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  • Published on Feb 17, 2019
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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    'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick
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  • Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell

    We designed a poster on this topic as well. You can find it here: standard.tv/collections/in-a-nutshell/products/in-a-nutshell-loneliness-poster

    • Itz Juan
      Itz Juan Day ago

      +PeeweeTheKiwi WHAT

    • Arman Çatalkaya
      Arman Çatalkaya Day ago

      No cure ...loneliness

    • Thanet Phoumsavanh
      Thanet Phoumsavanh 9 days ago

      Can you please do a Video Based on How to Win Friends And Influence People please it will help SOOOO many people

    • Itz Juan
      Itz Juan 9 days ago

      You should do something similar with the thumbnail, it's pretty good imo

    • Appelden Lim
      Appelden Lim 11 days ago

      *I have never recieve any invitation before*

  • t masajha
    t masajha 3 hours ago

    すばらしい動画をありがとう。

  • E A
    E A 3 hours ago

    Fantastic work. You guys are much better than many multi millions budget tv shows. Your artworks, your narrative and your topics make fly every time.
    I think this video it’s literally the best video I ever watched in 13 years of TVclip. It really should be shown in schools all over the world.
    I’ll definitely start supporting you soon

  • James Furey
    James Furey 4 hours ago

    Not always. Some people are introverts and are content just communicating through computers.

  • Zumorukito Memori
    Zumorukito Memori 5 hours ago

    i need more links for studying this topic

  • plato
    plato 6 hours ago

    HE MANAGED TO DESCRIBED THE OVERPROTECTIVE BEHAVIOR PERFECTLY! I WAS TRYING SO HARD TO EXPLAIN THIS TO MYSELF.

  • SuitYogi
    SuitYogi 6 hours ago

    Thank you for this video. I am currently studying neuroscience philosophy and cognition, and also the yogic sciences. My insights brought up these thoughts as an answer to this video:
    Are we not always alone, and yet never alone? Everything that we experience is experienced through our sense organs, which are always outward bound. The sensory input of our senses, find themselves in our
    brain. Our brain creates an image of a reality. But this reality is
    always created in us, in our brain, and never out there. Seemingly
    everything is virtual. Everything that we know of or experience is just
    happening inside of us, sadness,happiness,anger,love,hate. So, feeling
    lonely essentially is when we cannot see what we have, who we are and
    what our potential is. So, what we feel when we feel lonely is not
    loneliness but we simply missing the sensory input of other human being. And if everything is virtual, we practically Can't be lonely because as
    long as we are alive we are connected to our body. Our body is
    somebody; so there is someone there all the time and it is YOU. How much
    attention have you really given to your precious life? Your life needs
    the most attention before anything else. Now sit up and meditate and
    become aware of the orgasmic feeling of being alive . Namaste🙏 For those of who you are interested in tools and methods to engineer yourself into well-being and I am just getting started to provide these things on my channel. I made it my mission to offer everyone the possibility to take responsibility for her/his life. I would love to have every one of you on my journey.

  • Pedro Gonçalves
    Pedro Gonçalves 7 hours ago

    This video is incredible and definitely something I would have loved to see about 5 years ago. I've gotten better since then but, for different reasons, I started feeling lonely again a few months ago. Fortunately, while attempting to solve my problems with dating/meeting apps, I discovered another app that *really* helped me called *Slowly* . Basically, it's a penpal experience but completely digital!
    (this is not paid promotion or any affiliate crap btw, I just want to share something that may help people find better friends)

    You write letters to people from all parts of the world, which take different amounts of time to arrive depending on the distance between each other ( _isn't that neat?_ ). You can collect stamps, share stories, pictures, whatever you want!
    Each person has their own profile with general bits of information about themselves, like their location, the languages they speak (want to learn, practice, etc.) or their interests. You can also write your own bio (most people don't, but you definitely should!), look for profiles from a specific country/region or that share similar interests. **Another interesting thing**: there are no pictures or links to social media, only avatars (so you can only really "judge" someone based on their personality).

    My experience has been great so far! I've met people from various countries, learned so many interesting things and actually made a very good German friend there (I'm Portuguese). My experience was _probably_ better than most, because I had the opportunity to meet this person IRL and it was the best trip I've ever done!
    If you ever feel lonely and need someone to chat or vent with, let me know and we can exchange ID's

  • Captain Rex
    Captain Rex 10 hours ago

    This is what pets are for

  • Salih Saleh
    Salih Saleh 11 hours ago

    I come here and watch this video again and again when I feel lonely..

  • JXSVS
    JXSVS 12 hours ago

    The worst part my parents are spanish and very macho like, i guess i cant be soft and have feelings these days... Sad

  • JXSVS
    JXSVS 12 hours ago +1

    I am so lonely

  • Leather Face
    Leather Face 15 hours ago

    INFJ introvert: what loneliness ?

  • Asiana Grant
    Asiana Grant 18 hours ago

    i feel sad bc im lonely thx for expaing loneness

  • JPedro Cardoso
    JPedro Cardoso 18 hours ago

    I live in brazil. Here, we are so social, we are old life style.

  • Jacob Mace
    Jacob Mace 19 hours ago +1

    *how ironic to have this 3 days after valentines* (aka the day where a lot of losers like me feel the loneliest)

  • Valentino M
    Valentino M 22 hours ago

    AMAZING. Thank you for all of your video guys, but this one in particular.

  • 심심한궤짝
    심심한궤짝 22 hours ago

    I'm lonley*

  • ala.ba7
    ala.ba7 22 hours ago

    7:42 is the saddest part of the video. It reminds me how everybody has forsaken me and forgot about me

  • projectill
    projectill 22 hours ago

    One of your best videos yet.

  • Jonathan Chriqui

    My life in a nutshell :(

  • shisui uzumaki
    shisui uzumaki Day ago +1

    I love dog's so much

  • Joseph Christian Cua

    GREAT VIDEO!!

  • melvin george
    melvin george Day ago +6

    *How lonely are you?*


    Me: *Table tennis for one*

  • Janel Hathaway
    Janel Hathaway Day ago +3

    Thank you for this. And doing topics on mental health. It was seriously the perfect time to see this. We are all here to connect and grow together.

  • Niyi Aguaze
    Niyi Aguaze Day ago +1

    What if the loneliness is triggered because of preventing yourself to feel the pain of losing a loved one again?

  • Staggeredgore99
    Staggeredgore99 Day ago +2

    I had to watch this more than one time to solve my lonliness

    • 我是名字
      我是名字 7 hours ago

      Staggeredgore99 same,try searching a song called Forgettable, I hope it helps

  • Xbox needs help
    Xbox needs help Day ago

    I'm only lonely because I hate people. Never met a real humen being. Just another fake copycat.

    • Xbox needs help
      Xbox needs help Day ago +1

      +Lee Clark it's hard to explain. And I will proberly be called sexist or racist aswell lol.

    • Lee Clark
      Lee Clark Day ago

      As long as you hate everyone equally, but once you hate selectively, they will call you prejudice. Lol

  • JoyDeparted
    JoyDeparted Day ago

    Me: Want to go for a coffee during lunch?
    Female co-worker: I have a boyfriend
    Guess i'll just have lunch alone?

  • Luke Beevers
    Luke Beevers Day ago

    Thank you. I hope I will properly take the advice.

  • Olio Di Palma
    Olio Di Palma Day ago +1

    5:36 finally some good fucking news

  • Mike Barrett
    Mike Barrett Day ago +1

    Lonely pretty much all the time, at the point. This life is kinda meh, tbh

  • you
    you 2 days ago

    All the soyboys in the comment section complaining about how they're lonely lol

  • Y2Kvids
    Y2Kvids 2 days ago

    I am not alone , I have You . ....Tube.

  • ismail erradi
    ismail erradi 2 days ago +4

    Video : *you're not the only one*
    Me : *Happiness noises*

  • Rado's CS SHIT POST
    Rado's CS SHIT POST 2 days ago

    The most beautiful channel ever made .

  • Talazzz
    Talazzz 2 days ago

    I cried when I watch this and yeah... loneliness can kill well it can make you want kill yourself

  • francis santos
    francis santos 2 days ago

    I thought I will get hurt by this video but I am wrong. In fact I am feeling happy about it because I know I on the right track. Maybe no one will read this, but as the video said we need to be vulnerable and open up a bit, even no one will notice. So thanks for the video Kurzgesagt - In a Nutshell

  • Shailaja Dubey
    Shailaja Dubey 2 days ago +5

    i can link to all stuff you said
    i am very lonely in my heart and my mind i cant think of anything **(

    • JXSVS
      JXSVS 12 hours ago +2

      Same

  • maverick
    maverick 2 days ago

    다 좋은데 마지막 전문의 와의 상담은
    우리나라정서엔 좀 안맞음
    나도 우울증때문에 정신과병원을 다녀봤지만
    그냥 약만 처방해주거나
    아아 그냥 우울증이네 ㅎ 하면서
    하찮고 귀찮다고 표현하는 경우가 많았음
    본인이 제대로 된 전문의를 못만난걸수도 있지만
    전문의도 사람이기 때문에 좀 더 신중해야 할 필요가 있음

  • Thomas the Train
    Thomas the Train 2 days ago +3

    Me: I'm so lonely.
    Everybody else: Then don't be alone.
    Me: omg why did I not think of that. Absolute genius.

    • Thomas the Train
      Thomas the Train 2 days ago

      What's even worse is they don't understand my sarcasm :/

  • Locos World
    Locos World 2 days ago

    Why are ur videos so deep and beautiful??

  • Ken Agrawal
    Ken Agrawal 2 days ago

    My only best friend for the last 11-12 years has been my mirror.

  • Agata Ziętek
    Agata Ziętek 2 days ago

    I used to feel lonely for most of my life. Then I met my best friend and for two years I didn't feel lonely at all. But now we grew up and we have way less time for each other and I'm back to feeling lonely on a regular basis. But now I realize that it can be different for me and that's valuable

  • Shrek 697
    Shrek 697 2 days ago

    This helped me with my brake up

  • Momma Chimichanga
    Momma Chimichanga 2 days ago

    Sometimes I tell my mother about how my elementary school life was and she tells me to stop a lot because it makes her sad a worried...

  • Lurchnblue70
    Lurchnblue70 2 days ago +1

    Loneliness is my only friend and I'm quite happy with him being so!
    UwU

  • milk
    milk 2 days ago

    i felt lonely watching this

  • Zg Zg
    Zg Zg 2 days ago

    So relatable...

  • Pinochet
    Pinochet 2 days ago +2

    This made me feel tiny, and of all the many people in the world, my problems are one of the many, many, many problems others are dealing with

  • Richard Edwards
    Richard Edwards 2 days ago

    Courts co zat is How you pronounce it

  • Nom Nom Nom
    Nom Nom Nom 2 days ago

    Bahkan sebelum mencoba nya aku tahu akan ada penolakan, tapi aku tetap mencoba dan hasilnya ditolak oleh mereka ketika aku ingin mencoba. Kenapa bisa begitu? I'm so sad :(

  • Ash Gibson
    Ash Gibson 2 days ago

    Plus it's not the fact I'm afraid to meet people but each time I have tried to befriend people I get let down, one person said for 2 weeks yup were going to this movie fundraiser and then 10 min before the movie she messages me to say she cant go cos she like still hadn't had dinner? Fucking bullshit reason and then so far others who have offered to do things never follow through. If you havent got family or a partner or children seems like mostly everyone else has.. got their own thing going on..

  • Ash Gibson
    Ash Gibson 2 days ago

    It's even harder when you havent got any family left and you're dealing with a life time of loss, bullying, abuse, rejection, heartache, and no money to do anything.

  • Commander Kizza
    Commander Kizza 3 days ago +1

    this is actually pretty true from what ive experienced. been bullied, have trouble with social interactions, my best friend moved away, i have 2 online friends and 1 friend that isnt really the best kind of friend. its not that easy living like this

    • who am i
      who am i Day ago

      Commander Kizza yeah had similar started overly focusing on others thinking all their actions where negative towards me

  • Yen Pox
    Yen Pox 3 days ago

    Utterly relatable. Good video!

  • Joeyo Liban
    Joeyo Liban 3 days ago

    Everytime i feel lonely.

  • Steve's Sketches
    Steve's Sketches 3 days ago

    A few of the silouttes throughout the video are mildly pixelized, it may require a fix. Regardless, this video is amazing!

  • 김동영
    김동영 3 days ago

    저는 영어를 잘 못합니다
    제 문제가 뭔지 돌아보게 됬어요
    감사합니다. 이렇게 귀한 영상을 만들어주셔서...
    눈물이 핑 돕니다. 다시 세상에 도전해볼 용기를 얻었습니다. 고맙습니다
    Thank you
    so much

  • Johnny Depp Emma Watson

    I'm stucked.
    That is too hard to fix.
    Specially when you don't have any friends or you're not sure if they like to be a friend for you

    • 我是名字
      我是名字 7 hours ago

      Try searching a song called Forgettable, I hope it helps

  • Johnny Depp Emma Watson

    Any INTJs here??

  • Shreeya Mittal
    Shreeya Mittal 3 days ago

    How about if you're lonely and fine with being that way? 'Coz I like my label as a social stigma.

  • Jorge Rojas Vargas
    Jorge Rojas Vargas 3 days ago +3

    This is by far one of your best videos, guys. You are straight up awesome.

  • Brandon Fraire
    Brandon Fraire 3 days ago

    Thanks kurgasak

  • TheOperamore
    TheOperamore 3 days ago

    Did she just spit at 2:59 ? lol

  • Mr. Jin
    Mr. Jin 3 days ago

    Loneliness is apart of my biology well that part is a pretty big part

  • KunniK
    KunniK 3 days ago +1

    Too busy with romance for friends? now there's a problem I want to have

  • Punto Of Mystery
    Punto Of Mystery 3 days ago

    The most relatable thing I’ve ever seen.
    I moved to a new area and was bullied relentlessly for just 2 years at the age of 15; I’d never been singled out before and it hit me like a truck. I lashed out at all my old friends in response because I was jealous that they still got to hang out and do stuff regularly while I was too far away and constantly alone with only my older tormentors.
    over the last 13 years, I’ve done well- I have my own business with clients in four countries, travel overseas at least twice a month, am what many folks consider aesthetically attractive, am out in nature any chance I get, am exceptionally fit and healthy... Yet I have no friends, nobody to go for a drink or to the movies with and I’m perpetually single. That first massive rejection has stuck with me; I cross the street if I see a human approaching, wear headphones constantly in public, cannot maintain eye contact unless I’m in a work related interaction in which case I put on my “mask” and every time I do go out to socialise, I end up sitting paralysed with fear in total silence for hours until suddenly jumping up and leaving having not spoken to a soul. I genuinely believe there’s no point in talking to anyone because they won’t like me anyway. By isolating myself I’ve come to believe I’m boring with no humour, nothing to add to the conversation that nobody else can’t say better than me and that because im not bubbly people would much rather talk to more extroverted company. I constantly get asked why I’m single, why I don’t seem to have any close or old friends and the truth is I’m terrified. I’m terrified of people and I’m terrified of rejection. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone, it’s truly crippling.

  • Lydia Viator
    Lydia Viator 3 days ago

    hm well i've never made one friend in my life face to face before so i might as well get cancer any time soon

  • Smile Smile
    Smile Smile 3 days ago

    猫になりたい

  • bentherusho
    bentherusho 3 days ago

    This is what happened to me, so much I had dark thoughts. With help I'm much better now but I still struggle with social interactions but that's due to an underlying condition.

  • MrFlux Pavilion
    MrFlux Pavilion 3 days ago

    lmao after watching this i get the urge to leave the house and try to be more sociable but then after i do leave the house and im just as lonely outside as i am when im inside.then feel even more shitty when i see all the people walking around laughing with friends Hits right in the Feels.

  • Dr Stingray
    Dr Stingray 3 days ago

    I know this is sudden and random, but what is being lonely?


    Is it having human company?
    Or is it communicating with another being or interacting with it.
    We are never truly lonely.
    Matter revolves around us, YOU are matter.....sooo why do we feel lonely....?
    Emotions?
    Or is it just the 'thought' or 'feeling' of never being heard?
    I dont know exactly, but that's my take on what being 'lonely' could be.

  • Roberto Sanchez
    Roberto Sanchez 3 days ago

    This channel is over-hyped.

  • Frogs David
    Frogs David 3 days ago

    Subscribe if pewdiepie

  • master master
    master master 3 days ago

    You all have no clue what loneliness rly is...

  • Xane Graphics
    Xane Graphics 3 days ago

    I really really love this channel

  • pranav vardhan
    pranav vardhan 4 days ago +1

    Nice timing i realy lost for a day becos of loneliness tq

  • Leon Schuring
    Leon Schuring 4 days ago +1

    All you need in life is Jesus, you will never feel alone.

  • Владимир Жиров

    I like it!!!!!

  • Tasha5551
    Tasha5551 4 days ago

    Such an eye opening video. I didn't even realise it but I've experience loneliness so so long and haven't been able to identify it

  • Gulraiz Farrukh
    Gulraiz Farrukh 4 days ago

    this is literally fuckin me

  • Richard Taylor
    Richard Taylor 4 days ago

    This makes me think of my depression

  • Dillandash58
    Dillandash58 4 days ago

    I 👏🏻 want 👏🏻 a 👏🏻 face 👏🏻 reveal! 👏🏻

  • Damian Stonquist
    Damian Stonquist 4 days ago

    This is one of the most amazing and helpful videos I've seen. I've felt suffocated by this for so long now and all the negative emotions/thoughts/perspectives/assumptions I've been experiencing have become second nature, to the point that it's engrained in my personality and I was blind to identify the root cause. Thank you a million times, Kurzgesagt, for opening my mind to myself and pushing to open my heart to others.

  • music blue
    music blue 4 days ago +1

    That's how I feel in the inside and outside like if you Feel the same unlike if you don't feel it

  • Jesus Sosa
    Jesus Sosa 4 days ago +3

    I have no friends and had no friends for my whole life

  • Farah Louis
    Farah Louis 4 days ago

    This is deep

  • Ashley Hart
    Ashley Hart 4 days ago

    Thank you for this video.. it really opened my eyes

  • suga glider ;-;
    suga glider ;-; 4 days ago +7

    I've been lonely all my life I struggle with things like
    . Anxiety
    . Social anxiety
    . Im Socially awkward
    . Low self esteem
    . I struggle to make friends
    . I dont make eye contact
    . I struggle to simply go into a shop and buy something
    . I think that everyone is judging me for everything and every fukcing action I do
    I'm still trying to overcome these things and I'm going to get a counselor, I hate this part of my life...which sadly is about 80% of it.
    I mean I have friends but funnily enough we are all exactly the same, we joined together as almost the rejects. Where all really kind to each other and look after each other and stick up for one another if others are trying to tack the piss out of us.
    The fact that I'm still in high school scared me and I'm worried how I'll manage when I'm older...

  • Urbaaniapina
    Urbaaniapina 4 days ago

    One Finnish song ones said. "It's pointless waiting to hear the gunshot when loneliness will carve the same hole". If someone didn't catch the message. It talks about suicide.

  • Josh Mccartie
    Josh Mccartie 4 days ago

    I DEMAND A COLAB BETWEEN KURZGESAGT AND HEADSPACE

  • Jakob Morales
    Jakob Morales 5 days ago

    Oh darn...I need to get help

  • ALI SANTA
    ALI SANTA 5 days ago

    Every single day , i feels lonely ,and every single day, i try to talk to poeple , its end up with me to be more lonely .........it's really hurt 💔💔

    • Husham Fusion
      Husham Fusion 3 days ago +2

      Sadly, a lot of people have deviated from what was thought to be morally right. Jerks are everywhere and people are simply egocentric. That's just the way things are, and I've learned to live with it. I want to change it, but it seems like I unfortunately just never get an opportunity.

  • FanelliFilms
    FanelliFilms 5 days ago

    I shouldn’t have watched videos about Evangelion today

  • Muffin Grande
    Muffin Grande 5 days ago

    All of the comments here are genius

  • First Name Last Name

    I got a headspace ad about loneliness

  • UnderBridge Rock
    UnderBridge Rock 5 days ago

    I feel lonely and complacent, Salt Lake City has made me dislike mormons and avoid there interaction. This isn't healthy. I should just play it simple and move somewhere that doesn't isolate me. I'm not Buddha or Jesus Christ, these people require that level of patients and I only wake up perfect a couple days a week.

  • winner winner chicken dinner

    I cried while watching this. So much work and effort just to make this video. I can attest that it made an impact on me.

  • Ajit V. Pai
    Ajit V. Pai 5 days ago

    god i relate to every second of this video on a molecular level it's scary but it also makes so much sense how things are connected