How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

  • Published on Jun 10, 2019
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    After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
    On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

    4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
    4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
    6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
    6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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  • Charisma on Command
    Charisma on Command  7 months ago +599

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    • Connor Ramone
      Connor Ramone 4 months ago

      Baffulnish can even crosh over into shynesh

    • vitral es montaña
      vitral es montaña 5 months ago

      "you're an icon" it's BS, nobody is an icon, having icons is what's wrong in today's society

    • coldflame
      coldflame 7 months ago

      @5dope I am your dearest.

  • Liam Weyer
    Liam Weyer 3 hours ago

    Am I the only one here that didn’t know Dr Phil has a podcast

  • Linatrina
    Linatrina 5 hours ago

    I am her, she is me

  • Flori
    Flori 11 hours ago

    She is a liar .She is pisces

  • Carlo D.
    Carlo D. 22 hours ago

    Why does these videos make me feel like a robot learning how to interact with humans?

  • Procrastinating Owl

    Dr. Phil has a F@$#!ng podcast?!

  • Hannah Tuckness
    Hannah Tuckness Day ago

    This is so on point! Im exactly like this

  • Marissa B
    Marissa B 2 days ago

    oh cool! I’m doing things right!

  • mininjas
    mininjas 2 days ago

    "being shy but still making an effort to engage" I feel this so hard

  • Luanne Dice
    Luanne Dice 2 days ago

    Lol maybe I have social anxiety bc I don’t care about what other people talk about, I’m just interested in my own thoughts and the things I’m supposed to be doing so I can’t respond to other cuz: I’m not paying attention/ I’m not interested. 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • Luanne Dice
    Luanne Dice 2 days ago

    Why do we make out nervousness to be ‘soo terrible’. If you have feelings, congrats! You’re a human being! I think part of the problem is we try to become like people around us and get frustrated when we’re not. Just be yourself and be confident! Who right and who’s wrong? No one! For example, ppl prob feel bad for ‘feeling too much’ and having nerves- but how I see it is you’re actually passionate and that’s awesome! Personally, people who are too calm can be annoying at times! Like I’m gona question your authenticity, your will, drive/passion if you don’t have any nerves.

  • Some YouTuber
    Some YouTuber 2 days ago

    When people think celebrities don’t get nervous

  • Stefan Ionica
    Stefan Ionica 2 days ago

    Nervousness and anxiety are not the same thing

  • ☆moonbeam☆
    ☆moonbeam☆ 4 days ago

    i'd really like more charisma breakdowns with women as examples 🥺 thank youu, love this channel 👌💛

  • Lovemanga!! 1
    Lovemanga!! 1 4 days ago

    That’s what I’ve started to do

  • s
    s 4 days ago

    shes so naturally cute

  • Volatility
    Volatility 6 days ago

    Well. This is my new bible now

  • I am a Unicorn and I don't believe in Humans

    Me, an introvert, watching this: Yay I'll finally be likeable
    Me tomorrow: "Gum would be perfection"

    ¿MS CHEESECAKE? 7 days ago +1


  • julia klintsevich
    julia klintsevich 8 days ago

    Amazing channel! Thank you!!!

  • Akanksha Sharma
    Akanksha Sharma 8 days ago

    You can't apply it in Versant English test. You don't want to be vulnerable or you'll fail. 😢

  • peanut1315
    peanut1315 8 days ago

    This is gold. Thanks so much 😁

  • an inside job was 911
    an inside job was 911 9 days ago +1

    @ me next time

  • Peter M
    Peter M 10 days ago

    Hot girl having a panic attack and laughing it away = cute
    Ugly girl having a panic attack and laughing at away = crazy cat lady

  • NeidaJ Gay
    NeidaJ Gay 10 days ago

    Hahaha I do that.

  • Wadya Hrh
    Wadya Hrh 10 days ago

    Plz make a video about Emma Stone 💓

  • Freddy Bo Beddy
    Freddy Bo Beddy 11 days ago

    What I need to work on is when I recognize I've made the situation uncomfortable with my awkwardness, I try to apologize for it. I've gotta break that habit, and just move on. My judgment is so clouded with my own awkwardness that I fail, in the moment, to see how uncomfortable of a position I'm putting the other person in.

  • Madeline Schmidt
    Madeline Schmidt 12 days ago

    I have a date tomorrow so I’m binge watching all of the anxiety episodes. Bless.

  • StarlightxSlasher224
    StarlightxSlasher224 12 days ago

    I’ve said this before with these videos, but I really needed and love this video. I’m already pretty similar to this one just needed polishing up!

  • Asmita Chatterjee
    Asmita Chatterjee 13 days ago +2

    Gosh that's a lot of notes to take. I feel anxious already...

  • Alex Amazeballs
    Alex Amazeballs 14 days ago +6

    It's easy to be charismatic while being shy or having anxiety when you look like sophie turner.... js.....

  • Lydia Arlon
    Lydia Arlon 14 days ago

    I would like to understand how you got into this niche, how you thought about doing these things, cos we all watched game of thrones and I know I did not see these things until you showed it to me

  • don't, john just don't

    not sure why but I read anxiety as asthma

  • Minimalism
    Minimalism 16 days ago +6

    " How to turn anxiety to charisma "
    1. Be born good looking
    2. Number 1

  • Francisco Rivas
    Francisco Rivas 17 days ago

    I have spent months studying treating shyness naturally and discovered a great resource at Sebs Shyness Tactic (google it if you are interested)

  • Nouha
    Nouha 19 days ago

    I mean.. these techniques sound effective smh but but people want you to look good first... *crying in ugliness*

  • Bella Afina
    Bella Afina 21 day ago

    then I just realize that I use this technique-to my lecturer

  • Witty1
    Witty1 22 days ago

    I like your videos. You are a good social coach. I am going to watch more videos to learn how to improve on being more social. I am an introvert but, I think I can practice better communication skills.

  • Imelda Pear
    Imelda Pear 24 days ago

    this man is a marketing genius. His timing in introducing his sponsors is impeccable!

  • Evangeline Eden
    Evangeline Eden 24 days ago +1

    This video gives me more anxiety 😂

  • T R
    T R 26 days ago

    How tf do you get depressed as a millionaire. Probably faking

  • ewe.linko
    ewe.linko Month ago

    I honestly do this on my own not knowing that this actually helps me

  • gbmpyzochwfdisurjklvanetxq

    *Just be a celebrity bro*

  • The Geek Freak
    The Geek Freak Month ago

    I would try this but I never leave my room

  • A The IXth
    A The IXth Month ago

    Step 1: be pretty

  • rochford1000
    rochford1000 Month ago

    Why did I get the feeling there was a book involved somewhere down the line!

  • Joey Ortiz
    Joey Ortiz Month ago

    I have huge Social Anxiety and I find myself being way more charming in social situations than most of my "More Confident" counterparts however I find myself being completely self critical in the aftermath

  • moe gene
    moe gene Month ago

    everything you say is meaningless,
    your videos ruining my home page

  • Joanna Nichole
    Joanna Nichole Month ago


  • Spandan Samiran
    Spandan Samiran Month ago

    Can you do a video on Jose Mourinho charisma

  • Oppurtunafish
    Oppurtunafish 2 months ago

    Huh, my book on CBT was much different from the one described in this video

  • Toothy
    Toothy 2 months ago +1



  • pink spider
    pink spider 2 months ago

    i started repeating what people say after them , and now i sound more creepy and awkward

  • Bozz Skaggs
    Bozz Skaggs 2 months ago

    I watched the first half of the episode of GOT. I'm not familiar with Ms. Turner but she is so likable.

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  • Alena Scott
    Alena Scott 2 months ago +1

    Can you do one for Timothée Chalamet?
    Ps- love your work

  • G वात्मा
    G वात्मा 2 months ago

    I am just studying "Leonardo DiCaprio" completely . And I agree , with one point here . repeating last words . But some other of her habits you revealed are weak or unclear ...ones

  • G वात्मा
    G वात्मा 2 months ago

    I. Disliked her. Her half of whole GOT

  • adishree jain
    adishree jain 2 months ago +1

    I'm new to this channel,, and really appreciate it! The way u take examples and break things down into points is really helpful.. However one feedback, pls talk a bit slow or give a bit of a pause to process information. Also because we may not know the clips u are using for reference so it takes time to connect and understand. Also it's easier said than done, so we are also thinking Abt how that point can apply to me.