How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

  • Published on Jun 10, 2019
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    After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
    On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

    4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
    4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
    6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
    6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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  • Charisma on Command
    Charisma on Command  4 months ago +503

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    • Connor Ramone
      Connor Ramone Month ago

      Baffulnish can even crosh over into shynesh

    • vitral es montaña
      vitral es montaña 2 months ago

      "you're an icon" it's BS, nobody is an icon, having icons is what's wrong in today's society

    • coldflame
      coldflame 3 months ago

      @5dope I am your dearest.

  • victoria denny
    victoria denny 7 hours ago

    I didn't notice I was already doing this stuff lol

  • Insomnia Scrawl
    Insomnia Scrawl 13 hours ago +1

    Being awkward and being comfortable with it is so weirdly socially freeing once people get it.

  • S A
    S A 15 hours ago

    if it's about making the other person feel special then I wonder why no one does that to me and they have no problem with anxiety and shyness.

  • Rosie
    Rosie Day ago

    bruh this is so awesome

  • Laerke MA
    Laerke MA Day ago +1

    So I have to manipulate them into thinking they are smart and funny

  • R
    R Day ago

    As a girl with high functioning autism, i practice all of these! For example on a date i will just say im nervous, or when enthousiastic or shy i will just show it instead of doing an awkward attempt to hide it. I have founs people like me this way, find it charming and authentic. I try to be 'confident- in my shyness :)

  • Big Brownnugget
    Big Brownnugget Day ago

    *Sees the title*

  • R J
    R J Day ago +1

    She has such beautiful eyes.

  • CLP
    CLP Day ago

    1) Be gorgeous.

  • Imani Jade
    Imani Jade 2 days ago

    “Racing yo beat them to notice the thing before you do” okay I DID NOT ask to be read like that

  • J Mace
    J Mace 2 days ago

    Wait, why are people being mean to Sophie Turner? Sansa as written by D&D is a poorly written character.

  • Sæunn Lilja
    Sæunn Lilja 2 days ago +2

    Me: turns my anxiety into charisma

    My anxiety: wait no thats illegal

  • Alycia Wilson
    Alycia Wilson 3 days ago +2

    Omg the Justin Bieber thing is still one of the funniest things I have ever seen somebody do when meeting someone.

  • Calypso King
    Calypso King 4 days ago +2

    sophie turner is so cute ohmygod

    III II III I 4 days ago +1

    Idk how well mirroring will go.

  • Julia
    Julia 4 days ago +1

    i'm a naturally anxious person and this video was definitely helpful but it also had big alien trying to understand human behavior vibes lol

  • Jack's Anarchy
    Jack's Anarchy 4 days ago +2

    You should do a video about all these new Joaquin Phoenix interviews, he shows really good behavioral techniques.

  • wow717
    wow717 4 days ago


  • inès κ
    inès κ 4 days ago

    i think i already do most of these.... does that mean..... i may actually have some charisma?

  • Julala
    Julala 4 days ago +24

    But she isn't trying to be charismatic she just IS.

  • Youtube User
    Youtube User 5 days ago

    I watch this whole video.. but can someone wrap this up?

  • Sofia
    Sofia 5 days ago

    You should also do Jennifer Lawrence!

  • Chicken Lurkin' Yung Chihuahua

    Damn my friends know I'm shy under social pressure and they make fun of it. I hate it. All I think about was to end our friendship sometimes.

    • Youtube User
      Youtube User 5 days ago

      Chicken Lurkin' Yung Chihuahua same . Ruins my day

  • Girl With The Plumbob Tattoo

    I wonder how many sociopaths watch this channel to know how to act 😅

  • Saylin yinyang
    Saylin yinyang 5 days ago +1

    Too many ted talks about anxiety gave me this recommendation hahahaha

  • that person
    that person 5 days ago

    Wow TVclip really calling me tf out by recommending this, huh?

  • juno_p
    juno_p 6 days ago

    5:15 kylie jenner joined the chat

  • Celeste
    Celeste 6 days ago +7

    I really love Sophie. She is so charismatic and sweet, and she's an amazing actress. She is also SO gorgeous. I'll watch anything with her in it.

  • Laura Vigupe
    Laura Vigupe 6 days ago

    i think this would only work with attractive people

  • Carol Waguih
    Carol Waguih 6 days ago

    I don t like that he s comparing her to other celebreties

  • DeDe Coco
    DeDe Coco 6 days ago +1

    How to turn anxiety into charisma? Be exceptionally beautiful.

  • LaBonneSalope
    LaBonneSalope 7 days ago

    Omg it me

  • poe dam
    poe dam 7 days ago

    wow she really does like like boy george

  • turbulentbeauty
    turbulentbeauty 7 days ago

    Honestly I use a lot of these methods! People who don't know me well assume I'm very extroverted but I just have different tricks that help me. Probably 5 years ago is when I first decided to lean into my awkwardness and laugh at my social blunders. If I started to feel flustered I would purposefully be even weirder (think Aubrey Plaza) or say something snarky but obviously a joke. It would break the ice and I'd then have much less anxiety. I still get flustered sometimes but overall I'm much better socially.

  • Claire Mamo
    Claire Mamo 7 days ago

    It’s cute how the narrator says: That bashfulnesh can crosh over into shy-fulness at 2:18 💕

  • Hobii
    Hobii 7 days ago

    I love her

  • Hermès Alcazar
    Hermès Alcazar 8 days ago

    This does not work if your not thin, have asymmetrical face and idealized. Get it? This works if you're highly attractive. Do not expect to get this response if you lack in the attractiveness department.

  • Little Moth Big Wings

    I love Sophie and she is a great inspiration to me, specially after this video, but honestly is already hard to like myself, I don't really want to try to be social so ppl can like me. Maybe some day, but not now. But I loved the video!!

  • wn 1906
    wn 1906 8 days ago +1

    But I'm not funny

  • llahmitswr
    llahmitswr 8 days ago

    I think of Lana Del Rey watching this. Awkward. Anxious.

  • Mariachi Ingles
    Mariachi Ingles 8 days ago

    She's not particularly charismatic, and she doesn't need to be. People like her because she's gorgeous.

  • nefarious
    nefarious 8 days ago +1

    Counsellor: yeah uh dude you got severe anxiety
    Me, frantically rolling dice: _CHARISMA CHECK_

  • Geneva Frans
    Geneva Frans 8 days ago +1

    I feel all Pisces are like this... stay strong guys

  • A M
    A M 9 days ago


  • Cesar Ruiz
    Cesar Ruiz 9 days ago

    This is me

  • Lilique Jael
    Lilique Jael 11 days ago


  • Jodie
    Jodie 12 days ago

    Defo do Summer Walker

  • Abir Amezzane
    Abir Amezzane 12 days ago +2

    "absolute icon" lol ok

  • Leigh Mendoza
    Leigh Mendoza 12 days ago

    I do all of this naturally lol but I'm not likeable enough

  • Holly Sumner
    Holly Sumner 13 days ago +1


  • light quin
    light quin 14 days ago

    So this is why my friends said that i have the charisma meanwhile i always nervous anxious and trembling and even my hands turn cold when doing presention or performing pft

  • Ariel Rose
    Ariel Rose 14 days ago

    What a great video! Thanks :D

  • Ashna Ashna
    Ashna Ashna 14 days ago

    Do for mila Kunis.she so kind and funny

  • Vess Beckham
    Vess Beckham 15 days ago


  • Sleeping Cinderella
    Sleeping Cinderella 15 days ago +16

    she's pretty, cute, nice, funny and smart. + she's a celebrity,
    don't lie to regular people who aren't like that and don't give them a false hope

    • b king
      b king 2 days ago

      Haha welcome to this channel. It takes rich people's moods as reality.

  • Yay Yay
    Yay Yay 16 days ago

    I tried to do that and it was working till P.E class when I did sit ups and and person holding my heard me fart..

  • dylan foley
    dylan foley 17 days ago


  • Moonrise Forest
    Moonrise Forest 17 days ago

    I feel like I do these things! Yay!

  • Roberta H
    Roberta H 17 days ago +2

    She’s the most charismatic person ever, this gives me hope lol