I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron Stark | TEDxBoulder

  • Published on Jun 26, 2018
  • After growing up in painful, abusive conditions, Aaron Stark was on his way to an atrocity, until simple acts of kindness changed his life forever. What is causing the rise of violence and are our current fears and solutions just making it worse? My name is Aaron stark. I am 39 years old with 4 children, 2 cats, one dog, and a beautiful wife. I am a stay at home dad; my wife is the breadwinner of the family. I am a comic book fan, a pop culture junkie, and a lover of the sciences. I have more knowledge about superheros, pro wrestling, and comedy than anyone really has a right to. After growing up in very abusive and violent circumstances followed by over a decade if personal recovery, I am now a happy family man. I recently shred a very personal story of my triumph over my past, and it has changed my life forever. My mission is to let people know that no matter how dark it may seem, there is light coming. We really are not alone. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • Dallah Bills
    Dallah Bills Hour ago +1

    Big Show’s cousin Talent Show!!!

  • Sauce M’geeser
    Sauce M’geeser 2 hours ago

    too obese to live tbh

  • Loc Phan
    Loc Phan 2 hours ago

    He closes his eyes while sharing his story. That makes me hurt!.

  • Neal Swanson
    Neal Swanson 3 hours ago

    Did he just end up eating everyone?

  • Zero
    Zero 4 hours ago

    He has balls, I like this guy

  • fabian ramirez
    fabian ramirez 4 hours ago

    Drop a couple tears not ganna lie

  • Sir Quackerton
    Sir Quackerton 5 hours ago +1


  • JC Denton
    JC Denton 6 hours ago

    I honestly hope his parents are dead and rotting

  • ss officer nig boy
    ss officer nig boy 6 hours ago

    Poe when master sheefu kicks him out of the dojo and he can longer be kung fu panda

  • na. Naj
    na. Naj 8 hours ago

    The man at 0:04: i was almost a school shooter

  • CH27
    CH27 8 hours ago +1

    Emo and depressed Kids because their Roblox accounts got banned after this video:

  • lordSeaworth
    lordSeaworth 9 hours ago

    lol like that make him any better then before

    • DeathScythe
      DeathScythe 4 hours ago

      What do you mean by that? That his struggles didn't mean anything?

  • James Bilotta
    James Bilotta 10 hours ago +1

    Wow. That was one deeply poignant ted talk.

  • Veronica Escobar
    Veronica Escobar 10 hours ago

    So much respect

  • Stain
    Stain 10 hours ago

    Powerfull stuff

  • Jakob
    Jakob 12 hours ago +1

    Normally when I'm done watching a video, I just start the next one.
    This time was different. I put my phone down and just sat there and thought for a while before commenting this. Thanks for this TEDx talk

  • TealMonster57 Gaming
    TealMonster57 Gaming 12 hours ago

    Anyone else crying right now

  • Dave C.
    Dave C. 13 hours ago

    ‘When you give a luncheon or a dinner, do not invite your friends or your brothers or your relatives or rich neighbors, in case they may invite you in return, and you would be repaid. But when you give a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, and the blind. And you will be blessed, because they cannot repay you, for you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous.’ - Jesus

  • Eggs Benidict
    Eggs Benidict 15 hours ago +1

    *🎵all the other kids with the pumped up kicks better run better run🎵*

  • Eliot McLellan
    Eliot McLellan 15 hours ago +1

    almost skinny

  • G1zmo
    G1zmo 16 hours ago +1

    Bruh why would he pass up a victory royale

  • justin sooroojdeen
    justin sooroojdeen 17 hours ago

    Has 20 level 100 characters in world of warcraft

  • Jean Pierre maximus
    Jean Pierre maximus 22 hours ago +2


  • klavier285
    klavier285 Day ago

    How about people just stop bullying and be kinder to one another then there won't be any shooters. Nah, that's too hard isn't it.

    • lordSeaworth
      lordSeaworth 9 hours ago

      If you become a shooter because of bullying then yikes.

  • Pyrex TV
    Pyrex TV Day ago +2

    Honestly almost isnt good enough

  • Bairaqar Pinker
    Bairaqar Pinker Day ago

    No disrespect, but 0.75 speed fits perfectly to this video, as a non-native speaker it was hard to receive information that fast.

    • Andrew Hsu
      Andrew Hsu 10 hours ago

      Just not a professional speaker, talking about personal pain/experience without training is hard

  • Kurt D.
    Kurt D. Day ago

    That was a well deserved standing O.

  • loading.
    loading. Day ago

    Why isn't his friend up there?

    RONDOUG Day ago +3

    this is the same thing the african american community goes through. Growing up in bad environments. with your own people against you and the law. People lose it. join gangs etc.. literally a cycle.

  • Milo F
    Milo F Day ago +1

    Sooooo deep

  • Attila Horváth
    Attila Horváth Day ago

    I never cry

    After watching the video : I didn't cry , just tears were coming out of my eyes

  • Jana
    Jana Day ago +3

    I wish I could just give this man a hug. Or whatever, to everyone who reads this right now, I'm sending you a big warm virtual hug 💗

  • All Abored
    All Abored Day ago

    This is all white people

  • FBI
    FBI Day ago +1

    My friends talk about this video being on our recommend 😂 now I watched its still funny sorry

  • Beef Curtains
    Beef Curtains Day ago +1

    Are we really at the point where we are congratulating people for not committing crimes?

    • lordSeaworth
      lordSeaworth 9 hours ago

      Murica. This talk is the dumbest thing ever.

  • Plazys
    Plazys Day ago

    can this get out of my recommendations already??

    • Plazys
      Plazys 5 hours ago

      Mojokapitan yes

    • Mojokapitan
      Mojokapitan 5 hours ago

      Can you get out of this coment secton

  • Nursultan Bekmuratov

    he almost won

  • ViC
    ViC Day ago

    Wow. No one would have cared about his problems if he would have done it. It would probably have been the music's fault. ..."And just think about his poor parents living in shame now....", stuff like that I guess. Good to hear a version of the other side once, school shooters hardly ever get to that point.

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  • sangdusaturn
    sangdusaturn Day ago

    we congrat the gesture of this person just because he didn't do so, and of course it's okey, but when someone's does something like that instead of thinking why we just condemn it even more

    MR BACKHAND Day ago

    farrk thats big balls right there..... to come out and say that.. thats a life changer

  • xoDayPlays
    xoDayPlays 2 days ago

    So so so so much respect for this man

  • Roberto Villa
    Roberto Villa 2 days ago


  • BassedUpMusic _
    BassedUpMusic _ 2 days ago

    Shmool shmooter

  • FN Xotify
    FN Xotify 2 days ago

    When I lose a game of kahoot.

  • Cowley Road
    Cowley Road 2 days ago


  • Jaron Green
    Jaron Green 2 days ago +1

    Friendship truly is magic. I don't care what anyone else tells me.

  • RWDS
    RWDS 2 days ago +1

    See how he mentions the security... if schools were guarded it wouldn’t be the go to place for shooters

    ABHAY PRABHU 2 days ago

    The only dislikes on this should be from the families who lost their loved ones to a shooting. I know it might not be possible to out-grow that pain. But I hope we as a people can try to prevent it.

  • Redbig redbigstan
    Redbig redbigstan 2 days ago

    Petition to make him call his son "Howard" , that is if he will have any

  • carrnil
    carrnil 2 days ago +2

    "I was almost a man who made a speech on Ted about almost being a school shooter"

  • AssassinOfGermany
    AssassinOfGermany 2 days ago

    Wow. This story hurts really bad

  • NsD_ RW
    NsD_ RW 2 days ago


  • anton
    anton 2 days ago +1

    He does look like a school shooter

  • p schaub
    p schaub 2 days ago

    STILL no emphasis on the parents! Troubled youth is born from SH*T parents. It's the parent(s) that need to be investigated and punished. Otherwise, great Ted talk, thanks for sharing.

  • ApolloGrey
    ApolloGrey 3 days ago +1

    he stutters so much, you can tell that this is very painful to talk about. props to him for talking about this in front of a crowd like that.

  • Wutang-Dan!
    Wutang-Dan! 3 days ago +5

    I hate to be THAT person but I dont care how depressed or deprived you are. It is extremely sick and selfish to i flict your pain upon hundreds of innocent bystanders. Nothing and I mean nothing will ever excuse the thoughts that went through his head. Its just a good job someone helped him when they did. That man was sick. But respect to him for telling the truth and opening up. And big respect for turning his life around.

    • Nico L.
      Nico L. Day ago

      We're all selfish bastards, that's how we are.

  • Steve Harvey
    Steve Harvey 3 days ago

    when the autistic kid starts doing fortnite dances

  • Zane Eey
    Zane Eey 3 days ago +1

    my poop stinks

  • Gavin
    Gavin 3 days ago

    I came to TVclip to Laugh not cry damn it

  • Ryder Wilson
    Ryder Wilson 3 days ago

    why is this in my recommended? wait... does youtube think I'm a school shooter? XD hahahha

  • smakkacow
    smakkacow 3 days ago

    jesus, I half cried with him. _AMAZING!_

  • sexy squidward
    sexy squidward 3 days ago

    so he was a over-emotional brat.

    • Mr Mr E
      Mr Mr E Day ago

      Lmao you are a keyboard warrior

  • sexy squidward
    sexy squidward 3 days ago

    i had an overweight problem still looks like you still do.

  • Joshua David
    Joshua David 3 days ago

    Like seriously? How tf are you alive if you just got randomly harpooned throughout school?

    • Arman Nangia
      Arman Nangia 3 days ago

      I don’t think he was actually harpooned, just that people would act like they were harpooning him. Just doing the action of harpooning.

  • Mikswu
    Mikswu 3 days ago


  • kyle rosen
    kyle rosen 3 days ago +1

    One of the most inspiring speeches I’ve heard on Ted Talks. Huge love for you my friend and especially the man who gave you unconditional kindness......without knowing it, he has saved a lot of peoples lives and many families from lifelong grief.

  • Louie Dewar
    Louie Dewar 3 days ago

    This really do be a tedX BOULDER

  • Rich Adam Budgen
    Rich Adam Budgen 3 days ago

    Wow. That one made me shed a tear

  • Cedric Vandevelde
    Cedric Vandevelde 3 days ago

    You have my biggest respect sir

  • _Idiomas Entusiásticas_

    This is so sad

  • Darth Gale
    Darth Gale 3 days ago +6

    When you lose a game of kahoot

  • visibly confused
    visibly confused 3 days ago +3

    came here to make school shooter jokes but ended up feeling terribly bad for you man. im so sorry to hear what happened to you in your life and am glad its over

  • L. .Poser
    L. .Poser 3 days ago +10

    Me: wanting a short break from studying
    TVclip: „I was almost a School Shooter | Aaron Stark | TedxBoulder“
    Me: *almost crying*

  • A Matías Quezada
    A Matías Quezada 3 days ago


  • De Eff
    De Eff 4 days ago

    What a great personality!

  • Joose Pajunen
    Joose Pajunen 4 days ago

    I rlly wanna give this man a hug...

  • Robo Philic
    Robo Philic 4 days ago

    Who's chopping onion

  • JayCra456 Games
    JayCra456 Games 4 days ago

    Your very brave for doing this, but there is a problem. Not everyone who was horrible was abused and treated like you and have done very horrible things. A perfect example is Ted bundy, he seemed quite ordinary, and then killed over 30 women. Everyone is different mentally and now, and believe it or not, there are people out there who would shoot up a school and not care about the hugs and kisses, therefor they are a potential threat,

  • Arthur Asulyan
    Arthur Asulyan 4 days ago

    Wow, that was... touching

  • Skip Rocker
    Skip Rocker 4 days ago

    Props, you found your calling

  • zjn890
    zjn890 4 days ago

    "Love the ones you feel deserve it the least, because they're the ones that need it the most" bro...

  • Josh Bautista
    Josh Bautista 4 days ago

    Tear up when he started crying

  • Vörös Gellért
    Vörös Gellért 4 days ago +1

    This guy has a tough life. Respect.

  • Tyler Inouye
    Tyler Inouye 4 days ago

    The video games make people violent it’s really the suicide problem with people and parents are being abusive to other kids and homes that’s all they can say place for everybody it’s not the video games fault

  • Lyhound the wolf
    Lyhound the wolf 4 days ago

    0:07 when you lost your lunchbox with welch fruit snacks and lunchambles but finally found it

  • Ghassan Khan
    Ghassan Khan 4 days ago

    They just be letting anyone have a TEDex talk these days

  • inceptional
    inceptional 4 days ago

    Before watching this I'll just say what I think: This will likely show you a good example of what the real cause of these atrocities is--and it's not f'n video games (for all the dummies blaming stuff like video games for school shootings and whatever other violence)!

  • Frank Dawe
    Frank Dawe 4 days ago

    It's a screwed up world today, and there is NO simple answer to everybody's problems. Maybe this man's life would have been much better had he been taken from his "parents" at a young age. But then, it isn't easy to find good foster parents who have the child's best interests at heart. Even those who have good intentions often have their own families to care for, with their own issues. My wife and I have worked in Youth Corrections for many years, and we have seen many teenagers who would prefer to be inside the Youth Detention Centre where we work, instead of being home.

  • Thms
    Thms 4 days ago

    Woooow thats nice

  • Farid Zuchrinata
    Farid Zuchrinata 4 days ago

    MUCH respect to this man

  • BartosH Mistrzowski
    BartosH Mistrzowski 4 days ago +1

    Big man thank you for the story and take care of yourself and your family and friends. Bless ya all.

  • Hayo
    Hayo 4 days ago

    I legit cried

  • Cyph _
    Cyph _ 5 days ago

    I literally just clicked on this vid to say


  • Big Chungus
    Big Chungus 5 days ago

    I’m not crying, your crying.

    • Mr Mr E
      Mr Mr E Day ago

      And I'm not.

  • TheMattc999
    TheMattc999 5 days ago

    This guy doesn't need to be talking at a Ted talk, he needs to be talking at schools. All of them.

  • R13 Ghost
    R13 Ghost 5 days ago

    strange how i click one video of tedx talk the next videos are just ted talk ,but with other channels there are random videos :/

  • Devguy Gaming
    Devguy Gaming 5 days ago +2

    This needs to be shared

  • Konquetz
    Konquetz 5 days ago

    That's why I love Trump.

  • Trice Pruitt
    Trice Pruitt 5 days ago +3

    What a brave story to tell! The world needs this! I am so proud of you Aaron! Thank you for your courage. Thanks for shining light in the darkness.