I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron Stark | TEDxBoulder

  • Published on Jun 26, 2018
  • After growing up in painful, abusive conditions, Aaron Stark was on his way to an atrocity, until simple acts of kindness changed his life forever. What is causing the rise of violence and are our current fears and solutions just making it worse? My name is Aaron stark. I am 39 years old with 4 children, 2 cats, one dog, and a beautiful wife. I am a stay at home dad; my wife is the breadwinner of the family. I am a comic book fan, a pop culture junkie, and a lover of the sciences. I have more knowledge about superheros, pro wrestling, and comedy than anyone really has a right to. After growing up in very abusive and violent circumstances followed by over a decade if personal recovery, I am now a happy family man. I recently shred a very personal story of my triumph over my past, and it has changed my life forever. My mission is to let people know that no matter how dark it may seem, there is light coming. We really are not alone. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • kaitlin bell
    kaitlin bell 3 hours ago

    This is proof that the reason there are so many more school shootings, isnt because of guns, but because of bad parenting.

  • J. W.
    J. W. 3 hours ago

    those damn kahoot games

  • Tiny F
    Tiny F 4 hours ago

    10 rappers eminem was too afraid to diss

  • Crippled Blob
    Crippled Blob 8 hours ago


  • Roblox Player
    Roblox Player 10 hours ago

    *pump up kicks playing*

  • Arete Gardener
    Arete Gardener 12 hours ago

    Well... It's never to late.

  • Johnny Money chasing
    Johnny Money chasing 14 hours ago

    I had nothing to lose so I proved everyone wrong and got my money up now I'm laughing at the same people who laugh at me back in elementary when I had no money. Now that we are at high school i have more money and all these kids that laugh at me only have rich parents and for that I laugh at them and remind them everyday who is out here making money while they are at home with mommy and daddy. It's crazy how life is. I did this on my own and cause I grew up in a tough neighborhood (Austin, Chicago) I develop a strong mental and I never thought of suicide. I went into survival mode, the late night grind walking home at 11pm chasing the bag. I felt unstoppable. Anyone in any bad point in their life rn chase the bag and get your money up. It will cure your depression . If u have a lot of money and your still depressed idk how to help you cause I can't relate. I grinded for my money, I wasn't blessed like that. That's what makes me stronger than everyone else. I overcame everything I once fear. If I had a ted talk it would probably go viral.

  • Michael Nyamohanga
    Michael Nyamohanga 16 hours ago

    This is me after I choke a game in apex

  • Selenator93
    Selenator93 17 hours ago

    School shooters aren’t terrorists.... the bullies are.... and terrorists deserve to die!

  • Kenzo Batt
    Kenzo Batt 17 hours ago +1

    How do u like a video multiple times?

  • Kenzo Batt
    Kenzo Batt 17 hours ago +1

    That’s deep I literally was tearing up and smiling broadly when he said how his family was in the audience I started clapping when he finished

  • George Rodger
    George Rodger 19 hours ago

    He was almost a shooter but the doorframe stopped him

  • Braiden Hamilton
    Braiden Hamilton 19 hours ago

    That was awesome

  • Filipina Diary
    Filipina Diary 19 hours ago

    this is the best video

  • Jeff P
    Jeff P 20 hours ago +1

    sounds like the perfect teachings of Jesus

  • SouLs
    SouLs 20 hours ago

    This is very powerful

  • carlos verrill
    carlos verrill 23 hours ago

    Goto 3:3 and listen he stutters

  • Turkey Mahn
    Turkey Mahn Day ago

    Isnt that technically attempted murder

  • Austin Morris
    Austin Morris Day ago

    i barely ever cry but god damn this one just makes me ball wtf

  • Gloryrush gaming
    Gloryrush gaming Day ago +1

    Reads the title fbi open up


    ¥¥¥¥¥¥ DAMN,,, THAT’z ŚAD,, oo i wanna let u go u I sad I know I sad I am ya

  • John Ergon Golpe

    This has got to be the best Ted Talk I've ever watched.

  • Tori Gibson
    Tori Gibson Day ago +1

    Weird flex but okay

  • Joshua Jiji
    Joshua Jiji Day ago

    Me: fails a test
    Teacher: oh, i apparently didn't check one page by mistake
    Me: passes the test
    Me: this video
    Regardless, amazing video

  • Ziggy
    Ziggy Day ago

    Tf is in my recommend

  • mrawesome237843's backup channel

    I can relate to this guy so much

  • Carlton
    Carlton Day ago

    I’d like to give this guy a hug.

  • Meg H
    Meg H Day ago

    This is amazing and i hope he is doing ok right now.

  • Kadir Lofça
    Kadir Lofça Day ago

    The guy who beat eminem

  • Abondend Hope
    Abondend Hope Day ago

    Love and acceptance will always beat hate, those kids that are loved and happy in their social circles dont ever shoot up schools, its always the quiet ones who have no friends or no relationships. Be nice.

  • AlphaRW
    AlphaRW Day ago

    Me: Can I use the bathroom?
    Teacher: I don't know, can you?

  • Juicer 0478
    Juicer 0478 Day ago



  • MotoX Luca
    MotoX Luca Day ago


  • Ok ay
    Ok ay Day ago +1

    This is straight facts you can’t even lie, this man is a legend

  • Rust
    Rust 2 days ago

    This is beautiful.

  • Crimson Digital
    Crimson Digital 2 days ago

    I thought I was gonna make fun of this guy when I first saw this video's title but God damn. This guy deserves all the love and attention in the world

  • The best a Jeff can get

    *had* a weight problem

  • I Love You
    I Love You 2 days ago

    So was i

  • Angus Wiebe
    Angus Wiebe 2 days ago

    The people who break the cycle are society's unsung heroes

  • Alan Herrera
    Alan Herrera 2 days ago

    The 7.6k people who disliked missed the like button

  • Philip
    Philip 2 days ago


  • Soldier Shiba
    Soldier Shiba 2 days ago +1

    Beautiful TVclip recommendations

  • FlamingTP
    FlamingTP 2 days ago

    4:08 "It wasn't about the people, it was about the largest amount of damage, in the shortest amount of time, with the least amount of security." So let's make schools, malls, and public spaces less secure by keeping weapons away from regular people, who have the right to own them, for that exact purpose. Better yet let's make sure only the government owns weapons, because why would the government kill anyone? Why would any government kill anyone? RIP to the 545 million civilians disarmed and murdered by their governments since 1900. Rip to the less than 1000 kids killed in school shootings since 1776.

  • Graysen Bonifacio
    Graysen Bonifacio 2 days ago

    One of the only TED talks worth listening to in my opinion

  • mudda1931
    mudda1931 2 days ago

    Why don't we address the main issue of male violence which begins with the mutilation and cutting of the male genitalia IE circumcision followed by toxic masculinity standards and sending young high school students into military and navy and Marines to fight an imaginary war on terror while the men in suits laugh their asses off and sit happy at home and drink blood of the innocent

  • Project Bowler
    Project Bowler 2 days ago

    Nah I'm go shoot some children

  • Helen Yac
    Helen Yac 2 days ago +1

    This hit me hard awww❤️❤️

  • Rachel Brennan
    Rachel Brennan 2 days ago

    He went sicko mode

  • Dayangel
    Dayangel 2 days ago +1

    White people smh 🤦🏽‍♂️

  • NBa Life
    NBa Life 2 days ago

    This guy gets famous and Cruz goes to prison. Smh this justice system

  • weareanonmyous wecannotbestopped

    I feel you man I had a dark past as well still struggling to get over my past and become great like you man .

  • LongDrive Online
    LongDrive Online 3 days ago

    Wow.. this was an amazingly eye opening video. He did a fantastic job on stage. He is incredible and as is his best friend!

  • Nigga Stalin
    Nigga Stalin 3 days ago +2


  • TangyOrange
    TangyOrange 3 days ago +1

    Sometimes the best lessons don’t have to be from someone that has studied years to get where they are, but just someone who has had experience and learned from it.

  • Hesitant
    Hesitant 3 days ago +43

    Me: Teacher! May i go to the toilet?
    Teacher : I don't know, can you?
    Me: 0:05

  • derpy druid
    derpy druid 3 days ago +1

    top ten animes that were canceled too soon

  • TheTroll Mastah
    TheTroll Mastah 3 days ago

    Wooo Colorado!

  • CluxTux -Fortnite
    CluxTux -Fortnite 3 days ago +1

    *when you land at school in pubg but you die immediately*

    I'm sorry

  • Alexis Muñoz
    Alexis Muñoz 3 days ago

    The only thing i could dddddo

  • Elizabeth Grace
    Elizabeth Grace 3 days ago

    I am so proud that you did not do it and you showed that people can change.

  • chubbyboy7000
    chubbyboy7000 3 days ago +4

    Hate when that happens

  • Owen Watters
    Owen Watters 3 days ago

    I love the whites

  • Mindraa
    Mindraa 3 days ago +1

    *It's okay, take your time fella*

  • Fang Isador
    Fang Isador 3 days ago


  • Autsin Jones
    Autsin Jones 3 days ago

    I just wanna hug this guy

  • Royas HD
    Royas HD 3 days ago

    Who tf disliked this video?

    • NBa Life
      NBa Life 2 days ago

      Royas HD Ryan secrest

  • Ryan WYSS
    Ryan WYSS 3 days ago


  • oh yeah yeah
    oh yeah yeah 3 days ago +2

    people are making memes and jokes about this, this is a serious topic

    • FlaMeZ_ Leopard
      FlaMeZ_ Leopard 2 days ago

      +AndrewWigginsFan 22 thats lowkey funny idk I sorta fall under dark humor

    • NBa Life
      NBa Life 2 days ago

      AndrewWigginsFan 22 heck you!

    • NBa Life
      NBa Life 2 days ago

      A seriously funny one

    • AndrewWigginsFan 22
      AndrewWigginsFan 22 2 days ago

      Ikr...I saw a comment that said when the school runs out of pudding cups

  • TheLastWord 720
    TheLastWord 720 3 days ago

    This sounds like the plot of rdr2 lol

  • genjink
    genjink 3 days ago +2

    It’s a very hard thing to say, especially in front of that much people...

  • Ramón Salcedo
    Ramón Salcedo 3 days ago

    With that oilcan of a body you'd get maybe 2 kills max before the police forces drag you away.

  • True1 Gamer
    True1 Gamer 3 days ago +1

    *This should be shown in schools, offices, shopping centres and anywhere else where there are people.*

  • Fire and Ice
    Fire and Ice 3 days ago

    When the school shooter.....

  • The Pappi
    The Pappi 4 days ago

    When you lose to a bush

  • 21vegito
    21vegito 4 days ago

    It didnt show his friend? Is his friend jesus? Haha

  • Ellie Perry
    Ellie Perry 4 days ago

    Who else cried

  • Jeremy Camacho
    Jeremy Camacho 4 days ago

    I wouldn't even wish a life like that to my worst enemy

  • Animaljam Patite25
    Animaljam Patite25 4 days ago


  • apple pie
    apple pie 4 days ago +3

    I have nothing to say other than everyone needs to watch this video at least once.

  • Odx255 Odx255
    Odx255 Odx255 4 days ago +1

    I clicked on the video not knowing what I was going to to watch but after watching this I know that we can all make a difference this helped me change.

  • Master 22
    Master 22 4 days ago +1

    I feel bad for him😓

  • Watch out X NOO he has airpods in

    When the asain kid beats u at kahoot

  • Chillish
    Chillish 4 days ago

    what's next I was almost a terrorist?

  • luna smith
    luna smith 4 days ago


  • Daniel Fatone
    Daniel Fatone 4 days ago +1

    That title screams privilege and self loathing

  • Lewis Morrey
    Lewis Morrey 4 days ago +1

    When you come second in fortnite

  • Oh Yeah Yeah
    Oh Yeah Yeah 4 days ago +1

    “I was almost a school shooter…but I got winded while walking to school.”

  • Smash3636
    Smash3636 4 days ago +1

    I’m not crying you are

  • Rocky Dennis
    Rocky Dennis 5 days ago

    The only thing I can say is - That everyone should watch this video who goes to a school at least one time

  • Soggy Bread
    Soggy Bread 5 days ago


  • Natsu Dragneel
    Natsu Dragneel 5 days ago

    Aaron, thank you. As someone who was raised in a physically and mentally abusive household, with multiple family members beating me down and making me feel subhuman, I thought it would never get better. I felt hopeless, because each time I tried to reach out for help, my dad manipulated the person/teacher/CPS etc so they just thought I was lying. I was also the scapegoat, so that all my siblings were allowed and encouraged to abuse me. Everyone at home hated me, and I had a hard time keeping friends because of my behavior (acting out due to abuse and mistreating others because I knew no different). My parents would move a lot too, so when I was a teen, kids were more clique-y and I had NO friends. I never had love or hugs. At 17 I had a miracle happen to me, and for the first time, I felt a positive emotion. I felt love. Since then, it's still been a rocky road, but had I never felt that love, I often think that I would be dead, and maybe others, too. All I knew how to do was hurt and be hurt. I think its a wonder that I didn't take anyone's life, but I've never had the courage to admit that. Thank you for telling your story.

  • John Wilkos
    John Wilkos 5 days ago

    Can't even make out what this guys saying due to talking way too fast

  • Ben Nash
    Ben Nash 5 days ago

    Damn. That was intense.

  • EmiDa Hemi
    EmiDa Hemi 5 days ago


  • Elizabeth Cattanach
    Elizabeth Cattanach 5 days ago

    Thank you so much for being so brave to share your story with all of us.

  • Caspar von Weissenberg

    His last name "Stark" which is a Swedish word which means strong, and i don't know if it's a coincidence or not but he's really "Stark" mentally

    JEFF AMB 5 days ago

    3:03 dododododo

  • Bob Monopoly
    Bob Monopoly 5 days ago

    When someone calls a clone trooper a stormtrooper

  • Mr No Life
    Mr No Life 5 days ago

    *ok den*

  • GlitchNinja
    GlitchNinja 5 days ago

    Whats with all the dislikes