The secret to self control | Jonathan Bricker | TEDxRainier

  • Jonathan Bricker's work has uncovered a scientifically sound approach to behavior change that is twice as effective as most currently practiced methods. His new methods are driving new norms and new apps for how people quit smoking and decrease obesity, saving many people from an early death.
    Jonathan Bricker is an internationally recognized scientific leader in a bold approach called acceptance and commitment therapy. A Stanford researcher called his use of the approach “a breakthrough in behavioral research [that] has major public health implications for the major causes of preventable death.” Bricker and his team, having received $10 million in total federal research grants to study this topic, are rigorously testing this intervention on multiple platforms, including smartphone apps, websites, and telephone coaching. His SmartQuit app for quitting smoking was recently launched and is now in distribution worldwide.

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Comments • 86

  • Chanda Raina
    Chanda Raina 7 hours ago

    This ideas inspire me to come out many problem
    .thanks a lot🙂

  • Sao-Khue Nguyen
    Sao-Khue Nguyen 13 hours ago

    okay but can we appreciate that amazing audience

  • Qi Huna
    Qi Huna Day ago

    *Embrace it, you're not seeking to control, you're seeking balance and letting go by surrendering the unknown to the benefit of a doubt\divine outcome!!*

  • Shubham Waghe
    Shubham Waghe Day ago

    Well well well....look who's copying the ideas from east .... particularly from Hindu and Buddhist monks...
    Anyway it's good that it's reaching people without the tag of any religion!

  • sanket Kumar sahu

    15:05 thats NAMASTE 😆

    BLACK SUNFLOWER 2 days ago

    :30 n now she come back racing from mars😉

  • Olive Retreat in Thailand and Spain

    itself This is so good, and the way ayurveda recommends to detox our minds .... when you observe yourself w LOVE it goes away by 💚

  • Mia Maria
    Mia Maria 3 days ago

    That’s cognitive therapy :)

  • Shw .k.
    Shw .k. 3 days ago

    دا انت راجل بضاان

  • Diễm My Official
    Diễm My Official 4 days ago

    Very nice talk

  • grace schawan
    grace schawan 4 days ago

    no one : girls on their periods after watching this video: “i accept my craving...i am at peace with my craving” *5 mins later* *eats entire pint of ice cream*

  • Jane Doe
    Jane Doe 4 days ago

    Oh no I want to smoke now I must deal with this craving and make peace with. Excellent talk, I have been in search of a different point of view maybe this will save my life.

  • Denver Wood
    Denver Wood 5 days ago


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    Albert Santos 6 days ago


  • Squidward Tortellini

    Boy i hope ion make it to be as old as this weirdo

  • Arakon1
    Arakon1 9 days ago

    Jeez, this guy's tone of voice is so fake, it's creepy

  • earthpet
    earthpet 9 days ago

    "It's called 'willingness'"...Nope. I'm done. Pseudoscience. My willingness thinks your willingness is B.S. (Bogus Science).

  • Phant0mGetsuga993
    Phant0mGetsuga993 10 days ago

    I have enough control to finish this video and I have ADHD. If I can do it, so can you friends.

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  • Aaradhya Thakare
    Aaradhya Thakare 11 days ago

    13:19 , Thanks me later

  • Keith WOLF Hoskin
    Keith WOLF Hoskin 13 days ago

    GREAT VIDEO 👍💪💯... I'm 32 months sober now

  • Zuchtsau
    Zuchtsau 13 days ago

    Basically cravings are distractions, to get away from a true feeling, we can't accept. 1) Accept the feeling. 2) understood yourself feeling it & be kind to yourself like to the person you love the most. This reduced the intensity. 3) Embrace your feelings, they are part of you, use them as a means/ an inner force that drives & supports you to get what you really want to change...admit to yourself what you want. 4)If you don't really want it...find a way in the middle, that seems very acceptable to you...

  • Mohd. Zaid Khan
    Mohd. Zaid Khan 16 days ago

    Thank You sir

  • Miguel Amado
    Miguel Amado 19 days ago

    this dude used ancient concepts from oriental contemplative traditions, namely meditation, and tried to give an innovative, modern and funny look. weak and criticizable. Basically a cheap plagiarist. Want to know more about it? Look for Buddhist thoughts about it on TVclip. The real thing.

  • Tharindu De Silva
    Tharindu De Silva 21 day ago

    One of the best ted talks ever watched.

  • Casa Verde Pet Resort
    Casa Verde Pet Resort 24 days ago

    I like that he seems sincere and charismatic, but I do not relate to any of his suggestions at all. To me, this is all very useless.

  • Zaq Q
    Zaq Q 25 days ago

    I didn’t have enough self control to getting up early to read to finish my work at deadlines

  • S J
    S J 25 days ago


  • phyllis guitard
    phyllis guitard 27 days ago

    Have no will power being an emotional and binge eater

  • Tobias Dont matter
    Tobias Dont matter 29 days ago

    This is literally the epitome of meditation

  • Arc Riley
    Arc Riley Month ago

    He's too pretentious to watch. Maybe next he can make an app to help practice humility.

    • OP87
      OP87 6 days ago

      Actually I think he's nervous and wants to connect with his audience (you can hear his deep inhalations, from an increased heart rate) - kind of the opposite of pretentious and lacking in humility. Your comment on the other hand...

  • OP87
    OP87 6 days ago

    Actually I think he's nervous and wants to connect with his audience (you can hear his deep inhalations, from an increased heart rate) - kind of the opposite of pretentious and lacking in humility. Your comment on the other hand...

  • KrystaBaby
    KrystaBaby Month ago

    "And it's not Ebola"

  • Jeff Fulton
    Jeff Fulton Month ago

    Anyone who practices Mindful Meditation will find this video echoes its teachings. Shout out to Sam Harris's Waking Up app.

  • Arihant Jain
    Arihant Jain Month ago

    pure bakchodi hai
    totally nonsense

  • D. Lewis
    D. Lewis Month ago

    I disagree with his analogy. Craving monster is more like an annoying little brother who trues to take your homework from you. If you swipe it from him, you will only rip your essay!

  • Richard Hostetler
    Richard Hostetler Month ago

    God damn Ebola joke hahahaha

  • Jerry Rockstone
    Jerry Rockstone Month ago

    I cry when he say at 14.54 😫 because it true..

  • Myriam Tuttle
    Myriam Tuttle Month ago

    Aw so helpful and touchingly humane. Thank you


    Give Me this cookie Johnathan

  • Hollie Jennifer Parry

    This man is about to change my life for good.

    JIN MING CHONG Month ago

    Your willpower determine your way to success, it can’t be truer

  • Tripti Gupta
    Tripti Gupta Month ago

    Such a profound message delivered in such a simple, natural and engaging way!! I have struggled with this craving monster followed by the criticism monster all my life but I know better now! Will try this next time I am tempted to open a packet of chips to de-stress myself.
    Thank you for sharing this!

  • James Connor
    James Connor Month ago

    So we looked at the data...

  • Akshdeep Kaur
    Akshdeep Kaur Month ago

    This helped me so much thank u 🙏

  • Yoneek Scott
    Yoneek Scott Month ago

    Omw Excellent. I this is one of the most original approaches that I have heard.

  • umesh bansal
    umesh bansal Month ago

    Wow this video is amazing

  • Emergency Multimedia

    Thank You Jonathan. I watched this video in 2014 and I have been using and teaching what I call the create space technique I learned from you in this video ever since. I couldn't for the life of me remember where i learned it from and finally some closure. Thanks again for such a powerful speech.

  • Muhammad Safwan
    Muhammad Safwan Month ago

    He reminds me of the guy who gives you free strong weed in gta v

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    sajid hussain 2 months ago

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  • tommy tintorri
    tommy tintorri 2 months ago

    Can I get my 15 minutes back, you literally said a whole lot of nothing

  • Liz Beth
    Liz Beth 2 months ago

    That's not the secret to self control. It's just the knowledge and awareness that you have cravings and still not to give in to those cravings. How does that stop you from giving in to the cravings??????? I know I have cravings. I think about what I'm thinking when I have cravings. Then I have what the cravings want me to have because the cravings are too strong. Still not any further looking at this video.

  • Connor Szita Marshall
    Connor Szita Marshall 2 months ago

    Don't forget addiction #1 for most people these days (including myself): THE INTERNET

  • Sci-fi Ship Controller
    Sci-fi Ship Controller 2 months ago

    I have 0 self control. Just paused this video to enjoy another more pleasant video, ended up with 8 opened youtube pages... But hey! I did return. To write this comment.

  • nick281972
    nick281972 2 months ago

    Very similar to mindfulness in buddhism.

  • Cristina Parovel
    Cristina Parovel 2 months ago

    really worth to watch but even more to practice

  • Let Go
    Let Go 2 months ago

    @3:00 👌

  • Liby Rodriguez
    Liby Rodriguez 2 months ago

    boring slow and too dark

  • gerey villaester
    gerey villaester 2 months ago

    The worst ted talk ever

  • m brights
    m brights 2 months ago

    For me the most valuable part starts at 10:41. It enables you to get perspective on what you are "experiencing" and that's the first step!

  • Baby Bruce
    Baby Bruce 2 months ago

    I quit cigs cuz I had a why. I lost 50 pounds and want to loose about 15 to 20 more because I have a why . Find your reason why to do something and you’ll get it done

  • Brian Sounalath
    Brian Sounalath 2 months ago

    This guy talks too slow and this wasn’t very helpful

  • Preston Gearin
    Preston Gearin 2 months ago

    interesting video, gonna smoke a cig about it

  • For Real
    For Real 2 months ago

    Thank god for the comments
    Some people are just not that good at getting a point across in a few minutes. Unless it’s an interesting story, I really don’t want to always hear about some random story that doesn’t explain anything

  • Harika korrapati
    Harika korrapati 2 months ago

    I agree but also don't agree

  • Focus Media
    Focus Media 2 months ago

    I too don't agree but agree

  • Miuran Muraz
    Miuran Muraz 2 months ago

    10:34 and 13:20

  • Lu Anders
    Lu Anders 2 months ago

    As a musical fan, i was LIVING when he sang Turn It Off.

    • Focus Media
      Focus Media 2 months ago

      Awesome dude! Wooooooowwwee 🤟

  • Focus Media
    Focus Media 2 months ago

    Awesome dude! Wooooooowwwee 🤟

  • petipo
    petipo 2 months ago

    i don't really get it. I don't see this being helpful at all.

  • John Smith
    John Smith 2 months ago

    Krishnimurti has a great video on 'breaking habits' that says it all....

  • John Smith
    John Smith 2 months ago

    discipline doesn't exist...a sense of direction does...discipline, if it exists, turns to obsession once engaged....decision exists but not 'choice'

  • Tara KC
    Tara KC 2 months ago

    I didn't get anything out of this particular Ted Talk. A lot of babble and talking in circles. No relevant info whatsoever. Silliness.

  • adrian ovidiu Colceriu
    adrian ovidiu Colceriu 2 months ago

    allen carr is the master of this: "easy way to stop smoking"

    PAR PATREQ 2 months ago

    BORROWED IDEAS! These disciplines are thousands of years old, but as usual, someone wants to lay claim to them as their “discovery”. Buddhism, Daoism, or Taoism, and the Ancient Egyptians practiced self-disciplines of observing without reaction.

    • Focus Media
      Focus Media 2 months ago

      To think about your cravings/thoughts/ideas/inside voice , it's natural human instinct. Which all functional humans go through probably no less than 50 times a day!

  • Focus Media
    Focus Media 2 months ago

    To think about your cravings/thoughts/ideas/inside voice , it's natural human instinct. Which all functional humans go through probably no less than 50 times a day!

  • winterton
    winterton 2 months ago

    Really good!!!! Thank you. 🙏💐

  • guitaro5000
    guitaro5000 2 months ago

    Wait, so it's not Ebola?

  • Naimul Islam
    Naimul Islam 2 months ago

    We actually started smoking to experience the pain we get from smoke, now without smoke we experience the pain (craving).. so just enjoy the cravings (FREE OF COST) :D

    • Focus Media
      Focus Media 2 months ago

      Are you related to TVclipr MoneyKicks ?

  • Focus Media
    Focus Media 2 months ago

    Are you related to TVclipr MoneyKicks ?

  • Angela Oravec
    Angela Oravec 2 months ago

    "The secret to self-control is give up control." Letting go. To stop fighting yourself. To allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling and take it in as part of the human condition. That really, really spoke to me.

  • Tarun Jaiswal
    Tarun Jaiswal 2 months ago

    Am I the only one who think he looks like Dr curt Connors from the amazing Spider-Man

    • Focus Media
      Focus Media 2 months ago

      Yhhaaa man , I think you might be the only one! Your thought is pretty unique bro! Awesome 🤟

  • Focus Media
    Focus Media 2 months ago

    Yhhaaa man , I think you might be the only one! Your thought is pretty unique bro! Awesome 🤟

  • Cool_Le_Moose
    Cool_Le_Moose 2 months ago

    I did practice this technique and its amazing how well it works: everytime you feel anxious or sad or depressed or some irrational thoughts enter your head, open your arms and welcome it into your heart. Say it out loud: “dear craving, I can’t control you, come in, you are welcome to stay as long as you want or you can go whenever you want. You will always be a part of me and I’m ok with that.” This might sounds like some esoteric whoowhoo advice, but it’s not. It’s je actually how the the human psyche works: by not resisting these feelings or thoughts and just observing them as if you were looking from a distance, you remove all powere these feelings have over you. It takes some training but it’s worth it.

  • Spanish Montana
    Spanish Montana 2 months ago

    If you can watch the full video you have mastered self control

  • Dizziemiss Lizzie
    Dizziemiss Lizzie 2 months ago

    The secret to self control is to give up control. I saved you almost a whole video of boredom. You're welcome.