I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron Stark | TEDxBoulder

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  • Published on Jun 26, 2018
  • After growing up in painful, abusive conditions, Aaron Stark was on his way to an atrocity, until simple acts of kindness changed his life forever. What is causing the rise of violence and are our current fears and solutions just making it worse? My name is Aaron stark. I am 39 years old with 4 children, 2 cats, one dog, and a beautiful wife. I am a stay at home dad; my wife is the breadwinner of the family. I am a comic book fan, a pop culture junkie, and a lover of the sciences. I have more knowledge about superheros, pro wrestling, and comedy than anyone really has a right to. After growing up in very abusive and violent circumstances followed by over a decade if personal recovery, I am now a happy family man. I recently shred a very personal story of my triumph over my past, and it has changed my life forever. My mission is to let people know that no matter how dark it may seem, there is light coming. We really are not alone. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • saltysmile
    saltysmile 48 minutes ago

    Wonderful video 👍

  • Jacob Wilson
    Jacob Wilson Hour ago

    shoulda went thru with the misson

  • Tic Tac
    Tic Tac 3 hours ago

    Aw bless his heart ❤

  • GhostDog 2
    GhostDog 2 4 hours ago

    My girlfriend gets hit by her parents. She is super shy and we are extremely in love, but the mother hates me because i am older than her daughter. She knows i will do something to stop her. Either friendly or unfriendly. I can be very aggressive if i need to.
    I hate this women.

  • lil leprechaun boi
    lil leprechaun boi 4 hours ago

    Me: loses a game of kahoot
    I was almost a school shooter

  • kimchi is good
    kimchi is good 5 hours ago

    I cried bcz I relate in most ways

  • Scott Moody
    Scott Moody 7 hours ago

    Our social services are a joke. My “mom” use to take kids in and said she was doing it for them when really she just wanted the checks that came with it. As soon as I hit 18 and was out of school and the child support money stopped she kicked me out. And now has done pretty much the same to them every after being reported to them many many times. This place is full of awful people that ruined good people like this dude for their own gain

  • Hawaiindyl Beats
    Hawaiindyl Beats 12 hours ago

    theres many reasons why i almost cried to this. To fight through so much pain and still be running and fighting omg. and after he said that he had 4 kids and a wife i teared up .

  • Green Bay Duke
    Green Bay Duke 12 hours ago +1

    Leave me alone I watched it!

  • Offensive Content
    Offensive Content 13 hours ago

    Me when I recover on a kahoot game that I was in last place on but climbed to 3rd place

  • Ryan Ross
    Ryan Ross 14 hours ago

    Gotta believe in a God

  • Nez Jinatic
    Nez Jinatic 16 hours ago

    Disgusts me that people are joking and creating memes about this in the comments.

  • Charlie 5115
    Charlie 5115 16 hours ago

    When your playing kahoot and you get 1 question wrong and go from 1st to 17th

  • Cry Tz
    Cry Tz 18 hours ago

    when your teacher kicks your name off kahoot

  • Blackholle
    Blackholle 18 hours ago

    The child who is not embraced by its village, will burn it down to feel its warmth. - African proverb

  • tyhd_Frangoo
    tyhd_Frangoo 18 hours ago

    *crab song intensifies*

  • DownieMcSyndrome
    DownieMcSyndrome 19 hours ago

    "Bang bang, you shot me down, bang bang"

  • Noah Peracciny
    Noah Peracciny 21 hour ago

    Who came from the memes?

  • Juli Guerrero
    Juli Guerrero 21 hour ago

    I’m sorry 3:03 has me dead 😂

  • eben landford
    eben landford 21 hour ago

    Even tho lot of shooters come from great homes , I definitely feel where's he coming from. Kinda grew up in a similar household. Very touching 😪😪

  • Matthew Lawson
    Matthew Lawson 22 hours ago

    Weird flex but ok

  • Domi Salami
    Domi Salami 22 hours ago

    “I was almost a school shooter” everyone starts clapping

  • NeverEnding
    NeverEnding 23 hours ago

    This has nothing to do with this video but I wanna show you something that happened at school recently:
    Teacher asked me: Are you doing? (x4)
    Me: What do you mean?
    Teacher: Are you doing your work or are you talking?
    Me: Both
    And then I turned to my friend who was coincidentally sitting right next to me and said: Man it feels good to be a gangster
    xD

  • qwickwaffles
    qwickwaffles Day ago

    This needs to be shown at schools

  • TENBAGER
    TENBAGER Day ago

    🙏🙏🙏🤝🤝

  • Cheese Etc
    Cheese Etc Day ago +1

    I cried watching this. It's relatable.

  • Li4rz
    Li4rz Day ago

    That part when he said his mom told him if he was good she'd buy a razer blade, I started balling.

  • Migo Valderama
    Migo Valderama Day ago

    He almost ended up like Phil Swift.
    NOW THAT'S ALOTTA DAMAGE

  • Mike James
    Mike James Day ago

    Wow I actually learned something from this

  • Dr McDickPic
    Dr McDickPic Day ago

    OOF

  • khai
    khai Day ago

    He talks really fast

  • mikuchan
    mikuchan Day ago

    damn this hit home. i can relate to this even though i honestly didn't have it as awful as he did, emotionally and mentally i totally relate. i physically relate but i was more mentally and emotionally abused than physical. cutting was my escape too. it was at home where i felt the worse. im happy to hear a positive story like this.

  • Random Bellzers
    Random Bellzers Day ago

    I’ve been seeing this so much in my recommendations and don’t know why it took me until now to watch it

  • John Reuse
    John Reuse Day ago

    Love the story

  • ish lucas
    ish lucas Day ago

    3:35

  • SneakyEnchalada
    SneakyEnchalada Day ago +3

    This man is amazing. I know that it is hard to get up and tell people how you feel. I can do it easily through comments like this, but I cannot imagine how much courage it would take to do this. Good job to this man and I believe that everything he said was true.

  • internet user
    internet user Day ago

    Is that Bruce Campbell in the audience at @3:53

  • Crazy Cardenas
    Crazy Cardenas Day ago

    The bad thing he didn’t shoot up the school

  • mr. marshmallow
    mr. marshmallow Day ago

    *when you lose the kahoot*

  • Sympathen
    Sympathen Day ago

    me: watches this video
    recommended: HEY WHY DON'T YOU WATCH 150 OTHER TED TALK VIDEOS??

  • Fortnite Clips
    Fortnite Clips Day ago

    i like this man

  • Tom Graham
    Tom Graham Day ago

    i need this guy to help me :(

  • Dylan Webbster
    Dylan Webbster Day ago

    I could listen to this guy all day

  • BigBrown 70
    BigBrown 70 Day ago

    Joke

    ME: hey teacher
    Teacher: yes
    Me: can I ask a question
    Teacher: yes
    Me: how do you put an elephant in a fridge
    Teacher: I don’t know, how
    Me: well you open the door and put it inside
    Can I ask another question
    Teacher: yes
    Me: how do you put a donkey in a fridge
    Teacher: oh that’s easy you just open the door and put it inside
    Me: no no no you have to open the door take the elephant out and then put it inside
    Teacher: oh
    Me: can I ask another
    Teacher: yes
    Me: if all the animals went to the lions birthday party which one would be missing
    Teacher: the lion of course, because it ate all the animals
    Me: no the donkey because it’s still in the fridge
    Teacher: oh hahaha
    Me: can I ask one more?
    Teacher: ok make it fast
    Me: if your at a river with a whole bunch of alligators how do you cross it?
    Teacher: I don’t know, how
    Me: all the animals are at the lions party so you just swim

  • justmadeit2
    justmadeit2 Day ago +2

    You
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    Is!
    Look At The First Two Words for The Answer!
    Please give me a like and i will return after i receive one thousand likes with a second comment, yes a second commment and who knows what wisdom i may say next time ? ;)

  • ooreoana B
    ooreoana B Day ago

    Me: *Makes Edgy Kahoot Username*
    Teacher: *Deletes user name*
    Me:

  • Liny Bene
    Liny Bene Day ago

    Me:can I use the restroom
    Teacher:*may* I go to the restroom
    Me:I was almost a school shooter

  • Julian Nicholson

    I love his story but I feel like this is an attempt to humanize school shooters or mass shooters who take the lives of dozens so idk

  • TC Skips
    TC Skips Day ago

    I legit cried when I heard this guy speak and I'm one of the most unsympathetic cynical person you'll ever meet. I've got that kind of numbing depression that makes me feel useless.

  • Hot panda 1213
    Hot panda 1213 2 days ago

    one day i will be one

  • komylo
    komylo 2 days ago

    I still don’t completely get it why shoot a school and not himself

  • GP J
    GP J 2 days ago

    Wait why did she say she’ll buy him the razor blades I don’t get it

  • oX DRIP
    oX DRIP 2 days ago

    this is so wonderful

  • Bobqwt
    Bobqwt 2 days ago

    *Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning."-Psalm 30:5*

  • NeoPsychotic
    NeoPsychotic 2 days ago

    He's mentally instable, he obviously needs to be turned into the fbi :P

  • Daniel Brown
    Daniel Brown 2 days ago

    All 7 thousand of you that disliked the video..... go die in a hole, just go

  • Bucket Pale
    Bucket Pale 2 days ago

    I swear to God clicking in to this I thought this was gonna be a stand up comedy

  • Mr Pest
    Mr Pest 2 days ago

    Good video

  • Jet Song
    Jet Song 2 days ago

    thanks for sharing dude! Powerful moving...

  • Foxy.MoMo.24
    Foxy.MoMo.24 2 days ago

    they need to show this to schools and colleges they really need to this is such a meaning full video:(

  • Coyote Recon
    Coyote Recon 2 days ago

    0:06 when everyone at school can’t do anything but relate to fortnite...

  • xd Archi3
    xd Archi3 2 days ago

    *and NOW 17 of these videos are in my recommendation section*

  • Thegoatguy O
    Thegoatguy O 2 days ago +3

    I’m fcking 13 and the only thing I have to worry about is my grades and I thought that that was a big burden to carry but then I see this video and it actually makes think about every single little fcking thing in mi life is actually so god damn precious... this is the only video that has made me cry EVER. Much love to this man ❤️

  • Bajen
    Bajen 2 days ago

    So moving. What a man.

  • Mike Aliberti
    Mike Aliberti 2 days ago

    But what does heavy metal have to do with it?

  • Molag Bal Deadric God of Domination

    Man, I respect you for all you’ve been though but heavy metal and mosh pits aren’t bad
    I’m really sorry for what you had to deal with and I am really happy you’re better I can’t even find the words
    People have something to learn from you.

  • Bloodgaze
    Bloodgaze 2 days ago

    Been there.

  • Dudidfufu Xhdufjfj
    Dudidfufu Xhdufjfj 2 days ago

    When you answer a question wrong and every1 laughs

  • Blaster Blaze
    Blaster Blaze 2 days ago

    Weird Flex but Okay

  • Jacob Wilson
    Jacob Wilson 3 days ago

    A SANDY HOOK

  • Jacob Wilson
    Jacob Wilson 3 days ago

    WHAT KIND OF MOVE CAN TAKE OUT 40 FIRST GRADERS?

  • Jacob Wilson
    Jacob Wilson 3 days ago

    SO RELATABLE, EXCEPT I WENT THROUGH WITH THE MISSION.

  • VibinTracks
    VibinTracks 3 days ago +4

    I wanna meet this man so bad and just talk with him for straight up hours and hours....
    I got so much respect for him.

  • Wildman Wild
    Wildman Wild 3 days ago +1

    Awesome video! i bet that took a lot of guts. Take care buddy.

  • Wrath Gamer
    Wrath Gamer 3 days ago +1

    Mr. -aaron- stark I don't feel so good

  • niftyd123
    niftyd123 3 days ago

    It's really beautiful how fast a life can change.

  • hi guy
    hi guy 3 days ago

    AARON AARON AARON

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    Joshua_99 9 3 days ago

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  • colintraveller
    colintraveller 3 days ago

    You talk some shite

  • J E
    J E 3 days ago

    Thank you for sharing I’m so glad you were brave not to go threw with it! you are one awesome man! I know what you went threw as I went threw a lot of the same things... im happy your in a relationship? Im happy to see you have children? Does your heart still hurt? How did you break the cycle? God bless your soul your a very good looking man, keep your chin up 💛🧡❤️💚💜💙

  • Kim Nayeon
    Kim Nayeon 3 days ago

    This is probably my first time listening to someone entire speech in 7 minutes

  • Hakimz Skrrt
    Hakimz Skrrt 3 days ago

    All respect to this man, i dont think anyone here Will understand the pain he been trough. People who bullying other people are the at the lowest point anyone can get. Sadly some humans shouldn’t be alive because they make so many people take suicide

  • WIIFIGHT!
    WIIFIGHT! 3 days ago +1

    Who'd of thought in the future he'd end up reviewing video game articles, consoles, and other things

  • Not Hananj
    Not Hananj 3 days ago

    He’s such an inspiration what a great speech!!! He’s an amazing man

  • blitz has fitz
    blitz has fitz 3 days ago

    He was gonna *kashoot the school*

  • SamF2007
    SamF2007 3 days ago

    Who disliked this

  • Subscribe To Your President.

    TVclip Rewind don’t do it

  • Where Is The Sauce Of Lamb

    I saw this guy

  • Aaron Silva
    Aaron Silva 3 days ago +1

    I almost was an ax-murderer, but now I give motivational speaches. Don't at all be alarmed by me admitting that I have the personality type to potentially MURDER INNOCENT PEOPLE, just listen to my speech!
    Sorry dude, but anyone who almost murdered a bunch of kids should be locked the F#%K up, I don't care what you have to say about it, you're dangerous.

  • Jaz and Aiden
    Jaz and Aiden 3 days ago

    Love this guy

  • Sabina
    Sabina 3 days ago

    His words are so impactful. Its nice to see him here talking about his story. I hope people can learn from this

  • Gabriel Arends
    Gabriel Arends 3 days ago +21

    When your playing kahoot and drop from 1 to 23

  • Jacktigers 2306
    Jacktigers 2306 3 days ago

    When you miss one question in kahoot and drop from #2 to #13...

  • the Vengeance guy
    the Vengeance guy 3 days ago +3

    Watta story at the end!

  • Cara Lewis
    Cara Lewis 3 days ago +1

    😢😢😢😢😢👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • Yeet Yeet
    Yeet Yeet 3 days ago

    American gun culture pisses me off

    • All Lives Matter
      All Lives Matter Day ago

      Yeet Yeet Actually they have done that. The second amendment was put in place so that our military could own guns to defend our country, and so the people can own guns to keep them safe from people who want to hurt them. The truth is, even if people wanted to get rid of the right to bare arms, bad people would still own them because bad people don’t care about the law. Like drugs. Sure, drugs are illegal, but people still get their hands on them. We are safer with guns.

    • Yeet Yeet
      Yeet Yeet Day ago

      +All Lives Matter maybe they could just make it so it's harder to buy and own a gun but they are way too accessible right now

    • All Lives Matter
      All Lives Matter Day ago

      Yeet Yeet Well why should they?

    • Yeet Yeet
      Yeet Yeet Day ago

      +All Lives Matter yep and the fact they won't change it

    • All Lives Matter
      All Lives Matter 3 days ago

      Yeet Yeet the second amendment?

  • Sara Giita Flores
    Sara Giita Flores 4 days ago +1

    Thank you so much for your beautiful story of resilience!

  • summertime_231
    summertime_231 4 days ago +1

    This, and a lot of other things, just goes back to people having kids that shouldn't

  • Hardcore
    Hardcore 4 days ago

    he had no balls lol