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  • ConnorFranta
    ConnorFranta  2 months ago +1550

    HI SORRY IM LATE! Happy Monday everyone. Hope you enjoy this little chat about the past 3 years and how comfortable I've gotten within them. Things are crazy. Love ya and have a good week x

    • Jacyln Wright
      Jacyln Wright Month ago

      ConnorFranta From the moment I read Note to Self I was hooked. I wanted to see who this Connor Franta was. I didn't know squat about his youtube channel. I just knew he had changed something in the way I viewed my life. At that moment I started forcing myself to be alone and finding things that I liked to do for me. I had lost who I was as a mother, a girlfriend, I had no individuality. So I searched. My family allowed me this time. I now know I love reading, coffee dates, doing puzzles, cross stitching, movies, cats and dancing. I do not like driving in the snow, loud noises, and grocery shopping. I have changed life perspective, began thinking out of the box, got sober, and started to be a more healthy person. It all started with 1 book. I hope 1 day he comes across this a nd realizes his story touches people and encourages them to also become self aware. It takes hard work but it can be done. ❤

    • desiyuna
      desiyuna 2 months ago

      it's cute how his eyes match his shirt and the bg

    • Abby Taylor
      Abby Taylor 2 months ago

      Connor, I met you on your tour this year and I never got out pictures. :(

    • Shujana Aurin
      Shujana Aurin 2 months ago

      ConnorFranta I'm late too 😕😬😬🤧

    • Jeremycastanaza
      Jeremycastanaza 2 months ago


  • Maram Stylinson
    Maram Stylinson 5 days ago

    He is so cute

  • Ariel Rechtschaffer
    Ariel Rechtschaffer 9 days ago

    Literally so happy right now for you even saying the word Pan
    Love you so much❤️❤️❤️

  • ransom182
    ransom182 16 days ago

    A group of adults? Aren't you an adult Connor? :P

  • ReaOf Sunshine
    ReaOf Sunshine 19 days ago

    THIS IS ME!!!!! I have been out as bisexual for YEARS and everyone always comes to me for "gay" questions. Or like if people are questioning or are liking the same sex for the first time not knowing they were gay before hand. It's such a good feeling though. Like it makes me so happy

  • Rohini Newar
    Rohini Newar 20 days ago

    if there is one thing i believe in ...it is that connor was born aesthetic !!

  • Wafa Rashid
    Wafa Rashid 24 days ago

    I'm so happy for you, Connor! Love you for who you are. ♥

  • kendall vickers
    kendall vickers 25 days ago

    i've become the go to in my group for most things happening now-a-days. anything from lgbtq+ to what the new tax plan was all about. my friends always ask me about current situations.

  • Leo Wilson
    Leo Wilson 25 days ago

    You're Very Cute Connor,,,,,,

  • Helix Nguyen
    Helix Nguyen Month ago

    could anyone tell me the typeface he used in this video. Thanks

  • Aleismar Rentas
    Aleismar Rentas Month ago +1


  • John Ward
    John Ward Month ago

    Connor is a Mentally ill homosexual.

  • natalie.cath
    natalie.cath Month ago +1

    i love that you’re wearing green more your eyes look so good when you wear it

  • Kiley Swain
    Kiley Swain Month ago +1

    ive been out for less than a year, but one of my friends/teammates asked me if i could talk to one of her friends that just came out to her. ive never met this girl before but she thought she would benifit if i talked to her because ive experienced coming out and that was just such a full circle moment. like i could use what ive been through to potentially help someone else and thats just so amazing.

  • Jake Power
    Jake Power Month ago

    3 years agoooooo I met youuuu ahhh I miss that 😔❤️

  • Saylor Garcia
    Saylor Garcia Month ago

    omg i remember the day you posted your coming out video! i was at school in seventh grade and like we weren’t allowed to have our phones but i peeked and saw that you posted a video called “coming out” or something like that and we were in theater club so me and my friend like snuck out and went behind the building to watch it and we were crying so bad that like we had to sit for a while and gather ourselves before we went back inside

  • LpsAster
    LpsAster Month ago

    “tell the people you love you love them” love youu connor! take care alwaysss!

  • LpsAster
    LpsAster Month ago

    i am so proud of you! holy shit.

  • veena siva
    veena siva Month ago


  • Allison
    Allison Month ago

    Your eyes are so green in this video so PRETTY!!!!!!

  • chelsea martinez
    chelsea martinez Month ago

    you are amazing.

  • Ana Márquez
    Ana Márquez Month ago

    You are so attractive

  • Sanjna Kaul
    Sanjna Kaul Month ago

    I definatly get what you mean. I came out less than a year ago and just a couple months after coming out I didn't have barely any doubts before I slipped something lgbtq+ in a convo, or even came out. Before that, I was always wondering how should I come out, who I should come out to, and if I was being annoying about my sexuality. Now, it's honestly the funniest thing ever to me because I have almost no hesitation before making a joke that could out me to someone.

  • Lexi
    Lexi Month ago

    I haven't been able to watch your videos for awhile and coming back to videos like this just make me so happy. I'm glad you're comfortable in who you are. I came out early in 2017 because I had a girlfriend who I cared for very much, though things did not go well between us nor did it go well with my mother I'm happy with myself because of people like you. Honestly thank you for being you, I love you so much. I also love the aesthetic you put in your videos like it's so pleasing😂

  • Chibi book Nerd
    Chibi book Nerd Month ago

    Sorry but Ellen is the go to

  • Jessica Kara
    Jessica Kara Month ago

    This font can be very hard to read for dyslexic people

  • Camille Viala
    Camille Viala Month ago

    how do you make everything so beautiful?

  • Gray
    Gray Month ago

    I only just realized three months ago I was gay. I always listen more than I speak, and often hear my parents using slang terms or insulting the lgbt community, without even really realizing it. I’m hoping that when I come out (yikes that’s a panic-inducing day to think about), I’ll be able to talk about it and educate them as well as you do, Connor. Thanks for the inspiration

  • Sadie M
    Sadie M Month ago

    Am I the only one who thought that he was standing next to a trash bin for basically The Who video 🤔😃😘💙

  • Kenzie Wallace
    Kenzie Wallace Month ago

    I don't know everything, but I know something haaha love Connor

  • MajesticMike 77
    MajesticMike 77 Month ago

    I didn't know I needed this today :)

  • emily rose
    emily rose Month ago

    this video hit me really hard, I only recently came out fully to my parents and friends, I used to live in New York but four years ago we moved to Memphis Tennessee, and the reactions I have gotten from each part of my surroundings have been...varied. It's so crazy to be so open and sharing and accepted in one sphere of my life, when I'm in New York there is no hesitation in expressing myself, but when I'm in Memphis, I have to do a complete 180 and hide and cover a lot about myself because of the extreme prejudice I face, either way this is an amazing video and it gives me so much hope for the future.

  • Jitsu
    Jitsu Month ago


  • Liliana Johnson
    Liliana Johnson Month ago

    I'm bisexual. For sure. I've told my friends (who still live me) but not my family. My parents seem supportive of the LGBT+ community but they still dance around the topic and I'm really worried about telling them. Idk. I feel bad. Any suggestions.

  • Matthew Vincent Stevenson

    I notice a small orange word at 01:00 stated “fuck trump”

  • cHrIsTiNa RuSsO
    cHrIsTiNa RuSsO Month ago


  • DanPhilUndertale.prettymuchme

    ...Help? I really need another opinion on this... I've identified as a lesbian for a few years now, but I'm doubting myself. One of my guy friends is doubting me, making me doubt myself. Long story short, he's had a crush on me for about 7 years. He's a good guy, he was actually kinda cool with me when I came out. But after a while he told me I didn't have "lesbian traits" or I didn't "act like a lesbian". I keep on getting confused. I know I like girls, but am I bi or pan? I haven't felt a crush on guy, but I used too. I'm not sure if I changed or I kept on faking being a lesbian until I became one. I don't know. It was so clear before but now I'm all messed up. Any advice? I'd love it! And please please please be honest, not just what I want to hear. Thanks!

  • Rachel Meister
    Rachel Meister Month ago

    Omg cringe “goto guru” used to be my youtuber beauty guru name when i was 13

  • Queen Of Diamonds
    Queen Of Diamonds Month ago

    Having incredibly homophobic parents and other family I can't talk about lgbt things and my parents political views are the opposite of mine so I have to keep my mouth shut a lot

  • Jacyln Wright
    Jacyln Wright Month ago

    From the moment I read Note to Self I was hooked. I wanted to see who this Connor Franta was. I didn't know squat about his youtube channel. I just knew he had changed something in the way I viewed my life. At that moment I started forcing myself to be alone and finding things that I liked to do for me. I had lost who I was as a mother, a girlfriend, I had no individuality. So I searched. My family allowed me this time. I now know I love reading, coffee dates, doing puzzles, cross stitching, movies, cats and dancing. I do not like driving in the snow, loud noises, and grocery shopping. I have changed life perspective, began thinking out of the box, got sober, and started to be a more healthy person. It all started with 1 book. I hope 1 day he comes across this a nd realizes his story touches people and encourages them to also become self aware. It takes hard work but it can be done. ❤

  • falling down the rabbit hole

    I was in a mental hospital and now I just feel the same way you do but with that topic

  • Winnie Gavin
    Winnie Gavin Month ago

    His backdrop wrinkles at 2:09 then again at 6:37, what ghosts are haunting him?

  • Winnie Gavin
    Winnie Gavin Month ago

    Sometimes, as a teen, I think about how little I knew about sexual stuff just a few years ago, I remember 3 years ago having to look up what boner meant. It really blows my mind like you said.

  • Winnie Gavin
    Winnie Gavin Month ago

    His smile is so infectious I’m dead!!!!! 🤗🤗🤗

  • Hannah Sixx
    Hannah Sixx Month ago

    This video was really nice to see and hear about. Good for you Con. i missed your channel!!

  • dtx dtx
    dtx dtx Month ago

    (fuck trump)

  • Elliot DiDonato
    Elliot DiDonato Month ago

    I honestly relate to this shit man,, it’s definitely strange but it’s also kind of refreshing to realize how far you’ve grown as a person

  • Elliot DiDonato
    Elliot DiDonato Month ago

    Relatives; *calls me by my birth name*
    Me; i was so uncomfortable

  • Elliot DiDonato
    Elliot DiDonato Month ago

    Your aesthetics make me so mMMmmMMmmMmM

  • Its Casey xx Xox
    Its Casey xx Xox Month ago

    the aesthetics ❤💯

  • chadnga8
    chadnga8 Month ago

    Connor it is so good to see how far you have come and how comfortable you are with yourself. Very proud for you.

  • Julia Wildschut
    Julia Wildschut Month ago

    Aesthetically + emotionally pleasing luv it

  • Francisco Valenzuela

    Dear Connor, I love how sincere, honest and transparent you are. Unlike some people on the media, you always look very authentic, you speak your mind and to be honest, every time a I watch one of your videos you encourage me to do the same, to dare to have an opinion, no matter how wrong or right I am. Somehow you motivate me to speak out, and not to be afraid of exposing my self to everyone elses validtion. Thank you for inspiring me to be myself, believe in me and be authentic without fear.

  • Terr
    Terr Month ago

    Guru Connor?
    Guru Eskild?
    Plsssss give me all the gay gurus. ❤️

  • Alexis Malicek
    Alexis Malicek Month ago

    Honestly, I want my future child to be gay. I would be so happy. I'm not gay but I love gay people. Yay LGBTQ+!!!🌈🌈🌈

  • Nicky PALKA
    Nicky PALKA 2 months ago

    I’m creating a LGBTQ+ retreat at my school, and when my aunts asked me about it, I froze. I have had negative experiences talking about queer things in the past. I thought I’d be comfortable talking about these things to them...but it wasn’t. I love talking about LGBTQ+ topics with my peers, but my family who have said homophobic things in the past....not so much

  • Ghada Mahir
    Ghada Mahir 2 months ago

    Your videos are so aesthetically pleasing damn

  • Chip Nowak
    Chip Nowak 2 months ago

    You're cool, Dude.... Be true to your followers, and you'll do weel....

  • Arala
    Arala 2 months ago

    You are such my inspiration. Soon it'll be my 3 years aniversary of my diagnosis -anorexia and depression- and I really get upset when this time is comming because I feel I didn't do any step forward. But you have made me see that now I know a lot of about mental ill people commumity that I didn't take on account before and I am by far more confident explaining people how to include us (mentally ill people) and notice us. I think I am doing a pretty good job in my environment teaching other ones about these topics, which in my opinion are super necessary for a future tolerant and perfect world. Also you have given me hope -you don't know how you will be in three years from now, so maybe I will have been recovered, for this reason I'm keeping fighting 💪

  • Odette Severson
    Odette Severson 2 months ago

    I love how he added pansexual in there because it seems to be overlooked. A lot!

  • blakehasfluffyhair
    blakehasfluffyhair 2 months ago

    do you edit using final cut pro x?

  • Terra Honeycutt
    Terra Honeycutt 2 months ago

    you are so pure i love u. my anniversary of watching u on youtube is on the 27th. 3 YEARS. thats crazy.

  • Cordova Riley
    Cordova Riley 2 months ago

    Connor is so great and AWSOME because it’s like you are talking to him face to face like his videos are so chill and funny💖

  • joshpwnsnoobs
    joshpwnsnoobs 2 months ago

    I prefer to keep my conversations about sexuality and gender identity completely separate. because as a gay man, people struggling with their non cis identity really have nothing to do with me

  • joshpwnsnoobs
    joshpwnsnoobs 2 months ago

    ugh I'm so over Connor

  • Just another Fangirl x
    Just another Fangirl x 2 months ago

    Your adorable! ❤️

  • rebecca klvac
    rebecca klvac 2 months ago

    I don’t know a lot about LGBTQ+ stuff but I would like to. The people that I know that would know about it are very agressive and sensitive to the topic, so I can’t comfortably question things without looking stupid. It’s very frustrating, how can I make this situation better?

  • Brook Ostrander
    Brook Ostrander 2 months ago

    I love your videos! Also really like how you dress, I look to you for fashion inspiration, you’re just such an amazing person 💙

  • Pink Lemonaid
    Pink Lemonaid 2 months ago

    So. I have an EXTREMELY religious family on my dads side, and that’s where I’m spending my Christmas this year. And I’m so scared that something will come up or they’ll talk bad about it and I’ll just sit there because if I speak up I get yelled at. Because I’ve come out to my dad and his response was “no. You don’t know who you are. I do. You’re straight, end of discussion.” So I obviously feel so safe there anyways. Yeah. Idk what to do.

  • Sofía Del Castillo Meléndez

    I, freaking L O V E you.

  • Aliyyah Matthys
    Aliyyah Matthys 2 months ago


  • Collin Explores
    Collin Explores 2 months ago

    So goofy. love it. Have definitely evolved over time.

  • Jackson Star
    Jackson Star 2 months ago

    I'm transgender and pansexual, from female to male and with just being 14 and only coming to terms with it just to myself I have come a long way. There were times that I wanted to end it all only for the fact that I am who I am and living with a religious family only just starting to wear pants on the regular probably a week ago now. Three years ago I was 11 scared out of my mind for having feelings for someone that already was changing their gender and small bean me had too much on their plate too. Dealing with things like having their biological father be deported and having to raise this little 5-year-old boy bc your mom is never around, just working all the time. then having to deal with privilaged white kids (no offense) being snobby asses (excuse my language). 11 year old me was weaker and more vulnerable due to things that happened in my life because I was hispanic and a girl. 14 year old me is stronger and i can talk about the things that happened to me without ease nor anxiety. In three years I grew up faster than I should have but I needed to. For the first time in three years, I finally don't want to commit suicide, i want tio live and be myself

  • Victoria
    Victoria 2 months ago

  • SimonV
    SimonV 2 months ago

    This was great! I’m GTB trans, but I’m not out yet... any advice?

  • Galaxy of Slimes
    Galaxy of Slimes 2 months ago

    OMG!! he published this on my 13th b-day!! AHAAAA!

  • Ezra Scarlett
    Ezra Scarlett 2 months ago

    3:32 lmao same

  • Oriana F
    Oriana F 2 months ago

    I'm so proud of you Con.
    These three years we've grown up a lot and it's so inspiring to see how much you've changed for the better in a sense of accepting yourself and feeling free to explore those somethings.
    I am so proud.
    I'm really sorry I've been late to your videos but I always watch every single one and I'll always stand by you 💖💖💖💖💖💖

  • Hannah Sims
    Hannah Sims 2 months ago

    I relate to being the “gay guru” lol I’m the only out lesbian at my school and everyone asks me questions about the lgbtq+ community and it’s honestly quite awesome that i have the ability to educate people about it and that they choose me to ask these questions. i mean some questions have been blunt or rude but i had the chance to educate people. I live in a small town in southwest Georgia and well not everyone is accepting and not a lot of people know about the lgbtq+ community. also a few people have came out to me and only me just because they felt comfortable with me and knew that i could relate in some way. ITS SO NICE

  • Melody's Mix
    Melody's Mix 2 months ago

    Dang it's been a good year since I've seen your videos.

  • Khushi Shah
    Khushi Shah 2 months ago

    His voice is so damn soothing istg it never fails to calm me down

  • Michelle Dean
    Michelle Dean 2 months ago

    all the green in the background made your eyes pop im in love

  • Neron
    Neron 2 months ago

    That editing thing he does where the previous clip continues but the audio is further down, then he cuts to clip is cool but annoying at the same time lol.

  • Ace Barrow
    Ace Barrow 2 months ago

    My family is very lgbtq+ -phobic. And last year I came out to my parents as bi and they freaked out. They told me I was wrong and confused and all that. Whenever my family talks about anything lgbtq+, it makes me uncomfortable, and I stay quiet, because I don't want them to freak out again. my parents believe I'm straight still. I became even more depressed than I had been and only recently (October) I told my parents I'm depressed, so now I have medicine, and I'm working towards getting better, but that memory of my parents not believing me, and just knowing they never will, it makes me so sad. They love me for who they want me to be, not for who I am.
    (sorry, I just had to rant there a bit)

  • plants are green friends

    when i talk about being trans* or whatever my sexuality is whom ever i maybe into, my family shuts me down but once they have a question like explaining the bathroom thing or gay marriage or anything i’m an encyclopedia for every and anyone’s need for knowledge. suddenly, when it’s convenient for everyone else that i’m lgbt+. it’s like i’m only able to be gay or whatever once it’s good with them.
    yes because i too can turn my feelings off whenever i please.

  • Cora Stalder
    Cora Stalder 2 months ago

    Okay ConnorFranta what facial products do you use?? Your skin is flawless

  • Morgan Maguire
    Morgan Maguire 2 months ago

    About 3 years ago, I fell hard for a guy. Every single school year since then, I've had a class with him. I still do, but I feel like he doesn't have the kind of hold on me like he used to. I've felt ready to love others. P.S. I LOVE your content Conner, but I've missed so much. 😫 Lol you probably won't even read this.

  • olivia
    olivia 2 months ago

    mate green is your colour 100%

  • s snail
    s snail 2 months ago

    2:09 omg is that a person behind?

  • Jeanette Massey
    Jeanette Massey 2 months ago

    I came out i think 3 years ago and my own family and family friends always come to me about LGBTQ+ stuff even tho they have been out way longer then me and are years older then me. It’s kinda funny in its own way.

  • sophie jade
    sophie jade 2 months ago

    i’m growing up in the suburbs of the twin cities which is close to rochester and it always makes me happy that we’re from the same place ily

  • Raven Stone
    Raven Stone 2 months ago

    I went through this a while ago and was like I’m happy I’m
    Actually happy three years ago I was super depressed and self harming now I’m happy

  • Summer Sunshine
    Summer Sunshine 2 months ago


  • Smart Ass 27
    Smart Ass 27 2 months ago

    It's funny how I am extremely convince that Connor is gay, but a part of me still doesn't believe till the day we see him kiss a boy or get married.

  • Kat Rosie
    Kat Rosie 2 months ago

    I wrote my senior paper on this and it made me realize I'm the go to person in my friend group to talk about these things too!

  • I'm So Phancy
    I'm So Phancy 2 months ago

    Almost all of my friends are accepting. But my family makes homophobic jokes and talks about it being disgusting all the time and I’m afraid to come out so I might be in the closet forever unless if I marry a girl

  • Stars VEVO
    Stars VEVO 2 months ago

    If you are really a gay.plzzz!Ihave a request.plzzz show us your Bf.

  • Angela Dandelle Mariae
    Angela Dandelle Mariae 2 months ago

    I like the fact that Connor put a (fuck trump) in there and didn't even bothered capitalizing his name 😂😂. PREACH!

  • Vasha and Radit
    Vasha and Radit 2 months ago

    he is a fluffball

  • TarokWTF
    TarokWTF 2 months ago

    I know that there's a lot of terrible situations out there of LGBT people having real shit happening in ther luves, but i also think that the way you constantly talk about LGBT+ topics is overwhelming.
    I do consider we have to talk about inequality and all those topic that concern us as part of a huge society, but i think you make some kind of an unnecessary exageration out of it.
    Making something normal implies talking about it with as normality as possible, making a whole thing out of it, a video about how hard coming out was for you, how many years have passed since, how important that step was and all that, is helpful sometimes, but be careful, i think you're confusing encouraging with overwhelming, which is, according to my own experience, even more painful and difficult than simply ignoring those topics and bringing them the normality they implore.
    I don't know if i made myself comprehensible, anyway, i'm free to listen to new and different opinions and eve change my current one.