and family. Everything is for you children.... work and be happy

  • pappysprite
    pappysprite Day ago

    What a wonderful family! So blessed

  • Enkhtsetseg Vetsch

    She is so cute!

  • Linda Tinah TV
    Linda Tinah TV Day ago

    She needs a mommy of the year award. Being a mother now i understand the depth of these sacrifices for your children. Amazing family.

  • She Says
    She Says Day ago

    You are lucky, enjoy your mom. Make her happy go on a trip together. Even though shell be happy no matter what. Namaste

  • I'll Be Your Pariah Here's A War

    How i wish i'd do this with my mum.Sadly,it'd be like speaking to a rock.

  • MsProdigychild
    MsProdigychild Day ago

    What a beautiful video. God bless this family.

  • Ameera Love
    Ameera Love Day ago +1

    Very smart and brave woman she is a great mother!!!!

  • Sandrine Berre
    Sandrine Berre Day ago

    one of the best videos ive ever seen on youtube. Thank you.

  • dgirl2021
    dgirl2021 2 days ago

    His mom is so caring and sweet, she made me cry 😭

  • Mai Nagase
    Mai Nagase 2 days ago

    please come to Tokyo. Id love to show you two around.. I love this video!!!

  • 傑仔Ricky
    傑仔Ricky 2 days ago

    wait what, Vietnamese speak cantonese too ?!

    TWILIGHT BLOOM 2 days ago

    I just feel too privileged and spoiled now

  • Kallol Das
    Kallol Das 2 days ago

    Your Mom is soo sweet! Always cherish her company!!

  • Hadi masri
    Hadi masri 2 days ago

    My grandma had to raise 13 children, 12 girls and 1 boy. In the Middle-East during bad times.

  • Beth Webster
    Beth Webster 2 days ago

    I love this.

  • jay jay alipustain
    jay jay alipustain 2 days ago

    Dont look back, just go on and on♥️♥️♥️

  • Brodey O'Brien
    Brodey O'Brien 2 days ago

    Your parents are superheroes

  • mari reverend
    mari reverend 2 days ago


  • jmturner04
    jmturner04 2 days ago

    Oh my heart. This was truly amazing.

  • Edgar Rosario
    Edgar Rosario 2 days ago

    I needed this !!! Thank you so much !!!!

  • Jose Encinas
    Jose Encinas 2 days ago

    She is a loving and wise woman. I have no idea why this video has 2.1K dislikes. Sour people. Blessings on your mom.

  • Ingrid Carp
    Ingrid Carp 2 days ago +1

    I really enjoyed your interview with your Mom!!

  • Brennen Clark
    Brennen Clark 2 days ago

    So cute omg ❤️

  • Waukesha Mom
    Waukesha Mom 2 days ago +1

    Kane, thank you for doing this. Such a beautiful woman your mother is. This made me cry at 46 listening to her speak about just being happy. Being happy was never a thought of everyday til now.

  • Terilyn Jackson
    Terilyn Jackson 2 days ago

    Damn it, who's chopping onions in here!

  • Presious P
    Presious P 2 days ago

    This was so beautiful, it's crazy how I came across this video this is something I really needed to hear

  • The Geek Monster
    The Geek Monster 2 days ago

    Wow, your parents argued three times a year? Three times a day for me lol. I sure wish I'd had an experience closer to yours.

  • Lily Baca
    Lily Baca 2 days ago

    Who could dislike his video?? Kane’s mom is an angel. I just want to hug her ❤️

  • MOWmom
    MOWmom 2 days ago

    Love love love this

  • Nezuumi Lê
    Nezuumi Lê 2 days ago


  • Intelligent Duck
    Intelligent Duck 2 days ago

    Everyone make love together I love her so much

  • Ultra Violet
    Ultra Violet 3 days ago +3

    "Far away cannot catch, and if far away happy you think upset" wow, that touched me. Happiness is something that you should carry with you,not a trip destination. Look around you. 😌

  • Jennifer Miller
    Jennifer Miller 3 days ago

    She is so sweet! My mother has MS and dementia so this is beautiful to me. I was able to know her very well before she got sick and after the initial depression from losing that connection it did help to have asked her the important questions.

  • Sarah Aslam
    Sarah Aslam 3 days ago

    be happy in the moment you are in, ever grateful, dont reserve your happiness for some future event. Make a schedule and dont waste time. Thats what i learnt from this video.

  • Bronte
    Bronte 3 days ago

    Many people can learn a lot from Kane's mom. She is always living in the present by she treasuring each and every moment of her life that she can spend with her loved ones and the simple joys of life. My parents immigrated to Canada for my brother and I so we can have opportunities in our future. I am so privileged but I find myself always comparing myself to others and feeling entitled to things in life. It really puts things into perspective and I want to better myself everyday and be grateful for what I have.

  • Shay Waff
    Shay Waff 3 days ago

    When she said "i plant flowers for us to look at. Isnt that for myself?" 😭😭😭 i lost it. Such a simple, pure soul. This woman is gold.

  • Kristi Taga
    Kristi Taga 3 days ago

    Buzzfeed!!! Send her on a nice trip!

  • Ruby Tillman
    Ruby Tillman 3 days ago

    You are so fortunate to have your mom. She is a treasure. I wish I had sat down and asked questions like these of my mother before she passed away. I hope she does get to visit China.

  • Makeda Regassa
    Makeda Regassa 3 days ago

    You have siblings , do you guys not put money together and do things for them? My parents pretty much are retired cos we pay for everything together along with our bills. We probably get paid less than your siblings so I know it’s achievable. Treat your parents to a vacation .Teamwork! It’s what makes a family operate smoothly

  • Celita D. P.
    Celita D. P. 3 days ago

    Tears... "everywhere you look at your mom's house you see love." She knows the true simple blessing of contentment and enjoying even small things. Your mom... is super spwcial. But you know that already. This video was a great idea. Now a video of you asking your dad or grandmother questions?

  • David Johnson
    David Johnson 3 days ago

    I love your mom! 💛

  • Dave Ángel de Gitanos

    Your Mom is such a inspiration.....God bless her

  • Robert La Mont
    Robert La Mont 4 days ago

    Very sweet. There are a lot of things I wish I had asked my parents.

  • Fidel Muñoz
    Fidel Muñoz 4 days ago

    This was lovely!

  • Heather Rodriguez
    Heather Rodriguez 4 days ago

    The fact that they put a comment with the username as “ JUNGKOOK IS WHIPPED “ 😂😂😂😂 LOVING IT 💜👏🏼

  • holly shiteu
    holly shiteu 4 days ago

    lmao I saw an ARMYs comment at 0:29 but aside of that lets just say raising 9 kids in Vietnam especially during the war is really hard
    although I never been through stuff like that because I'm a 05's I still know that raising kids aren't easy and she needs to keep them alive. You need to worry about their food, health, activities and stuff. If something goes wrong one life is gone. Imagine working all day just got home and you still need to feed your kids and do the chores, it's tough. So cherish every moment you have now, be thankful to your parents or grandparents and tell them you love them

    HJWUALSM KANAKAM 4 days ago

    I’m bawling my eyes out right now. Nobody will probably ever read this and I know I’ll never have the courage to tell this to my mom, but thank you. Thank you Mom for sacrificing yourself for me. For staying up all night to go to work. Thank you for always making sure I have everything I need. Thank you for supporting me, for loving me no matter who I was. You do everything you can to make me happy regardless of how you felt. And I just want to say I promise you I will try to return that. I love you so much, that my heart swells with joy when I’m around you. I want to be near you, next to you, all the time. You are my remodel. I hope that one day I can can as an amazing mom as you are. I love you.

  • narisa alley
    narisa alley 4 days ago +1

    "Every one happy and make love together"
    OMG! 😂😂😂

  • paigeedwards65
    paigeedwards65 4 days ago

    Why am I crying so much?!?!

  • Vas Mária Maya
    Vas Mária Maya 4 days ago

    Thanks so much... It's beautiful...

  • Nicholas Too
    Nicholas Too 4 days ago


  • Sophia Carmona
    Sophia Carmona 4 days ago

    omo i love kanes parents!!

  • poppies128
    poppies128 4 days ago

    My mum never travels anywhere either and barely buys anything for herself and now she's retired and just likes pursuing her own hobbies at home. I get not wanting to rush after life and excitement. My mum has lived very simply but she's happier than those who chase after stuff.

    • poppies128
      poppies128 4 days ago

      Also Kane is ridiculously good looking 😍

  • T R
    T R 5 days ago

    I loved your video. I miss my mom...n pop. Asking those questions and listening are so important. My parents were very poor but came to the United States. I was raised in a very loving home. Listening to your mom speak of happiness and gratefulness rings true. It is because of struggle and loss that one can deeply appreciate even the small flowers budding and find joy in simple moments.
    She is an incredible lady. Blessed are all those unsung heroic moms that smile, sacrifice, raise good people through love and hard work.🤗😍

  • Chelsea Ty KP
    Chelsea Ty KP 5 days ago

    her view on happiness 😭 the plant part was so pure aw i hope she gets to go on a vacation 💘

  • SMarie
    SMarie 5 days ago

    "Catch close" ...Wise woman

  • Lluvy Ng
    Lluvy Ng 5 days ago

    Wow what a loving and lovely mom!! Btw, the Cantonese parts are definitely the highlights lol

  • Megami Tenshi
    Megami Tenshi 5 days ago

    I like her broken English

  • SHEillaa
    SHEillaa 5 days ago

    She is very lovable :)

  • slime Queen
    slime Queen 5 days ago

    I make live wit you father🤣😂

  • Roberto Diego
    Roberto Diego 5 days ago

    Oh lord.....this woman is amazing! This was awesome...thank you

  • Marie Chidiac
    Marie Chidiac 5 days ago +1

    Never knew my mom wanted to be a stewardess. She loved to see the world, but when the war started, she had to flee. They immigrated to Canada and had my brother and I. They've never been afforded many opportunities to travel, but now they do it leisurely. I hope that I can give them the opportunity to travel now and enjoy it more.
    Thanks for the video!

  • Partha Randhir
    Partha Randhir 5 days ago

    Wise mom. Most of what she says has such deep spiritual meaning.

  • jey_ 07
    jey_ 07 5 days ago

    I am crying...

  • SuperStonyQMUSIC
    SuperStonyQMUSIC 5 days ago

    What happy memory will you cherish forever ?
    "I Think 22, I make love to your father" 💀

  • MoonShine Bri
    MoonShine Bri 5 days ago +1

    I love her values, the simplest things make her happy.. We should all be that way..💜💜

  • Layton Ashwood
    Layton Ashwood 5 days ago +1

    Nah this is the kind of love that's really has got lost in the years 😍😥

  • food4444lyfe™
    food4444lyfe™ 5 days ago

    Is ur mom Vietnamese ? But she can speak Canto ?? 🤓

  • Got7's ketchup
    Got7's ketchup 6 days ago

    her words are literally what I needed to hear right now in my life.

  • yasobodhi johan
    yasobodhi johan 6 days ago +1

    this is actually make me cry.. i lost my mom 3 dyas before my 20th birthday, i never say anything meaningfull to her and i wasnt even able to make her happy yet
    to see you at least have a chance to do this with your mom, u're already blessed dude

  • Patty Marquardt
    Patty Marquardt 6 days ago

    Literally cried

  • Dawn Fiegen
    Dawn Fiegen 6 days ago

    Totally brought tears to my eyes. Reminded me to be grateful for the simple things in life. Hugs for mom!!

  • Andrew Anane
    Andrew Anane 6 days ago

    So cute, so sad. Love it