RUDE Japanese Words You Use Without Knowing + What You Should Say Instead

  • Published on Aug 26, 2017
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    In this lesson we'll learn words & phrases you should avoid.
    There are LOTS of words that learners use but are actually RUDE / CRINGEY in Japanese.
    If you learn Japanese just using dictionaries, Google Translate and textbooks, you end up sounding RUDE AND WEIRD D:
    Do you know how to say these things in Japanese PROPERLY?:
    - I love you.
    (Phrase you get from the Google Translate is NOOOO!)
    - I'm happy to be your friend.
    - Thank you. (Arigatou is rude!)
    - Lots of ways to say the word "you"
    - "Well done" (yoku dekimashita - looking down at someone)
    - Imperative (e.g. たべろ!いけ!) vs Request form (e.g. たべて!いって!)
    - How to SWEAR / Japanese Swear Words
    - I feel bad. (Does かわいそう mean "it LOOKS cute"???)
    and MUCH MORE ★
    P.S. Japanese can be very different depending on the region.
    What I'm teaching is the standard (hyoujungo) Japanese that's used in Tokyo / Kanto region. ^^
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Comments • 3 832

  • aditya sunil
    aditya sunil 6 hours ago

    I HV heard a lot of kisama in anime!!

  • MetalGuitarManiac
    MetalGuitarManiac 21 hour ago

    god you are so cute. it hurts to live on the other side of the world :'(

  • Jorge David Cázares


  • Nagisa Furukawa
    Nagisa Furukawa Day ago

    さすがですう !ミサ先生 (^^)

  • Oluso Pham
    Oluso Pham Day ago

    Without knowing their name, what should I use to replace "anata"? In case they generally older than me?

  • john carmichael
    john carmichael 2 days ago

    These explanations are incomplete and misleading in some cases

  • Crystal Goodheart
    Crystal Goodheart 3 days ago

    You should play yandere simulator it’s a Japanese anime game about a girl and her Senpai

  • Lopsang Lama
    Lopsang Lama 3 days ago +1

    temeeee/yamerooooo is such a common word in anime :D

  • Hoki - Yami
    Hoki - Yami 4 days ago

    さすが、ほんとにすごいビデオですよ、みさ先生 :)。

  • やさ
    やさ 4 days ago

    japanese so hard 😂

  • Henrique von Büren
    Henrique von Büren 4 days ago +1

    omg I learned so much thank you! You're soo cute!

  • Jason Fisher
    Jason Fisher 4 days ago

    What about きみ?

  • Jessa Plaras
    Jessa Plaras 5 days ago

    Does " oyasuminasai " have a parental tone too?

  • Trenaway ElDaryl
    Trenaway ElDaryl 5 days ago

    InuYasha, was always saying kuso-babaa to the elderly priestess, and the older lady was always wanting to kick his ass. LOL!

  • Trenaway ElDaryl
    Trenaway ElDaryl 5 days ago

    Did I get this shirt right, in "let us eat"?

  • Kleeb VR
    Kleeb VR 6 days ago

    That is the way I am in the US. I don't show my emotions through statements like I love you nearly as much as by actions and asking people to be careful etc.

  • Jochen Saur
    Jochen Saur 7 days ago

    i just lost my interest to learn japanese

  • dennis sonza
    dennis sonza 7 days ago


  • Franklin Yana
    Franklin Yana 8 days ago

    te amo profesora .. eres la mejor !!!

  • Franklin Yana
    Franklin Yana 8 days ago


  • Gerald Fiore
    Gerald Fiore 8 days ago

    Thank you I learnt a little today, I will start to learn

  • Yuraya
    Yuraya 8 days ago


  • Corrupt Neo
    Corrupt Neo 8 days ago

    Sumimasen Misa Chan 😇

  • Vivek Khare
    Vivek Khare 9 days ago

    I just watched few mins and .... I decided to watch the whole video series.. Too much effort to put a great video yoku dekimashata

  • Nyoman Satcitta
    Nyoman Satcitta 12 days ago

    is calling you きみ is also a rude?

  • eduardowemb
    eduardowemb 16 days ago

    I've been watching your videos and they are amazing.
    よろしくね! =)

  • Hosea Rolyn Quindiagan

    This helps me a bit... thank you

  • Gamers lCinema
    Gamers lCinema 16 days ago

    Serious question what is the best way to use the word "you" in conversation? Formal.

    • Gamers lCinema
      Gamers lCinema 7 days ago

      @Ywoak In the event that you don't know the person's name

    • Ywoak
      Ywoak 14 days ago

      Gamers lCinema dont
      Replace with people name and title

  • どうしよう三木
    どうしよう三木 18 days ago

    Haha you are so funny and makes the lesson so fun

  • Arsidala
    Arsidala 19 days ago

    Misa speaks Japanese... My ears takes it as ASMR and I get so calm that I want to sleep :)

  • obito rai
    obito rai 19 days ago

    Sugoi Mira sensei 😂😂😂😂.

  • No Anime No Life
    No Anime No Life 20 days ago +1


  • Ryonn Nonato
    Ryonn Nonato 21 day ago


  • Marius Cristian Anca
    Marius Cristian Anca 22 days ago

    Japanese nead more love xD

  • Trollusing90sRules70sRules50sRules30sRulesFuck80s


  • IshidaNikurasu
    IshidaNikurasu 28 days ago

    Now i understand why Naruto froze up and ran away when someone said ''temee'' to him 😂

  • Aaron Seet
    Aaron Seet 28 days ago

    I personally don't think the imperative ろ should be directly translated to "fucking ". An English speaker can still be extremely harsh without use of vulgar words. It registers more with the tone and loudness of one's utterance.
    Stop it. やめて
    STOP IT!!! やめろ

  • Aaron Seet
    Aaron Seet 28 days ago

    So is 畜生 harsh?

  • Aaron Seet
    Aaron Seet 28 days ago

    あんた is even ruder/superior, correct?
    And wouldn't you recommend saying person's name (e.g. みささん) instead of あなた?
    Also, what's the history for some wives calling their husbands あなた ?

  • Semi Half
    Semi Half 29 days ago

    Kimochi Warui!

  • David Bagley
    David Bagley 29 days ago

    Good job

  • Soufflelemond
    Soufflelemond 29 days ago +12

    for the rest or my life I shall use anata to assert my dominance

  • Jupiters' wolf
    Jupiters' wolf Month ago +1

    Language in General is hard

  • Baby Blue
    Baby Blue Month ago

    You are the best teacher. How do I become a student with a defined structured program?

  • it’s britney bih
    it’s britney bih Month ago

    this is making me nervous im gonna mess up and im not even in japan

  • V SW
    V SW Month ago

    Arigatou Gozaimasu Misa. I'm really learning a lot from you on learning to speak Japanese. It's not easy. But, It's fun to learn, & watch you talk about it. & I hope I said Thank You in the right way here.

  • StrawberrySakura
    StrawberrySakura Month ago

    さす が みさ です

  • kokokyoushi
    kokokyoushi Month ago

    What to say instead of "anata" was not explained. What should one say, to be polite, when it is necessary to clarify the speaker means to stress he/she is referring to the person to whom he/she is speaking? "otaku?"

  • Arinda Ariza
    Arinda Ariza Month ago

    how about "kimi" was it also rude? and want to said "you" but in native and polite way. for example when i want to say "do you want to go to that place too?"

  • Tigers!
    Tigers! Month ago

    さすが! It occurred to me, wouldn't one use さすが after a person has failed if they were trying to severely put them down?

  • Lumivasos corp
    Lumivasos corp Month ago

    さすがみさ先生  ありがとうごだいます

  • Grand Mestre des Poulpes

    "we should keep in touch"
    Basically what you say when you definitely want to leave the place right now and you don't really be in touch with somebody ^^

  • Miss lemonade Squishy

    I wish siri would watch this cause she said it

  • Tom - Rainbow Six: Siege

    What abour "Kimi"?

  • Paul Michael Camitan


  • D. Frey
    D. Frey Month ago

    Is there a video about the difference between ~そう and ~よう?

  • Angharad Llewellyn
    Angharad Llewellyn Month ago

    You are a very good teacher. Thanks!

  • Alyx Arcoíris
    Alyx Arcoíris Month ago

    me: *watches this*
    also me: *giggles thinking about KisaMake videos*
    me: ugh don't be rude

  • Phantom !
    Phantom ! Month ago

    I got a question actually! If “nasai” is meant to be parental and a tad demanding then what does it mean in “gomenasai”?

  • meshunderlay
    meshunderlay Month ago

    Thanks for the video. What about a phrase like "oyasuminasai"?

  • Jun Leung
    Jun Leung Month ago

    because your voice , pitch a bit high, and this video was different with so beginning one, you speak slower, and listen much more comfortable, arigado!

  • LameBirb
    LameBirb Month ago

    What is a good way to say you?

  • Sarah Doll
    Sarah Doll Month ago

    This is going to be harder than I thought. .-.

  • Joanne Jeremie
    Joanne Jeremie Month ago

    You are amazing!

  • Luke M
    Luke M Month ago

    sasuga sensei!

  • Kikee Bah
    Kikee Bah Month ago

    Such an amazing teacher!! It took me a while to find the right "online class". So glad to have bumped into one of your videos!! Subscribed and proud!!

  • Voltorb ビリリダマ

    Pikachu ga daisuki desu. #pokemon #nintendo

  • Rajib Sinha
    Rajib Sinha Month ago


  • Jeffrey Rodavia
    Jeffrey Rodavia Month ago


  • Thorham
    Thorham Month ago

    No real cursing in Japanese? In Dutch we curse with god and horrible diseases.

  • The 19th Fighter
    The 19th Fighter Month ago

    What about kimi, isn't it even more colloquial than anata?

    • The 19th Fighter
      The 19th Fighter Month ago

      Thank you.

    • 中山健太郎
      中山健太郎 Month ago +1

      @The 19th Fighter It's less polite rather than more colloquial. Plus, saying kimi to someone is basically rude in real conversation same as anata.

  • Diend Zayn
    Diend Zayn Month ago Misa sensei expression..wwww

  • Oneng Boy
    Oneng Boy Month ago +1

    Hello Miss Misa,nice Japanese lesson,I love you 😘 from Chiba with love,.I'm Filipino 😅

  • Tainted Thistle
    Tainted Thistle Month ago

    Thanks so much Mina !!! I learned a lot

  • Tainted Thistle
    Tainted Thistle Month ago

    20:11 Stan stray kids

  • gogreyhound
    gogreyhound Month ago

    さすがみさせんせい。< Is this right?

  • Chiara Nottie
    Chiara Nottie Month ago +7

    "if someone calls you temee, just run" lol

  • Weeaboo Baguette
    Weeaboo Baguette Month ago +1

    Thank you for the valuable lesson, Misa-sensei ! I will make sure to apply it well !

  • Language&Learning
    Language&Learning Month ago

    So is there something else you say at the store instead of arigatou?

  • 伝家の宝刀を抜く

    Anata ga suki desu? Is that acceptable?

    • Ywoak
      Ywoak 14 days ago

      伝家の宝刀を抜く i dont think so ?
      Keep me updated if you know now

  • Hellurei hoho
    Hellurei hoho Month ago +1

    can we just talk and say sumimasen after everything to not sound rude? :)

  • AzzySunfire
    AzzySunfire Month ago +3

    What about nasai in an apology? Like "gomen nasai" ? I don't really know any japanese besides basic things though. I like your explanations in this video, especially comparing it to how westerners see and view Japanese culture (such as anime examples and debunking/Explaining those).

    • 中山健太郎
      中山健太郎 Month ago

      @AzzySunfire It's an exceptional idiom and not rude. "okaerinasai(welcome back)" and "oyasuminasai(good night)" are same. These phrases include "nasai" but you can use them without having an attitude.

    • Qbe Root
      Qbe Root Month ago

      I guess it’s the same kind of exception as “excuse me”, where you use a harsh tense as part of a set phrase so it’s actually polite? I’m only learning tho, so don’t quote me on that

  • StrategicGamesEtc
    StrategicGamesEtc Month ago


  • Wired_Lain
    Wired_Lain Month ago

    See now I'm worried a small grammatical mistake will make me sound like a delinquent lol

  • ilvanime01
    ilvanime01 Month ago

    Happy to know that I've not been saying any of these phrases wrong though I still have a lot to learn

  • あおぞらAozora_
    あおぞらAozora_ Month ago +1

    Wow no one else really explains everything as much as you do so thanks!

  • Ryan Thamrin
    Ryan Thamrin Month ago

    this is very good video! ありがとうぎざいます!勉強になります!

  • Zack 2347
    Zack 2347 Month ago +3

    My mind melted but at least I'll understand my anime a little better! Sasuga Misa-sensei! Arigatou-gozaimasu!

  • Lobsel Vith
    Lobsel Vith Month ago

    Japanese is the most かわいい language in the world...

  • Lobsel Vith
    Lobsel Vith Month ago


  • Lobsel Vith
    Lobsel Vith Month ago

    Now Sayaka's jumping scene in the sencond season of Kakegurui makes a lot more sense...

  • Tan Szi Ken
    Tan Szi Ken Month ago

    after finishing Raids in FFXIV, the Japanese players i play with always type in chat お疲れ様でした, which i understand to be similar to congratulations(?). How does that compare to よくできました as mentioned in the video? I mean in terms of familiarity or formality.

  • W H
    W H Month ago

    Thanks for teaching certain Japanese words to either avoid and/or appropriately use.

  • Dragos Cutian
    Dragos Cutian Month ago

    with a teacher like this who wouldn't learn Japanese

  • L E I ♡
    L E I ♡ Month ago

    What about Itoshi teru (I love you)? What's the difference in meaning?
    Anyone who can answer it? 😔

    • L E I ♡
      L E I ♡ Month ago

      @中山健太郎 Oh Thank you so much! I was a bit confused because I saw one in a site that Women mainly used Itoshi teru as a way to say I love you.
      It's weird cuz I don't know anyone who uses that so I guess I just got confused. I'm still learning Thank you so much for helping me 😊

    • 中山健太郎
      中山健太郎 Month ago +1

      @L E I ♡ It doesn't make sense because "itoshiteru" doesn't exist in Japanese language
      I guess you misunderstand a word "愛してる" also can be read as "itoshiteru" because a kanji "愛" can be read as "あい:ai" or "いと(しい):ito(shii)", but a word "愛してる" can be read as only "aishiteru"
      Basically, a KANJI has several readings, but a WORD has only a reading excepting some words

  • Durga B.budha
    Durga B.budha 2 months ago


  • Hero
    Hero 2 months ago

    what about gomen-nasai? should i instead say gomen-kudasai? i think i heard it like this somewhere but gomen-nasai seems to me like the most common use

    • 中山健太郎
      中山健太郎 Month ago

      @Hero It's one of a exception because it's an idiom. So you can say "gomennasai".
      Plus, "gomenkudasai" is an idiom, too. It means "May I come in?". That's why you can not use it instead of "gomennasai".

  • Jazmyne McQualter
    Jazmyne McQualter 2 months ago

    This is really helpful, there are some phrases I've been using here in Japan that I didn't realise were rude/awkward so thank you for enlightening me!

  • Nanami Suzuki
    Nanami Suzuki 2 months ago

    I hope this was the right way of typing it. I tried to express my gratitude for native speakers as well.

  • jinny82
    jinny82 2 months ago

    My ex boyfriend always said "aishiteru" to me, and I was like "oh ... * hysterical laugh*" ... he was the japanese =_=